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MavenMI6Agent009 · 07-16-2012, 03:11 PM

what do you find more attractive in general..

Double Indemnity · 07-16-2012, 03:32 PM

A winning combination of all three.

TrcyMcgrdy1 · 07-16-2012, 03:37 PM

Probably personality, but the person has to be somewhat physically attractive TO ME. It is hard to have that physical connection fi you aren't attracted to them physically. i know it sounds shallow and everyone is gonna be like "its the personality, i dont care about looks herp derp" but looks play a role in who you find attractive end of discussion. Like the above poster, i would say it is a mix, but the money part doesnt matter to me. I live a pretty frugal existence.

HarryStanluv25 · 07-16-2012, 03:37 PM

Looks and personality. Gotta be someone I want to look at and got to be someone I generally like/have things in common with.

Witan · 07-16-2012, 06:13 PM

Looks and personality. Money doesn't really matter (unless they have a gambling problem or are a little too generous with credit cards).

FireIsTheCleanser · 07-16-2012, 07:32 PM

Personality really, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who looks like a troll with 3rd degree burns on its face.

vicente · 07-16-2012, 08:12 PM

Personality. I've been attracted to people I meet in real life who I only realized were kinda ugly when I saw them in pictures later on.

Jinxx · 07-16-2012, 11:21 PM

Personality. Although its a bonus if they're attractive, I don't care overall as long as I feel comfortable around them & love their company.

ImWeird · 07-17-2012, 12:02 AM

Looks and personality.

leave me alone · 07-18-2012, 04:42 PM

First two. I'll survive without money.

identitycrisis · 07-18-2012, 04:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TrcyMcgrdy1

i know it sounds shallow and everyone is gonna be like "its the personality, i dont care about looks herp derp" but looks play a role in who you find attractive end of discussion.

I totally agree with you (and I don't think that makes us shallow). You put a lot of unnecessary strain on a relationship if you're dating someone you don't find physically attractive.

It's only a problem if your standards are so high that you'll only go out with supermodels. I've personally found certain women attractive that other guys probably wouldn't. It just so happens that different people like different things

As for money, I don't care at all. The type of woman who wants a man for his money is the type of woman I have no interest at all in.

shelbster18 · 07-18-2012, 04:53 PM

I'm going to be honest and say looks and also personality. Their personality makes them more attractive in my opinion.

Witan · 07-18-2012, 11:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by identitycrisis

I totally agree with you (and I don't think that makes us shallow). You put a lot of unnecessary strain on a relationship if you're dating someone you don't find physically attractive.

It's only a problem if your standards are so high that you'll only go out with supermodels. I've personally found certain women attractive that other guys probably wouldn't. It just so happens that different people like different things

QFT

Secretaz · 07-19-2012, 01:02 AM

Personality. I don't get it how some people can choose their partner just because of their appearance.

Theologic · 07-19-2012, 01:19 AM

I chose "other" because I'm separating character from personality. Personality is still more of an external thing to me than character. Personalities change and mean very little in dire situations. A girl can be funny, charming, & polite but her inner heart, the aspect of one's nature that remains unchanged is much more valuable. Putting love in someone's personality has proved to be potentially detrimental to my well being. If through all the beatings society gives her she still shares similar virtues to me I will be extremely attracted.

Her personality would go right after that though...if she's smart I will definitely be much more attracted to her.

I she the law of attraction for me as a multiplier system. I might instinctually notice the weaker of the multipliers first but nonetheless a good balance between Looks, character, & personality would have me sprung.

Character x3
Personality x2.5
Looks x 1.5

Lets say she was a 7 in looks but had the perfect character she'd then be a 21 lol...now my system needs tweaks and I now have no idea what I'm saying but yeaaahhh ignore my multiplier system lol

that character and personality is what's sexiest about a lady though...and to be honest the most important part of her personality is maturity and honesty..all that other ish may be attractive but I don't value it more than maturity and honesty. I believe how funny or loud or polite she is doesn't really matter to me at this point. Maybe I'll grow into another appeal.

arnie · 07-19-2012, 09:25 AM

This poll should have been separated into girls vs guys opinions.

Tentative · 07-19-2012, 09:28 AM

#1 and #2.

blue the puppy · 07-19-2012, 10:37 AM

looks and personality. dont really care about money as long as they can pay their bills.

Shauna The Dead · 07-19-2012, 10:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Double Indemnity

A winning combination of all three.

This. Haha. And that's why I'm single.

meganmila · 07-19-2012, 12:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Double Indemnity

A winning combination of all three.

What she said.

