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CoconutHolder · 06-21-2008, 09:00 PM

Do you believe, inside of you, that everything in your life happens for a reason and it is there for you to learn from and become more aware?

Eraserhead · 06-21-2008, 09:34 PM

No.

omgnoudidnt · 06-21-2008, 09:55 PM

yes.

UltraShy · 06-21-2008, 10:21 PM

No way. Things could only happen for a reason if the world was set up to work that way by some higher power that I don't believe in.

Drella · 06-21-2008, 10:33 PM

No, that's not something I believe.

RubyTuesday · 06-21-2008, 10:37 PM

...I figure that this is similar to questions like- Does a God exist? ..and Does life have any meaning?

And, I like the Buddhist approach and similar approaches. ...I figure that we're actually supposed to make up the answers as we go. And that, saying 'no' is often part of later figuring out 'yes' ...only, to again wonder about it and keep changing etc.

So I put: undecided.

njodis · 06-21-2008, 10:41 PM

I don't know. I suppose it might be comforting to convince yourself that there is a purpose for everything that happens, but I don't really believe it.

javasirc · 06-21-2008, 10:53 PM

I dont believe in any of that fate/destiny stuff. I believe everything is about opportunity and decision.

Noca · 06-21-2008, 11:00 PM

Everything DOES happen for a reason but not necessarily for a purpose. The weather didnt happen randomly, it was caused by factors not known to us. A murderer didnt randomly kill someone, it happened because of a chemical reaction in his/her brain. A tree didnt fall randomly, it fell due to old age.

leppardess · 06-21-2008, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by CoconutHolder

Do you believe, inside of you, that everything in your life happens for a reason and it is there for you to learn from and become more aware?

Yes, absolutely, especially the last part.

shyvr6 · 06-21-2008, 11:57 PM

I think everything is just a reaction to our actions like cause and effect, so looking at it like that, everything does happen for a reason. If you want to put the spiritual aspect to it, then no, I don't believe everything happens on purpose so we can learn from it.

refined_rascal · 06-22-2008, 02:14 AM

Yes it makes perfect sense to me that god (I'm assuming that is what is being posited) would wish me to learn from the misery of losing my dad. Or that he wishes the Chinese to learn from the loss of almost 40,000 lives, in order to apply more stringent building regulations so as to avoid a repeat of such a tragedy. Or perhaps the 700 people feared dead after the ferry they were on capsized in a Typhoon (I'm nothing if not topical) is a way of teaching us that water is better left to the fish. Yes, I see your point.

Learning from such events, if indeed we do, is a consequence of those events happening, but not a REASON as to why they happen.

Disintegrate · 06-22-2008, 05:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shyvr6

I think everything is just a reaction to our actions like cause and effect, so looking at it like that, everything does happen for a reason. If you want to put the spiritual aspect to it, then no, I don't believe everything happens on purpose so we can learn from it.

sprinter · 06-22-2008, 05:52 AM

not really.... I returned and saw under the sun that—
The race is not to the swift,
Nor the battle to the strong,
Nor bread to the wise,
Nor riches to men of understanding,
Nor favour to men of skill;
But time and chance happen to them all. –Eccl 9:11

Zephyr · 06-22-2008, 07:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Noca

Everything DOES happen for a reason but not necessarily for a purpose.

Some people get these concepts confused.

CoconutHolder · 06-22-2008, 07:51 AM

interesting replies everyone. thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Rufus · 06-22-2008, 09:53 PM

Maybe not everything happens for a reason, nor a purpose.

Maybe it just happens.

CoconutHolder · 06-23-2008, 07:32 PM

If EVERYTHING were complete randomness, the world couldn't function at all. I believe everything does happen for a reason and you chose to put it there to challenge yourself and grow more spiritual. To become more aware, learn from our actions, treat other how we want to be treated.....etc...

yeah I don't find many ppl that think like me and i've come to accept that.
I forgot to post what I thought.

So I wonder if the invitable fight will come out about this. How can you prove this..............blah blah blah.....its not about proving, its about inner knowlege, the kind your feel deep in your heart and your gut. Anyone can grasp for it. We have so much help out there we can call upon it.

random222 · 06-29-2008, 08:31 PM

I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. Even "no reason" counts as a reason (i.e. random events).

omgnoudidnt · 06-29-2008, 09:18 PM

Quote:

I believe everything does happen for a reason and you chose to put it there to challenge yourself and grow more spiritual. To become more aware, learn from our actions, treat other how we want to be treated.....etc...

View Poll Results: Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?
Yes	10	15.87%
Yes somewhat	8	12.70%
undecided	3	4.76%
doubt it	2	3.17%
not really	9	14.29%
no way, I'm not into this stuff	31	49.21%
other? cuz there always has to be an "other" option.	0	0%
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06-21-2008, 09:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
CoconutHolder Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Age: 33 Posts: 7,011	Everything happens for a reason. Do you believe, inside of you, that everything in your life happens for a reason and it is there for you to learn from and become more aware? __________________ "Riders on the storm; Into this house we're born; Into this world we're thrown. Like a dog without a bone; An actor out alone; Riders on the storm." ~ Jim Morrison ~

06-21-2008, 09:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
Eraserhead Status: Estonian mushroom picker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: My mother's basement. Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 2,363	Re: Everything happens for a reason. No. __________________ To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. -Elbert Hubbard

06-21-2008, 09:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
omgnoudidnt Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 2,664	Re: Everything happens for a reason. yes.

