Social Anxiety Support

bowlingpins · 07-08-2009, 03:16 PM

Well, does it?

This is the feeling I get, when a message is posted you have to wait a few hours (if you are lucky) to a few days before you get a response, then you respond back and wait a few more days for another response. It is dragging out a conversation on the timescale, I wonder if this hurts the ability to communicate in real time,
ofcourse, there are good things about forums too.

bowlingpins · 07-08-2009, 03:42 PM

You do learn a lot of things from what people post here. This can be very helpful in conversations, but if you rely too much on forums I suppose it can change your way of communicating to the point you have to put in extra effort to adapt to real world conversations...

VCL XI · 07-08-2009, 04:21 PM

Yes, but I'm usually talking to myself half the time anyway. I'm genuinely surprised whenever someone replies to me or quotes me.

EagerMinnow84 · 07-08-2009, 05:05 PM

Definitely. I don't even know why I post here sometimes. I guess I like typing.

Aurora · 07-08-2009, 05:39 PM

Yes it does feel like Im talking to a wall, but then I talk to walls in real life anyway.

I do like people here. But I know I will never meet 99% of you all. I really dont know why I keep typing. I could quite easily lurk and still keep coming back here.

Toad Licker · 07-08-2009, 06:20 PM

Not really but I don't post to get a response or interact with other members very often.

kenny87 · 07-08-2009, 07:51 PM

half and half, sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't, depends on if people respond to your post, if it is something that would be worth responding to.

veron · 07-09-2009, 06:35 AM

Not really

Tangent · 07-09-2009, 06:50 AM

Yes, but unlike most of my wall-friends, it is a wall that occasionally talks back

njodis · 07-09-2009, 06:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jaan Pehechaan Ho

Same here. I usually post to amuse myself.

Mercurochrome · 07-09-2009, 04:57 PM

I run into that wall now and again just to make sure I'm not yet dead.

dlennr · 07-14-2009, 05:19 PM

It is nice to see that others have the same problems I have, and there is helpful info here, but as far as posting, I do feel like I'm talking to myself. Not even really sure why I post, unless I'm hanging on to that small chance that someone will talk to me. I'm so tired of being misunderstood by people who don't suffer from SA.

shyvr6 · 07-14-2009, 08:50 PM

I don't really feel that way on the forums, but I do when I'm private messaging someone on a forum and they don't respond back right away.

homer · 07-14-2009, 08:54 PM

Sometimes it feels that way. Its nice to talk to people online, but it isn't really a substitute for talking to someone in person.

slylikeafox · 07-14-2009, 08:57 PM

Sort of, but I like forums better. In chat I can't get responses from as many people. Also you get more detailed responses on a forum than you would get on chat or in real life.

fallingdownonmyface · 08-04-2010, 12:39 AM

I complete waste of time. I dont know why I still do it.

SomeRandomGuy · 08-04-2010, 12:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by njodis

I often don't even remember which threads I've posted in.

xstrongandsilentx · 08-04-2010, 12:44 AM

hahaha very much so, sometimes no one even acknowledges your post and you just think dang I waited for nothing

asdlkm · 08-04-2010, 01:43 AM

On other forums that I've tried to join up, yeah.

Here? no. Maybe it's just because of the type of forum it is, but I think this community is different. People seem interested in helping each other, and seem understanding of what you have to say.

Duke of Prunes · 08-04-2010, 03:58 AM

It's like talking to a wall that's got it's back turned to you and is having a conversation with itself about how awesome it thinks it is.

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07-08-2009, 03:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
bowlingpins Status: taking a break from SAS Join Date: Oct 2008 Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 1,410	Does posting messages on this forum or any forum feel like you are talking to a wall? Well, does it? This is the feeling I get, when a message is posted you have to wait a few hours (if you are lucky) to a few days before you get a response, then you respond back and wait a few more days for another response. It is dragging out a conversation on the timescale, I wonder if this hurts the ability to communicate in real time, ofcourse, there are good things about forums too.

07-08-2009, 05:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
Aurora Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Australia. Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 928	Yes it does feel like Im talking to a wall, but then I talk to walls in real life anyway. I do like people here. But I know I will never meet 99% of you all. I really dont know why I keep typing. I could quite easily lurk and still keep coming back here. __________________ I tell you everything that is really nothing, and nothing of what is everything, do not be fooled by what I am saying. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I am not saying. ~ Charles C. Finn

07-08-2009, 06:20 PM	#6 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Posts: 83,414	Not really but I don't post to get a response or interact with other members very often. __________________ I've been swallowed up by greed. I've been spat upon by lust If they ain't playing with your money they're playing with your trust And I'm trying so hard to stop sitting still To gather the juice that's been spent or been spilled To find a spark in myself that hasn't been killed Cause if Death doesn't get you then Life surely will I've been chasing a lie I was sold Running down thieves and fool's gold And these Christmas dreams are just painted coal - Bree Sharp

07-09-2009, 04:57 PM	#11 (permalink)
Mercurochrome Status: constantly terrified Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 8,351	I run into that wall now and again just to make sure I'm not yet dead. __________________ "Never mind what's been selling, it's what you're buying." - Fugazi "You are not what you own." - Again, Fugazi

07-08-2009, 03:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
bowlingpins Status: taking a break from SAS Join Date: Oct 2008 Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 1,410	You do learn a lot of things from what people post here. This can be very helpful in conversations, but if you rely too much on forums I suppose it can change your way of communicating to the point you have to put in extra effort to adapt to real world conversations...

07-08-2009, 04:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
VCL XI Status: smash everything Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Male Posts: 1,937	Yes, but I'm usually talking to myself half the time anyway. I'm genuinely surprised whenever someone replies to me or quotes me.

07-08-2009, 05:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
EagerMinnow84 Status: . Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: . Posts: 2,349	Definitely. I don't even know why I post here sometimes. I guess I like typing.

07-08-2009, 07:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
kenny87 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,167	half and half, sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't, depends on if people respond to your post, if it is something that would be worth responding to.

07-09-2009, 06:35 AM	#8 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 1,518	Not really

07-09-2009, 06:50 AM	#9 (permalink)
Tangent Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: N.E. England Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 322	Yes, but unlike most of my wall-friends, it is a wall that occasionally talks back

07-14-2009, 05:19 PM	#12 (permalink)
dlennr Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NC, USA Gender: Female Posts: 277	It is nice to see that others have the same problems I have, and there is helpful info here, but as far as posting, I do feel like I'm talking to myself. Not even really sure why I post, unless I'm hanging on to that small chance that someone will talk to me. I'm so tired of being misunderstood by people who don't suffer from SA. __________________ "He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose." -Jim Elliot

07-14-2009, 08:50 PM	#13 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Gender: Male Age: 35 Posts: 15,250	I don't really feel that way on the forums, but I do when I'm private messaging someone on a forum and they don't respond back right away. __________________ My world equals a lifetime of thoughts and only a heartbeat of existence.

07-14-2009, 08:54 PM	#14 (permalink)
homer Status: mmm... donuts Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: sf bay area Gender: Male Posts: 167	Sometimes it feels that way. Its nice to talk to people online, but it isn't really a substitute for talking to someone in person.

07-14-2009, 08:57 PM	#15 (permalink)
slylikeafox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 1,777	Sort of, but I like forums better. In chat I can't get responses from as many people. Also you get more detailed responses on a forum than you would get on chat or in real life. __________________ SAS Artist Trading Card Group "Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself" - Joel Hawes

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Duke of Prunes Status: Permanently bored Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: England Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 2,813	It's like talking to a wall that's got it's back turned to you and is having a conversation with itself about how awesome it thinks it is.