Social Anxiety Support

veron · 07-28-2009, 11:06 AM

My grandparents are quite upset with me at the moment because I haven't been keeping in touch. I'm curious about how often other people phone them up (their own grandparents, that is).

MavenMI6Agent009 · 07-28-2009, 11:10 AM

I live with my grandfather so I talk to him nearly everyday.

Aleforge · 07-28-2009, 11:14 AM

I don't call any of my family members, if they need me they usually call. In which case they leave a message and I try to get back to them asap, which is usually a few days. Same with my friends, but everyone is use to dealing with me and they do not get offended.

Hoth · 07-28-2009, 11:19 AM

As far as I can recall, I've never called my grandparents. I don't even have their phone number. I don't call any other relatives either, nor do they call me, but I do email my mom occasionally. I see my relatives on holidays when I visit. Nobody has expressed any displeasure with that arrangement to me.

coldmorning · 07-28-2009, 11:22 AM

They've all passed on.

banjerbanjo · 07-28-2009, 11:54 AM

Maybe once a year.

pokeherpro · 07-28-2009, 11:56 AM

I see my mom's mom about once or twice a year. I see my dad's mom a lot more, probably 10 times a year. I used to live with her too, for about 6 months.

nubly · 07-28-2009, 12:01 PM

ive never called my grandparents. my family are mexican catholics though so if all us grandkids called our grandparents then the grandparents would never be off the phone

Thomas Paine · 07-28-2009, 12:58 PM

Never.

SilentLoner · 07-28-2009, 01:07 PM

Never. Both my grandfathers have passed away. My paternal grandmother is in her 90's and can't remember ten minutes ago so there's really no point. My maternal grandmother only speaks Farsi and I don't. She comes to stay with us once a year and trust me thas enough to deal with.

Logan X · 07-28-2009, 01:14 PM

They're all dead. I wouldn't call them even if they were still alive.

solasum · 07-28-2009, 01:49 PM

My paternal grandparents are dead, but I keep in touch every once in a while with my maternal grandparents. I call my grandma about once every two months. It's awkward and not fun, but I feel obligated to because she's so nice and always wants me to call her.

Amocholes · 07-28-2009, 02:50 PM

All deceased.

Jnmcda0 · 07-28-2009, 03:06 PM

My grandparents are all deceased now. My parents divorced when I was about two years old and my mother and I moved in with my maternal grandparents. They both died while we were living with them. I rarely called my paternal grandparents during that time, but we visited them frequently.

Later, when my grandfather's health was bad, my paternal grandparents moved in with my father. Grandpa died about a year later. I moved in with my dad and grandmother for a short time after college. My grandmother developed Alzheimer's and Parkinson's a few years later. I called her frequently and visited about every weekend (if only for an hour or so) during that time. She passed away last year.

slylikeafox · 07-28-2009, 03:09 PM

Mine are all dead. Only knew my grandfather on my Mom's side. He died in 2000, so it's been awhile

copper · 07-28-2009, 04:52 PM

My maternal grandparents died before I was born. My paternal grandfather died just a few weeks after I started my Freshman year in High School, and my paternal grandmother died 4 years ago. I never was really close to my paternal grandparents. That side of the family was highly dysfunctional and dad pretty much kept us away from them. I didn't meet my paternal grandparents until I was 11 so I only knew my grandfather for only 4 years. I did use to go over to mow the yard for my grandmother when I was attending the community college, but she end up moving in with my stupid Aunt and Uncle that lived in eastern Iowa when I started to go to the 4 year college. I never talked with my grandmother much after that due to dad not wanting us to have anything to do with his brother and his stupid wife.

Stanley · 07-28-2009, 05:16 PM

My maternal grandfather died 6 years ago. I call my grandmother occasionally, and I visited her frequently back when we all lived in the same state.
I've never been close with my paternal grandparents so I know very little about them. I'm not even sure if they're still alive.

UltraShy · 07-28-2009, 05:17 PM

Mine are all dead, having died between 1948 and 1994.

EagerMinnow84 · 07-28-2009, 05:24 PM

My grandfather passed away when I was 5 and my grandmother when I was 22 (my mother's parents). I am not close to my other grandmother for personal reasons.

Toad Licker · 07-29-2009, 11:18 AM

I've never called any of my grandparents ever. I was never much of a phone person when I was younger and it's kind of stuck with me over the years.

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Every day	1	2.13%
Every week	2	4.26%
Every month	7	14.89%
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Never	21	44.68%
I don't have grandparents	14	29.79%
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07-28-2009, 11:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgrade Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 490	How often do you call your grandparents? My grandparents are quite upset with me at the moment because I haven't been keeping in touch. I'm curious about how often other people phone them up (their own grandparents, that is).

07-28-2009, 11:10 AM	#2 (permalink)
MavenMI6Agent009 Status: Cook Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: EL Crapo, Tx Gender: Male Posts: 13,649	I live with my grandfather so I talk to him nearly everyday. __________________ "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." (Henri Nouwen) -------------------------------------------------------

07-28-2009, 11:19 AM	#4 (permalink)
Hoth Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern California Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 324	As far as I can recall, I've never called my grandparents. I don't even have their phone number. I don't call any other relatives either, nor do they call me, but I do email my mom occasionally. I see my relatives on holidays when I visit. Nobody has expressed any displeasure with that arrangement to me. __________________ "Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less." - Marie Curie

07-28-2009, 12:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
nubly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA the greatest and best country in the world!! :) Posts: 7,065	ive never called my grandparents. my family are mexican catholics though so if all us grandkids called our grandparents then the grandparents would never be off the phone __________________ www.audacityofhypocrisy.com/

07-28-2009, 11:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
Aleforge Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Missouri Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 127	I don't call any of my family members, if they need me they usually call. In which case they leave a message and I try to get back to them asap, which is usually a few days. Same with my friends, but everyone is use to dealing with me and they do not get offended.

