Social Anxiety Support

mind_games · 08-04-2009, 10:27 PM

Gender vs relationship status: is there a link? (Something RyanJ brought up on SAS chat.)

If you are a guy with SA, are you more or less likely to be single compared to a goil. People have various opinions, but I want to see what the numbers say.

RyanJ · 08-04-2009, 11:30 PM

Wow I get props...you're a brother mind. Third option FTW...

nubly · 08-05-2009, 06:46 AM

lol this threads end up being locked. im a male on my 2nd relationship but yes on these types of forums, the males usually are the ones that have not been in a relationship

Logan X · 08-05-2009, 07:36 AM

male in a relationship.

veron · 08-05-2009, 07:43 AM

Lol, what exactly is the point of this poll? To validate feelings of self-pity?

millenniumman75 · 08-05-2009, 08:10 AM

Most likely - I think Nubly covered the ***Thread Advisory***

Tangent · 08-05-2009, 11:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by veron

Lol, what exactly is the point of this poll? To validate feelings of self-pity?

Presumably because there are regular debates in which someone will say "It is way harder for a guy with SA to get a girlfriend than it is for a girl with SA to get a boyfriend - because males are supposed to do the approaching, and that's made almost impossible by SA"...and then the female members chorus in unison that actually they suffer this problem equally because boys interpret their shyness as lack of interest...and then the thread gets locked.

Yeah...you don't have to have been here long to have observed that phenomenon several times

Freedom2010 · 08-05-2009, 11:52 AM

I'm a girl and I am single. I've never had a boyfriend. I don't think there is much correlation between gender and relationship status. A guy definitley has to do a lot more of the work at the very preliminary stages of a relationship (i.e. getting the girl's phone number), but if the girl is not confident with herself, she will have just as much trouble getting into a relationship as a guy does.

Wait. Why would threads like this get locked?

homer · 08-05-2009, 09:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Freedom2010

Wait. Why would threads like this get locked?

You'll understand soon enough.

zookeeper · 08-05-2009, 09:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by homer

You'll understand soon enough.

I'm not sure what's about to happen, but now I'm curious.

Shauna The Dead · 08-05-2009, 09:10 PM

single girl

UltraShy · 08-05-2009, 09:14 PM

Male and single. Anybody want to help me change that single part?

yellowpaper · 08-05-2009, 10:47 PM

maybe the 5 males and 5 females in relationships (atm) are dating eachother

steelmyhead · 08-06-2009, 12:07 AM

Single guy. Since we know the usual path of conversation, maybe we should just skip it and get to the part where someone goes out with me?

Perfectionist · 08-06-2009, 12:09 AM

Female in a relationship.

Posted before thread lock. Go me.

Toad Licker · 08-06-2009, 12:30 AM

Divorced and single, I've had chances I'm just too picky I guess.

Kelly · 08-06-2009, 02:45 AM

Can someone define "relationship" for me, please? Thank you.

Have a nice day,
Kelly

mind_games · 08-06-2009, 04:23 AM

I knew I should've put a "Other" section. These things are never straightforward are they.

nubly · 08-06-2009, 06:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UltraShy

Anybody want to help me change that single part?

i get off work at 3pm

Atticus · 08-06-2009, 07:23 AM

^^I did not see that coming^^

View Poll Results: Are you a girl/guy? Are you single.
I'm a girl and I'm single	30	29.13%
I'm a girl and I'm in a relationship	9	8.74%
I'm a guy and I'm single	56	54.37%
I'm a guy and I'm in a relationship	8	7.77%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 103. You may not vote on this poll

08-04-2009, 10:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
mind_games Status: dances, like a fridge Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,571	Gender vs relationship status Gender vs relationship status: is there a link? (Something RyanJ brought up on SAS chat.) If you are a guy with SA, are you more or less likely to be single compared to a goil. People have various opinions, but I want to see what the numbers say. __________________ "this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me"

08-05-2009, 06:46 AM	#3 (permalink)
nubly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA the greatest and best country in the world!! :) Posts: 7,065	lol this threads end up being locked. im a male on my 2nd relationship but yes on these types of forums, the males usually are the ones that have not been in a relationship __________________ www.audacityofhypocrisy.com/

08-05-2009, 08:10 AM	#6 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,682	Most likely - I think Nubly covered the *Thread Advisory* __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

08-05-2009, 11:52 AM	#8 (permalink)
Freedom2010 Status: breaking free Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Here, there, and eveywhere Gender: Female Posts: 2,214	I'm a girl and I am single. I've never had a boyfriend. I don't think there is much correlation between gender and relationship status. A guy definitley has to do a lot more of the work at the very preliminary stages of a relationship (i.e. getting the girl's phone number), but if the girl is not confident with herself, she will have just as much trouble getting into a relationship as a guy does. Wait. Why would threads like this get locked? __________________ "Live right now- just be yourself. Doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else." - Jimmy Eat World

08-04-2009, 11:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
RyanJ Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Pacific NW (USA) Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 132	Wow I get props...you're a brother mind. Third option FTW...

08-05-2009, 07:36 AM	#4 (permalink)
Logan X Status: I'm dead inside Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: LaSalle, QC Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 5,276	male in a relationship.

08-05-2009, 07:43 AM	#5 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgrade Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 490	Lol, what exactly is the point of this poll? To validate feelings of self-pity?

08-05-2009, 09:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
Shauna The Dead Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Kentucky, USA Age: 25 Posts: 5,421	single girl

08-05-2009, 09:14 PM	#12 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Accident of Birth Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (Atheist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 24,575	Male and single. Anybody want to help me change that single part? __________________ Nothing is ever the way it should be What we deserve we just don't get you see http://www.insureyourgunrights.com/

08-05-2009, 10:47 PM	#13 (permalink)
yellowpaper Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 696	maybe the 5 males and 5 females in relationships (atm) are dating eachother

08-06-2009, 12:07 AM	#14 (permalink)
steelmyhead Status: mostly harmless Join Date: May 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 642	Single guy. Since we know the usual path of conversation, maybe we should just skip it and get to the part where someone goes out with me? __________________ The trick is to experience, not anticipate.

08-06-2009, 12:09 AM	#15 (permalink)
Perfectionist Status: Too Cool for School Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: At the Hundredth Meridian Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 2,313	Female in a relationship. Posted before thread lock. Go me. __________________ -Oh if Hans Christian Anderson could've had his way with me

08-06-2009, 12:30 AM	#16 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,638	Divorced and single, I've had chances I'm just too picky I guess. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

08-06-2009, 02:45 AM	#17 (permalink)
Kelly Status: One More Thin Gypsy Thief Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Mainz, Deutschland Age: 32 Posts: 6,462	Can someone define "relationship" for me, please? Thank you. Have a nice day, Kelly __________________ Maybe I'll live my whole life just gettin' by. Maybe I'll be discovered. Maybe I'll be colonized. You can try to train me like a pet. You can try to teach me to behave. But I'll tell you if I haven't learned it yet, I ain't gonna sit. I ain't gonna stay.

08-06-2009, 07:23 AM	#20 (permalink)
Atticus Status: under a sheltering sky Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: St. Louis Age: 52 Posts: 3,531	^^I did not see that coming^^ __________________ Basically I'm just gonna walk the earth. ....You know, like Caine in Kung Fu - walk from place to place, meet people, get in adventures." Jules after his epiphany

08-06-2009, 04:23 AM	#18 (permalink)
mind_games Status: dances, like a fridge Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,571	I knew I should've put a "Other" section. These things are never straightforward are they. __________________ "this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me"