06-21-2008, 10:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Surrounded by Sadness Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (BDSM sadist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 40 Posts: 35,063	Re: Everything happens for a reason. No way. Things could only happen for a reason if the world was set up to work that way by some higher power that I don't believe in. __________________ I wonder what reason I have to live Desperately I have searched for a meaning Is it now time for me to let go of the world

06-21-2008, 10:33 PM	#5 (permalink)
Drella Status: Magnanimous carcinoma Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Underneath Samuel L. Jackson's Kangol hat. Gender: Female Posts: 9,149	Re: Everything happens for a reason. No, that's not something I believe.

06-21-2008, 10:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
RubyTuesday Status: Has B... a ..nNed herself Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Australia Age: 35 Posts: 4,416	Re: Everything happens for a reason. ...I figure that this is similar to questions like- Does a God exist? ..and Does life have any meaning? And, I like the Buddhist approach and similar approaches. ...I figure that we're actually supposed to make up the answers as we go. And that, saying 'no' is often part of later figuring out 'yes' ...only, to again wonder about it and keep changing etc. So I put: undecided. __________________

06-21-2008, 10:41 PM	#7 (permalink)
njodis Status: going hazy Join Date: Nov 2006 Gender: Male Posts: 8,737	Re: Everything happens for a reason. I don't know. I suppose it might be comforting to convince yourself that there is a purpose for everything that happens, but I don't really believe it.

06-21-2008, 10:53 PM	#8 (permalink)
javasirc Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: South Carolina Age: 26 Posts: 125	Re: Everything happens for a reason. I dont believe in any of that fate/destiny stuff. I believe everything is about opportunity and decision.

06-21-2008, 11:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
Noca Status: Spectacular Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 15,145	Re: Everything happens for a reason. Everything DOES happen for a reason but not necessarily for a purpose. The weather didnt happen randomly, it was caused by factors not known to us. A murderer didnt randomly kill someone, it happened because of a chemical reaction in his/her brain. A tree didnt fall randomly, it fell due to old age. __________________ I is/was Dr. House, hi! “There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that "my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge."” --Isaac Asimov Very soon what will be considered news in America, is a day without a spree shooting.

06-21-2008, 11:57 PM	#11 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Gender: Male Age: 35 Posts: 15,991	Re: Everything happens for a reason. I think everything is just a reaction to our actions like cause and effect, so looking at it like that, everything does happen for a reason. If you want to put the spiritual aspect to it, then no, I don't believe everything happens on purpose so we can learn from it. __________________ My world equals a lifetime of thoughts and only a heartbeat of existence.

06-22-2008, 02:14 AM	#12 (permalink)
refined_rascal Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 1,947	Re: Everything happens for a reason. Yes it makes perfect sense to me that god (I'm assuming that is what is being posited) would wish me to learn from the misery of losing my dad. Or that he wishes the Chinese to learn from the loss of almost 40,000 lives, in order to apply more stringent building regulations so as to avoid a repeat of such a tragedy. Or perhaps the 700 people feared dead after the ferry they were on capsized in a Typhoon (I'm nothing if not topical) is a way of teaching us that water is better left to the fish. Yes, I see your point. Learning from such events, if indeed we do, is a consequence of those events happening, but not a REASON as to why they happen.

06-22-2008, 05:52 AM	#14 (permalink)
sprinter Status: symbol Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 3,025	Re: Everything happens for a reason. not really.... I returned and saw under the sun that— The race is not to the swift, Nor the battle to the strong, Nor bread to the wise, Nor riches to men of understanding, Nor favour to men of skill; But time and chance happen to them all. –Eccl 9:11

06-22-2008, 07:51 AM	#16 (permalink)
CoconutHolder Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Age: 33 Posts: 7,011	Re: Everything happens for a reason. interesting replies everyone. thanks for sharing your thoughts. __________________ "Riders on the storm; Into this house we're born; Into this world we're thrown. Like a dog without a bone; An actor out alone; Riders on the storm." ~ Jim Morrison ~

06-22-2008, 09:53 PM	#17 (permalink)
Rufus Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: backstreets, north side, water tower pl. Gender: Male Posts: 3,709	Re: Everything happens for a reason. Maybe not everything happens for a reason, nor a purpose. Maybe it just happens. __________________ skulk leader

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06-23-2008, 07:32 PM	#18 (permalink)
CoconutHolder Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Age: 33 Posts: 7,011	Re: Everything happens for a reason. If EVERYTHING were complete randomness, the world couldn't function at all. I believe everything does happen for a reason and you chose to put it there to challenge yourself and grow more spiritual. To become more aware, learn from our actions, treat other how we want to be treated.....etc... yeah I don't find many ppl that think like me and i've come to accept that. I forgot to post what I thought. So I wonder if the invitable fight will come out about this. How can you prove this..............blah blah blah.....its not about proving, its about inner knowlege, the kind your feel deep in your heart and your gut. Anyone can grasp for it. We have so much help out there we can call upon it. __________________ "Riders on the storm; Into this house we're born; Into this world we're thrown. Like a dog without a bone; An actor out alone; Riders on the storm." ~ Jim Morrison ~

06-29-2008, 08:31 PM	#19 (permalink)
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