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TheContrary · 11-28-2006, 12:22 AM

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njodis · 11-28-2006, 01:31 AM

I picked "Not good..." I have had bad self esteem for my entire life.

Becky · 11-28-2006, 04:04 AM

my goes between ok and not good, depending on the day and my mood I guess.

themousethatroared · 11-28-2006, 04:37 AM

My self esteem is pretty good most of the time. There are lows when I fail at something or feel rejection. I have become good at trying to avoid the lows and to stay in my safety zone. I try to ignore the thoughts that lead to a low self esteem.

Drella · 11-28-2006, 07:35 AM

What self-esteem?

Logan X · 11-28-2006, 07:42 AM

empty tank...actualy, someone put a match in it and it blew up.

Optimistic · 11-28-2006, 07:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Becky

my goes between ok and not good, depending on the day and my mood I guess.

I hope your "ok's" outweigh your "not goods."

Like your picture and your quote above it, btw. :-)

Bon · 11-28-2006, 07:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Becky

my goes between ok and not good, depending on the day and my mood I guess.

Exactly for me as well. I sometimes wonder ithe difference between self esteem and confidence, and why won't they come together;-)

Disintegrate · 11-28-2006, 07:57 AM

Mine is super! I just act like it is eXtremely low.

IndigoGirl · 11-28-2006, 08:36 AM

My self esteem is not good. Not good at all...

Chrysalii · 11-28-2006, 09:28 AM

nope.

Cerberus · 11-28-2006, 10:18 AM

My self-esteem is okay, but my confidence sucks.

Dreamcatcher · 11-28-2006, 10:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cerberus

My self-esteem is okay, but my confidence sucks.

Invisible_girl · 11-28-2006, 01:11 PM

It's no good at all..Trying to get it up,but it's hard..

OneIsALonelyNumber · 11-28-2006, 06:02 PM

Esteem is "not good". I think bullying had a lot to do with that.

ghostgurl · 11-29-2006, 12:41 PM

I would say it is ok now. I think it was worse when I was younger, but by the time I was in highschool I learned not to give a **** about people, and I've also learned to accept myself.

whiteclouds · 11-29-2006, 08:39 PM

Okay - Most the time I like myself and feel I deserve the best in life...
...just need to work on my confidence and speaking.

I'm not sure what experiences shaped my good self-esteem, since I've had a lot of bad things happen in my life. Could be attitude. I'm artistic minded, so I'm generally accepting of quirks and weirdness, more self-indulgent, and appreciative of goodness and beauty in my surroundings.

I never understood how people can say that they deserve bad things, or that they don't deserve love from others. Even during times when people treated me badly, or when I suffered through a crippling depression with constant suicidal thoughts...I felt very miserable, but I never felt like I *deserved* any of it.

TheContrary · 11-29-2006, 09:07 PM

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Anatomica · 12-15-2006, 01:40 AM

fluctuates day to day, lately I don't hate myself as much so it seems ok

green and lonely · 12-15-2006, 03:08 PM

I know this should be simple, but I really, really don't know how to answer this question. Does it make any sense if I say I have both high and low self-esteem at the same time? I mean, on one level, I really do love myself and think I "deserve" better things in life...on the other hand, I usually feel like complete sh*t around other people. Is this what some of you mean when you say you have high self-esteem but no confidence? If so, count me in.

View Poll Results: How is your self-esteem?
Brilliant - I'm know who I am, what I want, and not afraid to get it/ask for it.	2	3.85%
Okay - Most the time I like myself and feel I deserve the best in life	14	26.92%
Not good. I my needs come last - I don;t think I deserve to have a good life.	15	28.85%
What is self esteem? There is literally nothing in the tank.	21	40.38%
Voters: 52. You may not vote on this poll

11-28-2006, 12:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
TheContrary Status: 1112233 Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 458	Self Esteem .

11-28-2006, 01:31 AM	#2 (permalink)
njodis Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ontariario Posts: 7,904	re: Self Esteem I picked "Not good..." I have had bad self esteem for my entire life.

