Originally Posted by norad
I think those who had success with therapy were simply lucky and found a good therapist but overall I cannot take psychotherapy seriously or maybe I simply always came across therapists who sucked. But what already pisses me off is the underlying premise that when you're depressed or have a problem you're not clever enough to solve it and a therapist can always help you deal with it. This would mean there could never be such a thing as a depressed therapist how ridiculous is this? I am sure therapists are as messed up as ordinary people they simply sit in their chairs and act like they got it all figured out. I could do the same. Playing a smartass and giving smart advice isn't that hard. Putting it into practice and making it work is hard.
I have also come across several who seem to have no idea what they are doing, including breaking rules and being unprofessional, nevermind not understanding me (and I'm really good at explaining myself.)
But if you provoke, you have to expect (and I assume you actually want) a response. And yeah, it'll probably be negative! Are you familiar with transference and counter-transference? Sometimes I have seen that negative transference will bring on a negative, inappropriate, or unempathic response from a therapist. This will inevitably happen because they aren't perfect, BUT you just HOPE that they are professional enough, and sensitive enough, and smart enough to be able to straighten this out with you. A lot of them are not self-aware enough to even know themselves what has really happened so they can work on repairing it with you. THAT is something I've been lacking with mine. Sometimes our standards are very high for them and they will one day mess up. I have a hard time myself forgiving them, but it really should be the goal, to mend the break and continue on.
If you feel the need to provoke etc, I would think they would ask you questions about why and what you really feel, how this is related to your past, etc, and get you to feel your feelings rather than act them out. But if you are seeing someone who is not used to being in depth like that, then they won't be able or willing to do that (I'm thinking of CBT therapists are not too keen on doing this) and it will just end up being a negative experience for you of retaliation on their part. A never-ending argument....
Just my opinion based on my education, stuff I've read on my own, and experiences as a patient.