Social Anxiety Support

Atticus · 09-02-2009, 07:30 AM

I started therapy in late July. The first 3-4 sessions went well and left me feeling hopeful. I felt like I was doing something to help myself, and some of the discussions seemed to be beneficial in the short term. My good feeling might also have been from having someone's undivided attention for an hour.

Then I kind of hit a wall. On a conscious, rational level, I know how therapy works. There are some interpersonal dynamics going on, but ultimately the person seeking therapy needs to do something(s) to make any change happen. The therapy process is successful to the extent that it serves as a catalyst to change.

I seem to like the process, but not the part where I have to do something to make a difference. Knowing that this is a bit irrational doesn't prevent me from stalling the deal.

It seems to me that getting stuck, for whatever reason, is common? Does anyone else experience this feeling of being stuck? Any ideas on how to deal with it?

My only idea is to persevere, but I'm curious how other people handle these plateaus, if they have them.

britisharrow · 09-05-2009, 05:41 AM

You're hitting a wall and the only way is to climb over it or be stopped by it. This is common, that the initial therapy makes the person feel better but they begin feel doubtful and less hopefully in the middle, keep going with it if you can and you will see that on the other side of the wall you will have a better mood.

WineKitty · 09-07-2009, 08:13 AM

One day when I am brave enough to try this route I will let you know how I handle any wall that I might hit.

britisharrow · 09-07-2009, 09:20 AM

I don't understand? I'm just trying to offer a supportive reply to this person, what are you trying to do?

millenniumman75 · 09-12-2009, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by britisharrow

I don't understand? I'm just trying to offer a supportive reply to this person, what are you trying to do?

You are. I don't think that post was geared toward you.

There will be a time when you have to work at some things - that might the wall you are talking about.

WineKitty · 09-12-2009, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by britisharrow

I don't understand? I'm just trying to offer a supportive reply to this person, what are you trying to do?

That reply wasnt meant for you at all...it was meant for the OP, Atticus. Atticus and I have discussed therapy before so he knows I havent been brave enough to commit to it.

09-02-2009, 07:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	Started therapy I started therapy in late July. The first 3-4 sessions went well and left me feeling hopeful. I felt like I was doing something to help myself, and some of the discussions seemed to be beneficial in the short term. My good feeling might also have been from having someone's undivided attention for an hour. Then I kind of hit a wall. On a conscious, rational level, I know how therapy works. There are some interpersonal dynamics going on, but ultimately the person seeking therapy needs to do something(s) to make any change happen. The therapy process is successful to the extent that it serves as a catalyst to change. I seem to like the process, but not the part where I have to do something to make a difference. Knowing that this is a bit irrational doesn't prevent me from stalling the deal. It seems to me that getting stuck, for whatever reason, is common? Does anyone else experience this feeling of being stuck? Any ideas on how to deal with it? My only idea is to persevere, but I'm curious how other people handle these plateaus, if they have them. __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany

09-07-2009, 08:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
WineKitty Status: Almost 10,000 Posts :) Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alone Inside My Mind Gender: Female Posts: 9,967	One day when I am brave enough to try this route I will let you know how I handle any wall that I might hit. __________________ "The more I know about people, the better I like my dog." - Mark Twain

09-05-2009, 05:41 AM	#2 (permalink)
britisharrow Status: 3rd SAS Battalion Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Glasgow, UK Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 455	You're hitting a wall and the only way is to climb over it or be stopped by it. This is common, that the initial therapy makes the person feel better but they begin feel doubtful and less hopefully in the middle, keep going with it if you can and you will see that on the other side of the wall you will have a better mood.

09-07-2009, 09:20 AM	#4 (permalink)
britisharrow Status: 3rd SAS Battalion Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Glasgow, UK Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 455	I don't understand? I'm just trying to offer a supportive reply to this person, what are you trying to do?