11-28-2006, 04:04 AM	#3 (permalink)
Becky Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 35,561	my goes between ok and not good, depending on the day and my mood I guess. __________________

11-28-2006, 04:37 AM	#4 (permalink)
themousethatroared Status: Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 294	re: Self Esteem My self esteem is pretty good most of the time. There are lows when I fail at something or feel rejection. I have become good at trying to avoid the lows and to stay in my safety zone. I try to ignore the thoughts that lead to a low self esteem.

11-28-2006, 07:35 AM	#5 (permalink)
Drella Status: Magnanimous carcinoma Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Lodged in Aaron Eckhart's chin cleft. Gender: Female Posts: 9,109	What self-esteem?

11-28-2006, 07:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
Logan X Status: Who am I? I'm...Fatman Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: LaSalle, QC Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 5,767	empty tank...actualy, someone put a match in it and it blew up.

11-28-2006, 07:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
Disintegrate Status: . . Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,368	re: Self Esteem Mine is super! I just act like it is eXtremely low.

11-28-2006, 08:36 AM	#10 (permalink)
IndigoGirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 779	My self esteem is not good. Not good at all... __________________ "Time always shows me it's hard to understand how to be yourself." -Moonchild

11-28-2006, 09:28 AM	#11 (permalink)
Chrysalii Status: Analog Kid Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Baldwinsville, NY Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,568	re: Self Esteem nope. __________________ R.I.P. Nibbles (Mid Summer 2003 - October 21, 2009) Good bye, my bunny, my friend.

11-28-2006, 10:18 AM	#12 (permalink)
Cerberus Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Utah Posts: 5,960	re: Self Esteem My self-esteem is okay, but my confidence sucks. __________________ "Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player That struts and frets his hour upon the stage And then is heard no more; it is a tale Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing."

11-28-2006, 01:11 PM	#14 (permalink)
Invisible_girl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Norway,but right now Melbourne!:) Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 584	re: Self Esteem It's no good at all..Trying to get it up,but it's hard..

11-28-2006, 06:02 PM	#15 (permalink)
OneIsALonelyNumber Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Midwest Age: 39 Posts: 2,831	re: Self Esteem Esteem is "not good". I think bullying had a lot to do with that.

11-29-2006, 12:41 PM	#16 (permalink)
ghostgurl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Mission Viejo, CA Age: 24 Posts: 8,326	re: Self Esteem I would say it is ok now. I think it was worse when I was younger, but by the time I was in highschool I learned not to give a **** about people, and I've also learned to accept myself. __________________ http://www.livejournal.com/users/dazed_girl/ "To err or not to err? That is the question"-Graciously Organized Design Currently reading: The Blade Itself by Joe Abercrombie Currently playing: Freeware

11-29-2006, 08:39 PM	#17 (permalink)
whiteclouds Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: USA Posts: 2,724	Okay - Most the time I like myself and feel I deserve the best in life... ...just need to work on my confidence and speaking. I'm not sure what experiences shaped my good self-esteem, since I've had a lot of bad things happen in my life. Could be attitude. I'm artistic minded, so I'm generally accepting of quirks and weirdness, more self-indulgent, and appreciative of goodness and beauty in my surroundings. I never understood how people can say that they deserve bad things, or that they don't deserve love from others. Even during times when people treated me badly, or when I suffered through a crippling depression with constant suicidal thoughts...I felt very miserable, but I never felt like I deserved any of it. __________________ A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere. -Groucho Marx

11-29-2006, 09:07 PM	#18 (permalink)
TheContrary Status: 1112233 Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 458	.

12-15-2006, 01:40 AM	#19 (permalink)
Anatomica Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2005 Age: 25 Posts: 1,092	re: Self Esteem fluctuates day to day, lately I don't hate myself as much so it seems ok

12-15-2006, 03:08 PM	#20 (permalink)
green and lonely Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2006 Age: 33 Posts: 343	re: Self Esteem I know this should be simple, but I really, really don't know how to answer this question. Does it make any sense if I say I have both high and low self-esteem at the same time? I mean, on one level, I really do love myself and think I "deserve" better things in life...on the other hand, I usually feel like complete sh*t around other people. Is this what some of you mean when you say you have high self-esteem but no confidence? If so, count me in.