07-28-2009, 11:22 AM	#5 (permalink)
coldmorning Status: Add water and shake Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Northern California Gender: Male Posts: 2,125	They've all passed on.

07-28-2009, 11:54 AM	#6 (permalink)
banjerbanjo Status: Relaxating Join Date: May 2009 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 150	Maybe once a year.

07-28-2009, 11:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
pokeherpro Status: Previously Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada eh? Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 1,375	I see my mom's mom about once or twice a year. I see my dad's mom a lot more, probably 10 times a year. I used to live with her too, for about 6 months.

07-28-2009, 12:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
Thomas Paine Status: Fail Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,700	Never. __________________ I thought that when you said so long You wouldn't stay to hear your song

07-28-2009, 01:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
SilentLoner Status: Otaku Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Lost in thought, though occasionally I may be located at an anime convention. Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 2,452	Never. Both my grandfathers have passed away. My paternal grandmother is in her 90's and can't remember ten minutes ago so there's really no point. My maternal grandmother only speaks Farsi and I don't. She comes to stay with us once a year and trust me thas enough to deal with. __________________ "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.” -Plato "When a cold wind blows it chills you - chills you to the bone. But there's nothing in nature that freezes your heart like years of being alone." OTAKU UNITE! “We honor Dr. Tiller’s legacy of service to women.” Dr. George Tiller 1941 -2009 Memorial Web Page http://www.iamdrtiller.com/ http://www.remembertiller.com/

07-28-2009, 01:14 PM	#11 (permalink)
Logan X Status: I'm dead inside Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: LaSalle, QC Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 5,275	They're all dead. I wouldn't call them even if they were still alive. __________________ It ain't the fall that gets you. It's the sudden stop at the bottom.

07-28-2009, 01:49 PM	#12 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Posts: 914	My paternal grandparents are dead, but I keep in touch every once in a while with my maternal grandparents. I call my grandma about once every two months. It's awkward and not fun, but I feel obligated to because she's so nice and always wants me to call her.

07-28-2009, 02:50 PM	#13 (permalink)
Amocholes Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Hello my freaky darlings! Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 12,599	All deceased. __________________ In the kingdom of the blind, the one legged man is king.

07-28-2009, 03:06 PM	#14 (permalink)
Jnmcda0 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Florence, KY Posts: 2,103	My grandparents are all deceased now. My parents divorced when I was about two years old and my mother and I moved in with my maternal grandparents. They both died while we were living with them. I rarely called my paternal grandparents during that time, but we visited them frequently. Later, when my grandfather's health was bad, my paternal grandparents moved in with my father. Grandpa died about a year later. I moved in with my dad and grandmother for a short time after college. My grandmother developed Alzheimer's and Parkinson's a few years later. I called her frequently and visited about every weekend (if only for an hour or so) during that time. She passed away last year.

07-28-2009, 03:09 PM	#15 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,685	Mine are all dead. Only knew my grandfather on my Mom's side. He died in 2000, so it's been awhile __________________ "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

07-28-2009, 04:52 PM	#16 (permalink)
copper Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Keweenaw Peninsula Michigan Age: 39 Posts: 7,768	My maternal grandparents died before I was born. My paternal grandfather died just a few weeks after I started my Freshman year in High School, and my paternal grandmother died 4 years ago. I never was really close to my paternal grandparents. That side of the family was highly dysfunctional and dad pretty much kept us away from them. I didn't meet my paternal grandparents until I was 11 so I only knew my grandfather for only 4 years. I did use to go over to mow the yard for my grandmother when I was attending the community college, but she end up moving in with my stupid Aunt and Uncle that lived in eastern Iowa when I started to go to the 4 year college. I never talked with my grandmother much after that due to dad not wanting us to have anything to do with his brother and his stupid wife. __________________ troll: man, we got a lot of snow yooper: eh? troll: three feet, man! yooper: yah troll: no school, man, it was sweet yooper: you closed school for three feet of snow?!?!??!? troll: you like excessive punctuation, don't you?

07-28-2009, 05:16 PM	#17 (permalink)
Stanley Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Corpus Christi, TX Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 705	My maternal grandfather died 6 years ago. I call my grandmother occasionally, and I visited her frequently back when we all lived in the same state. I've never been close with my paternal grandparents so I know very little about them. I'm not even sure if they're still alive.

07-28-2009, 05:17 PM	#18 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Accident of Birth Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (Atheist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 24,572	Mine are all dead, having died between 1948 and 1994. __________________ Nothing is ever the way it should be What we deserve we just don't get you see http://www.insureyourgunrights.com/

07-28-2009, 05:24 PM	#19 (permalink)
EagerMinnow84 Status: Living in Technicolor Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dancing with Gene Kelly Gender: Female Posts: 1,189	My grandfather passed away when I was 5 and my grandmother when I was 22 (my mother's parents). I am not close to my other grandmother for personal reasons. __________________ I don't know, I kind of like him. He's the exact opposite of everything I really hate. In a way, he's such a clueless dork, he's almost kind of cool

07-29-2009, 11:18 AM	#20 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,632	I've never called any of my grandparents ever. I was never much of a phone person when I was younger and it's kind of stuck with me over the years. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem