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Great. · 09-17-2009, 07:36 PM

I've heard a few people say that a lot of guys don't want kids but I haven't really found that to be the case from guys I've talked to. So here's a nice scientific poll to find out for sure.

No kids for me, thanks.

Syrena · 09-17-2009, 07:39 PM

I know what you mean, I always thought that as a female who doesn't want kids, I would have no problem meeting a guy that felt the same way, but almost every guy around my age I talk to either does or isn't sure, which isn't going to work well in a long term relationship when I've been sure on my decision for forever, heh.

layitontheline · 09-17-2009, 07:56 PM

I don't want kids.

DuncanThaw · 09-17-2009, 08:15 PM

I have a very strong desire to have children (or, perhaps a child - I'm not certain that I'd ever be in a position to support more than one child responsibly, financially or otherwise); in some respects, however, it seems very unwise for someone like me to do so. My mental health issues are fairly significant, and I wouldn't want a child to grow up in torment because of his/her mother (me) -- which is what happened with my parents. I'm afraid of repeating their mistakes, or overcompensating to make different mistakes but every bit as profoundly damaging, or burdening them from the start with unfortunate genetic predispositions. Also, my time in which to do so is...dwindling, fairly quickly.

However, I can't really imagine anything more gratifying to me than nurturing a helpless little snotty mess into a complex, beautiful human being with thoughts and desires of his/her own.

KennethJones · 09-17-2009, 08:21 PM

Don't want kids. Ive never liked them personally. And i wouldn't be able to have any if i truly did want some.

Lithium4 · 09-17-2009, 08:24 PM

I dunno, I kinda think having a kid would be cool, but I also don't think I'm in any condition to be a parent right now. I dunno, one day maybe.

nightrain · 09-17-2009, 08:26 PM

I don't want kids.

anonymid · 09-17-2009, 08:27 PM

Good lord, no, I don't ever want to have kids. I am simply not up to the responsibilities involved. I would be so in over my head, it wouldn't even be funny. I'm content enough being an uncle.

Oh, and this topic always makes me think of Philip Larkin's poem "This Be the Verse," which nicely articulates another reason I'm not interested in having kids.

whatsername75 · 09-17-2009, 08:27 PM

Not sure.

njodis · 09-17-2009, 09:00 PM

I think so?

EagerMinnow84 · 09-17-2009, 09:04 PM

I don't know. If I were ever to have one, it would just be one.

Perfectionist · 09-17-2009, 09:42 PM

Kids?

Hahaha.

No.

SAgirl · 09-17-2009, 09:42 PM

I don't want kids. I have had plenty of time to think this through. There's been alot of self-reflection. My parents are in there 60's now and I don't think they really want to babysit, anymore. My nieces are almost in their teens.

STKinTHEmud · 09-17-2009, 10:27 PM

Wait in enough lines at the supermarket or your local target, and you'll realize why I don't want kids.

steelmyhead · 09-17-2009, 10:31 PM

don't want. but it's a moot point anyways

Zeddicus · 09-17-2009, 10:55 PM

Let me think.

Hell no. I'll spare them the suffering.

Eraserhead · 09-17-2009, 11:13 PM

Certainly not now. Maybe never.

It's hard for me to say. I imagine it would be a very fulfilling experience. My major concern is that I would be a terrible father, considering my own troubled upbringing (if you want to call it that). Also I've had little exposure to kids, so I'm not sure how much I like them or how well I can handle them.

fastfoodlooser · 09-17-2009, 11:25 PM

well, even though i can afford..... a few kids (don't let my forum name fool ya)

I think I would fail as a parent, like either I would be too strict and the child would resent me and rebel resulting in them ruining thier life

or

I would be too lenient and they would just go wild resulting in them ruining thier life.

and plus, we have too many people on this planet anyway.

Neptunus · 09-17-2009, 11:46 PM

Hell no!

Happ2beme · 09-18-2009, 01:55 AM

Just curious. How much are they?

View Poll Results: Do you want kids?
I am a guy and I want kids	39	21.55%
I am a guy and I don't want kids	41	22.65%
I am a guy and I haven't thought about this enough to know	20	11.05%
I am a girl and I want kids	35	19.34%
I am a girl and I don't want kids	34	18.78%
I am a girl and I haven't thought about this enough to know	12	6.63%
Voters: 181. You may not vote on this poll

09-17-2009, 07:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
Great. Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: St Paul, MN Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 501	Do you want kids? I've heard a few people say that a lot of guys don't want kids but I haven't really found that to be the case from guys I've talked to. So here's a nice scientific poll to find out for sure. No kids for me, thanks. __________________ "Put your troubles away till tomorrow.... If you're lucky, someone will break into your house tonight and steal 'em!"

09-17-2009, 08:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
DuncanThaw Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 168	I have a very strong desire to have children (or, perhaps a child - I'm not certain that I'd ever be in a position to support more than one child responsibly, financially or otherwise); in some respects, however, it seems very unwise for someone like me to do so. My mental health issues are fairly significant, and I wouldn't want a child to grow up in torment because of his/her mother (me) -- which is what happened with my parents. I'm afraid of repeating their mistakes, or overcompensating to make different mistakes but every bit as profoundly damaging, or burdening them from the start with unfortunate genetic predispositions. Also, my time in which to do so is...dwindling, fairly quickly. However, I can't really imagine anything more gratifying to me than nurturing a helpless little snotty mess into a complex, beautiful human being with thoughts and desires of his/her own. __________________ "'Twas grief enough to think mankind All hollow, servile, insincere; But worse to trust to my own mind And find the same corruption there." -- Emily Brontë (1837)

09-17-2009, 08:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
nightrain Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: NC Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 825	I don't want kids. __________________ My youtube videos!

09-17-2009, 08:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
anonymid Status: gulping for shape Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Chicagoland Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,077	Good lord, no, I don't ever want to have kids. I am simply not up to the responsibilities involved. I would be so in over my head, it wouldn't even be funny. I'm content enough being an uncle. Oh, and this topic always makes me think of Philip Larkin's poem "This Be the Verse," which nicely articulates another reason I'm not interested in having kids. __________________ "He who has not the courage to suffer either death or life, who will neither resist nor flee, what can we do with him?" - Montaigne

09-17-2009, 07:39 PM	#2 (permalink)
Syrena Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Northern Illinois Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 265	I know what you mean, I always thought that as a female who doesn't want kids, I would have no problem meeting a guy that felt the same way, but almost every guy around my age I talk to either does or isn't sure, which isn't going to work well in a long term relationship when I've been sure on my decision for forever, heh.

09-17-2009, 07:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
layitontheline Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 320	I don't want kids.

09-17-2009, 08:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
KennethJones Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 123	Don't want kids. Ive never liked them personally. And i wouldn't be able to have any if i truly did want some.

09-17-2009, 08:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
Lithium4 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Montreal Gender: Male Posts: 638	I dunno, I kinda think having a kid would be cool, but I also don't think I'm in any condition to be a parent right now. I dunno, one day maybe.

09-17-2009, 08:27 PM	#9 (permalink)
whatsername75 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 348	Not sure.

09-17-2009, 09:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
njodis Status: kermit in shock Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ontario Gender: Male Posts: 7,713	I think so?

09-17-2009, 09:04 PM	#11 (permalink)
EagerMinnow84 Status: Living in Technicolor Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dancing with Gene Kelly Gender: Female Posts: 1,189	I don't know. If I were ever to have one, it would just be one. __________________ I don't know, I kind of like him. He's the exact opposite of everything I really hate. In a way, he's such a clueless dork, he's almost kind of cool

09-17-2009, 09:42 PM	#12 (permalink)
Perfectionist Status: Too Cool for School Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: At the Hundredth Meridian Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 2,313	Kids? Hahaha. No. __________________ -Oh if Hans Christian Anderson could've had his way with me

09-17-2009, 09:42 PM	#13 (permalink)
SAgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Northwestern Ontario, 20 hour drive from TO Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 3,037	I don't want kids. I have had plenty of time to think this through. There's been alot of self-reflection. My parents are in there 60's now and I don't think they really want to babysit, anymore. My nieces are almost in their teens.

09-17-2009, 10:27 PM	#14 (permalink)
STKinTHEmud Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: CA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 357	Wait in enough lines at the supermarket or your local target, and you'll realize why I don't want kids.

09-17-2009, 11:46 PM	#19 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,840	Hell no! __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

09-17-2009, 10:31 PM	#15 (permalink)
steelmyhead Status: mostly harmless Join Date: May 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Posts: 635	don't want. but it's a moot point anyways __________________ The trick is to experience, not anticipate.

09-17-2009, 10:55 PM	#16 (permalink)
Zeddicus Status: ۩ Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Miami, FL Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 641	Let me think. Hell no. I'll spare them the suffering.

09-17-2009, 11:13 PM	#17 (permalink)
Eraserhead Status: Radical Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 2,210	Certainly not now. Maybe never. It's hard for me to say. I imagine it would be a very fulfilling experience. My major concern is that I would be a terrible father, considering my own troubled upbringing (if you want to call it that). Also I've had little exposure to kids, so I'm not sure how much I like them or how well I can handle them. __________________ The final page is written in the books of history, as man unleashed his deadly bombs and sent troops overseas. To fight a war which can't be won, it kills the human race. A show of greed and ignorance, man's quest for dominance. My Blog

09-17-2009, 11:25 PM	#18 (permalink)
fastfoodlooser Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: union park Gender: Male Posts: 154	well, even though i can afford..... a few kids (don't let my forum name fool ya) I think I would fail as a parent, like either I would be too strict and the child would resent me and rebel resulting in them ruining thier life or I would be too lenient and they would just go wild resulting in them ruining thier life. and plus, we have too many people on this planet anyway.

09-18-2009, 01:55 AM	#20 (permalink)
Happ2beme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Yucaipa, California Gender: Male Age: 45 Posts: 241	Just curious. How much are they? __________________ Edward Scissorhands. You give the quote "nothing is what it seems" its real meaning! You deserve more than you get, but it takes time and effort knowing you for people to understand they have the real deal here. You are totally original although too idealistic, which makes it difficult for you to be understood...