View Poll Results: What do you find more attractive when selecting a partner?
Looks	45	56.96%
Personality	65	82.28%
Money	7	8.86%
Other	7	8.86%
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07-16-2012, 03:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
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07-16-2012, 03:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
HarryStanluv25 Status: Thinking of cleverness Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Southern California. It's lame. Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 3,069	Looks and personality. Gotta be someone I want to look at and got to be someone I generally like/have things in common with. __________________ Huge Harry Potter, Daniel Radcliffe, South Park, and Stan Marsh fan! 'Cause I need freedom now And I need to know how To live my life as it's meant to be. And I will hold on hope And I won't let you choke On the noose around your neck And I'll find strength in pain And I will change my ways I'll know my name as it's called again. - Mumford and Sons: The Cave

07-16-2012, 06:13 PM	#5 (permalink)
Witan Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Iowa Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 2,361	Looks and personality. Money doesn't really matter (unless they have a gambling problem or are a little too generous with credit cards). __________________ Official SAS Iowa Group

07-16-2012, 07:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
FireIsTheCleanser Status: Manic Hispanic Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Your mom's house Gender: Male Age: 16 Posts: 5,189	Personality really, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who looks like a troll with 3rd degree burns on its face. __________________ "Humanity ain't all it's cracked up to be, bub!" Hercules:Would that we all could hath gone on such a glorious adventure! Hawkeye:Oh, don't you worry about us, big guy. We're about to participate in the most hair-raising, knuckle-biting fight of your long, long life! Hercules:And that would be against whom, pray tell? Hawkeye:We're about to storm the United Nations-- and duke it out with the politicians!

07-16-2012, 03:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
Double Indemnity Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: God's country Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 3,256	A winning combination of all three.

07-16-2012, 03:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
TrcyMcgrdy1 Status: Slowly Improving :) Join Date: Oct 2011 Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 3,529	Probably personality, but the person has to be somewhat physically attractive TO ME. It is hard to have that physical connection fi you aren't attracted to them physically. i know it sounds shallow and everyone is gonna be like "its the personality, i dont care about looks herp derp" but looks play a role in who you find attractive end of discussion. Like the above poster, i would say it is a mix, but the money part doesnt matter to me. I live a pretty frugal existence.

07-16-2012, 08:12 PM	#7 (permalink)
vicente Status: <Insert status here> Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Charlottesville, VA Posts: 1,453	Personality. I've been attracted to people I meet in real life who I only realized were kinda ugly when I saw them in pictures later on. __________________ "Better to be sorry than safe" - Vince (Me) In Charlottesville, Virginia but my hometown's Mississauga, Ontario. There is only ONE "n" in Vicente!

07-16-2012, 11:21 PM	#8 (permalink)
Jinxx Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,701	Personality. Although its a bonus if they're attractive, I don't care overall as long as I feel comfortable around them & love their company.

07-17-2012, 12:02 AM	#9 (permalink)
ImWeird Status: Mr. Weird Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 2,522	Looks and personality.

07-18-2012, 04:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
leave me alone Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 2,652	First two. I'll survive without money.

07-18-2012, 04:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
shelbster18 Status: I'm a teapot full of pot. Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: The Vengabus Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 6,014	I'm going to be honest and say looks and also personality. Their personality makes them more attractive in my opinion. __________________ People are the sickest and most disgusting things that ever walked this Earth.

07-19-2012, 01:02 AM	#14 (permalink)
Secretaz Status: Socially retarded kitty Join Date: Sep 2011 Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 2,492	Personality. I don't get it how some people can choose their partner just because of their appearance.

07-19-2012, 01:19 AM	#15 (permalink)
Theologic Status: Asl/eep Join Date: Apr 2012 Gender: Male Posts: 1,425	I chose "other" because I'm separating character from personality. Personality is still more of an external thing to me than character. Personalities change and mean very little in dire situations. A girl can be funny, charming, & polite but her inner heart, the aspect of one's nature that remains unchanged is much more valuable. Putting love in someone's personality has proved to be potentially detrimental to my well being. If through all the beatings society gives her she still shares similar virtues to me I will be extremely attracted. Her personality would go right after that though...if she's smart I will definitely be much more attracted to her. I she the law of attraction for me as a multiplier system. I might instinctually notice the weaker of the multipliers first but nonetheless a good balance between Looks, character, & personality would have me sprung. Character x3 Personality x2.5 Looks x 1.5 Lets say she was a 7 in looks but had the perfect character she'd then be a 21 lol...now my system needs tweaks and I now have no idea what I'm saying but yeaaahhh ignore my multiplier system lol that character and personality is what's sexiest about a lady though...and to be honest the most important part of her personality is maturity and honesty..all that other ish may be attractive but I don't value it more than maturity and honesty. I believe how funny or loud or polite she is doesn't really matter to me at this point. Maybe I'll grow into another appeal.

07-19-2012, 09:25 AM	#16 (permalink)
arnie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Transient Gender: Male Posts: 5,312	This poll should have been separated into girls vs guys opinions.

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