Social Anxiety Support

FaintOfHearts · 11-03-2009, 03:31 PM

So im in college and went to see an advisor and what do you know, shes religious to the extreme but a very happy individual. We talked more about what God can do for me than what she could. Then she started asking me questions like the ones my therapist does and I couldnt figure out why. Maybe cause I looked PO'd coming in but I always look that way. Anyway she invited me to go to service tonight.

Now I use to be very religious in my youth but as I grew up and realized that I was the only one handling my problems, I stopped believing as much. I told her this but she didnt catch my meaning or ignored it. I just noticed that she was very happy and cheerful which is what I want to be but shes just a little too focused on God and if thats what it takes to be happy then I'll just stay the way I am.

So should I give it a try? And has God helped you at all with your problems?

shadowmask · 11-03-2009, 03:38 PM

I think if you're still hesistant, and unsure about your beliefs, you should check out some positive thinking techniques first. Change your thought patterns, it's basically the same thing.

pokeherpro · 11-03-2009, 03:42 PM

I believe in God, I believe Jesus existed, I don't think he was literally the Son of God and born from a virgin that was blessed by angels, but if he was, that's cool.
For me, Jesus was just a dude that preached that if everyone loved one another, and treated everyone like we would treat our brother, sister, mother, father...treat everyone like they were you...then society would be a better place. How could anyone be against the message Jesus was preaching?

00Athena00 · 11-03-2009, 03:49 PM

I am a Christian, but being one isn't going to make your problems go away. Though my belief in God is one of the things that has kept me going for this long. I think you should go to the service. It might suck, it might be enlightening. You never know until you try. At the very least you may meet some more people and make some new connections.

I think faith is a very personal thing, so you need to make your own decisions about what is right for you.

huh · 11-03-2009, 03:51 PM

Is this a private college or something? If my advisor was like that I probably would've requested a different one...lol. I think it's really only worth a shot if you actually are religious; don't try to fake something you aren't, because it probably wont work out.

illlaymedown · 11-03-2009, 03:58 PM

That's a decision you have to make in your own heart. As for her being "too into God", I don't think God wants us to be that way....my friend who is also a Christian once told me "too much of anything is a bad thing". I'm a Christian and I find it comforting to know I'm not alone ever and I have this deep sense that is hard to explain unless you feel it that it'll all be ok in the end. I don't talk about God all day every day non stop, but I do try to involve Him and develope a relationship with him because religion is useless imo, I want a relationship. Traditions don't make a person "good", it's what's on the inside, the motives of the person

There's also a difference between being happy and being joyful. Happy is a temporary feeling that can come and go with the circumstances and joy stays even when you're hurting to the point of tears(like I said, the deep sense of it all gettng better eventually).
Should you give it a try? If that means should you follow mindless traditions or do good to get good or something of the sort then I'd say, no, it won't help you. Even the Bible(Jesus)talked about people doing "good" for the wrong motives and putting on a show for others to see...If you are interested in the slightest though, I think you should try to learn more about what it truly means to be a Christian and I'm willing to talk to you about it

I'm sure a few others on here are as well

Hope that helps you some...

FaintOfHearts · 11-03-2009, 04:02 PM

Thanks for your input everyone.

@huh: no this is public school and I wondered the same thing. But apparently there was a mishap with the system and she wont be my advisor

millenniumman75 · 11-03-2009, 04:09 PM

I am not "saintly" either, but I do acknowledge God and Jesus as being there to take my burdens when I cannot handle them - they don't give me more than I can bear.

Alys · 11-03-2009, 05:45 PM

um, Yes! God has helped me tremendously. He is the reason I have hope, the reason I can love all people and forgive. He is my strength. True, all of your problems won't disappear when you become a Christian, but God has promised to work all things together for good for all who believe. You can get through any storm with God. :-)

VanDamMan · 11-09-2009, 10:23 AM

I'm an atheist and prefer the scientific method; the one that makes cars move and SSRI mitigate SAD.

Many people have benefited from believing in Jesus though. The concept of Jesus, Buddha, Allah, Krishna, or whatever give you somewhere to turn when you've lost hope in everything else.

But believing in Jesus just to assuage your SAD seems a bit shallow, like you are using Jesus. There are two issues, your faith and your disorder.

blc1 · 11-09-2009, 03:52 PM

I hope you consider this. Do you believe human beings need a savior or are we sufficient on our own? . A christian writer once argued that the contrarieties in human nature testifies to the truth of Christianity.The christian perspective on human nature appears true; we are fallen creatures in need of divine grace, in need of a savior.

Neptunus · 11-15-2009, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by FaintOfHearts

So im in college and went to see an advisor and what do you know, shes religious to the extreme but a very happy individual. We talked more about what God can do for me than what she could. Then she started asking me questions like the ones my therapist does and I couldnt figure out why. Maybe cause I looked PO'd coming in but I always look that way. Anyway she invited me to go to service tonight.

Now I use to be very religious in my youth but as I grew up and realized that I was the only one handling my problems, I stopped believing as much. I told her this but she didnt catch my meaning or ignored it. I just noticed that she was very happy and cheerful which is what I want to be but shes just a little too focused on God and if thats what it takes to be happy then I'll just stay the way I am.

So should I give it a try? And has God helped you at all with your problems?

Ever hear the saying, "God helps those who help themselves"... or, as stated originally by Aesop:"the gods help those who help themselves." Point being - do you think you can't get better on your own without the aid of a god? YOU must first help yourself by DOING! Afterall, how else will you ever learn?!

