Usually women will approach but what they considering approaching is essentially giving silent cues. They'll come sit near or next to you and then run their fingers throught their hair or look over at you and then look away and then look over at you. Rarely will they start the conversation but a few will. As much as it may appear that the guy should take first initiative the girl has to first give you one of these signs as an okay otherwise you better be a good talker because her guard will be elevated.
I guess I would rather approach the guy because then I would know that I would have the confidence to talk to him.
I think that most women want to be approached, though...sorry, lol.
I think it's the soceity that has made a social condition in girls for some reason not to approach so very rarely will they outright walk up to you and talk to you. Personally I like it if girls did that more, but that's just not what they do.
Well girls are all different. And nobody's going to come up to you and say they like you. They'll hint much more subtly than that, if at all.
Keep in mind that if you wait for a girl to approach you, you probably won't be dating any shy girls... if that's what you want. And some guys who wait around like that are never approached anyway, so you might be out of luck.
All Girls and Women are different. But for me I would rather a Man approach me. So atleast, I would know that they are interested in me. If they dont approach me than, they really did not want to talk to me. I have never approached a guy, probably never will. I have the fear of getting rejected to my face.
Cold approaches from women are almost unheard of. If you're waiting for that girl in the library to come up to you and ask for your phone number out of the blue, it ain't gonna happen.
Women don't operate like that. Girls never make such a direct approach. Instead they wait for a guy who they've had time to be around for a while (as in casually knowing them). And if they like him, they'll do sublte things like lightly touching his arm and being flirty and stuff like that, in hopes that he'll take the hint and make a move on her. It's very indirect.
What's been your success rate with this approach? I assume not very good. From my experience, girls just don't approach guys. I've been told by a lot of people that I'm a good looking guy, and girls never approach me.
Do you REALLY believe this after reading all the posts from all of us socially challenged guys? There are a lot of guys out there that would love to get to know you but just simply lack the ability to initiate a conversation.
Do you REALLY believe this after reading all the posts from all of us socially challenged guys? There are a lot of guys out there that would love to get to know you but just simply lack the ability to initiate a conversation.
Yeah. But I do see in a way what she might mean. How badly do we really want to get to know that girl if we can't approach her? Obviously we have this feeling somewhere in us that says we can live without getting to know her.
Now the problem for me is at least 99% of the time I'd get shut down because of the noticeable nerves and lack of social skills to a complete stranger. So even if I did approach showing that I really did want to talk to them I'd be in the same predicament that I was in before being shut down.
Then again I really don't want to talk to a girl I don't know but it is the only way you can get to know someone, lol. You have to get through the tantalizing initiation to get to the enjoyable conversations afterwards.
Wow that probably was a waste of time and space as it more than likely makes no sense, lol.
what you said makes sense scairy. for me i have an innate fear of talking to strangers (both male or female - but moreso with females), like my personal space is being invaded or something. I have to get really drunk or high for this barrier to be bought down.
Well, I usually approach guys myself. Since basically no guys approach me so I have to approach them. It's really tiring because I can't remember a time when a guy approached me, really. It's always been me approaching. I got rejected too. ****ing sucks.
It's weird because I don't ever remember learning that that's the way it's supposed to be. It's hard because when is a girl is approached, you know that you're liked, but if a guy approaches a girl, we lose face because we put it all on the line, whether you like us back or not. And what makes it worse is that these so-called signs could end up being nothing at all, or they could be misinterpreted.
If I had any advice to girls it would be to go after who you want and don't feel like you have to wait around for him to catch on.
I like to be approached because I'm afraid to go talk to guys I like (I had my first panic attack a week ago when i was going to call the guy I liked), but it can definitly go either way. Just because girls don't come strait out and say they like you doesn't mean that they don't like you. Even if she's not normally a shy girl, she may be shy about something like that. So yes, pull together all of your courage and talk to her! Because waiting around stinks (trust me, I've been waiting 6 months for this guy that i know likes me to say something, but we're both too shy). If she does like you, she'll be absolutly thrilled that you approached her! It'll make her day! I know it's hard, but don't be afraid!!
I'm just a big romantic, and believe in chivalry and the whole man-protecting-woman thing. So of couse I want to be approached. After my boyfriend and I waited two years to be together because it took us that long to say anything, he kind of complains sometimes that I didn't say anything. But hey, it worked out!
Cold approaches from women are almost unheard of. If you're waiting for that girl in the library to come up to you and ask for your phone number out of the blue, it ain't gonna happen.
Women don't operate like that. Girls never make such a direct approach.
I did. I asked this guy out a few months ago. I was petrified but he was worth the risk. I don't do flirting, I feel stupid and fake if I do it. He said no, but it was *still* worth the risk, and I've never regretted asking.
I find it hard to approach girls primarily because I usually have no basis for knowing whether or not I might even like/have anything in common with them. I've never understood how people end up finding love by random approach. I've always felt like I have to have at least a small amount of prior knowledge of what sort of person she is before I can really have meaningful conversation. I've tried random conversation with girls who caught my eye many times, and it always seems to immediately dead-end. Either there's no similarities in personality and interests, or she's already taken anyway, or she's a very outgoing and sociable person who I'd never be compatible with, etc. etc. Then again, I am a pretty obscure person so maybe it's easier for others to find commonalities with the opposite sex.
No one's ever approached me, but I'd prefer it if the guy did it. A couple of years ago I went through two months of torture as I tried to get the courage to talk to a guy in my class. I'm not going through that ever again since I made a fool of myself. :lol
I want to be approached but no guys ever approach me so basically I have to do the approaching. I hate it. No exaggeration included.
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