11-03-2009, 03:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
FaintOfHearts Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Virginia Gender: Female Posts: 23	Should I accept Jesus into my life...again? So im in college and went to see an advisor and what do you know, shes religious to the extreme but a very happy individual. We talked more about what God can do for me than what she could. Then she started asking me questions like the ones my therapist does and I couldnt figure out why. Maybe cause I looked PO'd coming in but I always look that way. Anyway she invited me to go to service tonight. Now I use to be very religious in my youth but as I grew up and realized that I was the only one handling my problems, I stopped believing as much. I told her this but she didnt catch my meaning or ignored it. I just noticed that she was very happy and cheerful which is what I want to be but shes just a little too focused on God and if thats what it takes to be happy then I'll just stay the way I am. So should I give it a try? And has God helped you at all with your problems? __________________ But I'm not quite sure what this unfolds On labor day, uhhh, I'm not starting with you but the faint of heart

11-03-2009, 03:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
shadowmask Status: Seeing stars Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,082	I think if you're still hesistant, and unsure about your beliefs, you should check out some positive thinking techniques first. Change your thought patterns, it's basically the same thing. __________________ Basically, I'm complicated I have a hard time taking the easy way I wouldn't call it schizophrenia But I'll be at least two people today

11-03-2009, 03:51 PM	#5 (permalink)
huh Status: Statistical Anomaly Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: WI Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 1,037	Is this a private college or something? If my advisor was like that I probably would've requested a different one...lol. I think it's really only worth a shot if you actually are religious; don't try to fake something you aren't, because it probably wont work out. __________________ "It takes two to lie. One to lie and one to listen."

11-03-2009, 03:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 362	That's a decision you have to make in your own heart. As for her being "too into God", I don't think God wants us to be that way....my friend who is also a Christian once told me "too much of anything is a bad thing". I'm a Christian and I find it comforting to know I'm not alone ever and I have this deep sense that is hard to explain unless you feel it that it'll all be ok in the end. I don't talk about God all day every day non stop, but I do try to involve Him and develope a relationship with him because religion is useless imo, I want a relationship. Traditions don't make a person "good", it's what's on the inside, the motives of the person There's also a difference between being happy and being joyful. Happy is a temporary feeling that can come and go with the circumstances and joy stays even when you're hurting to the point of tears(like I said, the deep sense of it all gettng better eventually). Should you give it a try? If that means should you follow mindless traditions or do good to get good or something of the sort then I'd say, no, it won't help you. Even the Bible(Jesus)talked about people doing "good" for the wrong motives and putting on a show for others to see...If you are interested in the slightest though, I think you should try to learn more about what it truly means to be a Christian and I'm willing to talk to you about it I'm sure a few others on here are as well Hope that helps you some... __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-03-2009, 04:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
FaintOfHearts Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Virginia Gender: Female Posts: 23	Thanks for your input everyone. @huh: no this is public school and I wondered the same thing. But apparently there was a mishap with the system and she wont be my advisor __________________ But I'm not quite sure what this unfolds On labor day, uhhh, I'm not starting with you but the faint of heart

11-03-2009, 03:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
pokeherpro Status: Previously Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada eh? Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 1,375	I believe in God, I believe Jesus existed, I don't think he was literally the Son of God and born from a virgin that was blessed by angels, but if he was, that's cool. For me, Jesus was just a dude that preached that if everyone loved one another, and treated everyone like we would treat our brother, sister, mother, father...treat everyone like they were you...then society would be a better place. How could anyone be against the message Jesus was preaching?

11-03-2009, 03:49 PM	#4 (permalink)
00Athena00 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Iowa Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 86	I am a Christian, but being one isn't going to make your problems go away. Though my belief in God is one of the things that has kept me going for this long. I think you should go to the service. It might suck, it might be enlightening. You never know until you try. At the very least you may meet some more people and make some new connections. I think faith is a very personal thing, so you need to make your own decisions about what is right for you.

11-03-2009, 04:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,625	I am not "saintly" either, but I do acknowledge God and Jesus as being there to take my burdens when I cannot handle them - they don't give me more than I can bear. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

11-03-2009, 05:45 PM	#9 (permalink)
Alys Status: mind bogglingly imperfect Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 82	um, Yes! God has helped me tremendously. He is the reason I have hope, the reason I can love all people and forgive. He is my strength. True, all of your problems won't disappear when you become a Christian, but God has promised to work all things together for good for all who believe. You can get through any storm with God. :-) __________________ "I got my heart set on what happens next I've got my eyes wide, it's not over yet We are miracles And we're not alone" - Switchfoot

11-09-2009, 10:23 AM	#10 (permalink)
VanDamMan Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 60	I'm an atheist and prefer the scientific method; the one that makes cars move and SSRI mitigate SAD. Many people have benefited from believing in Jesus though. The concept of Jesus, Buddha, Allah, Krishna, or whatever give you somewhere to turn when you've lost hope in everything else. But believing in Jesus just to assuage your SAD seems a bit shallow, like you are using Jesus. There are two issues, your faith and your disorder.

11-09-2009, 03:52 PM	#11 (permalink)
blc1 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 155	I hope you consider this. Do you believe human beings need a savior or are we sufficient on our own? . A christian writer once argued that the contrarieties in human nature testifies to the truth of Christianity.The christian perspective on human nature appears true; we are fallen creatures in need of divine grace, in need of a savior.