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Teagirl · 08-12-2009, 09:02 AM

I choose the first option, I am a virgin and I certainly would not mind dating one.
It would take alot of the pressure off, I wouldn't have to worry to be worse than any of his previous partners.

On the other hand I think it would be nice to be with someone who already has a little bit experience, so that at least one of us knows what they're doing...

Dempsey · 08-12-2009, 09:23 AM

If I were to have a one-night stand then I'd rather they be experienced. If I wanted an actual girlfriend, then it wouldn't make a difference to me. We would just both be awkward.

N3XT2NON3 · 08-12-2009, 09:43 AM

I am no longer a virgin but I would prefer to be with someone who still is

millenniumman75 · 08-12-2009, 09:48 AM

I would hope that my girlfriend would have the same status as me, but I can't hold that against her.

anonymid · 08-12-2009, 10:13 AM

#4

Toad Licker · 08-12-2009, 11:15 AM

It wouldn't bother me, though with my SA and if she was still a virgin and close to my age I got to wonder what my chances of "getting some" would be.

LostInReverie · 08-12-2009, 11:45 AM

I'm a virgin myself and I would prefer to be with someone who is too

carambola · 08-12-2009, 12:01 PM

I'm a virgin and very uncomfortable with the idea of having a relationship with someone who has has sex with other people.

Delicate · 08-12-2009, 01:05 PM

I chose number one.
It bothered him though that I'm a virgin.

nubly · 08-12-2009, 01:20 PM

id rather be with someone who has been with several people so she doesnt wander what it would be like to be with someone else

sacred · 08-12-2009, 01:51 PM

depends on the person their attitude and self awareness. seriously if the relationship on an emotional level was gonna be something that brings me back to middle school id cut off from her and like the iron maiden song goes run to the hills and run for my life.

caflme · 08-12-2009, 03:41 PM

I am no longer a virgin and it really doesn't make any difference to me whether I was 'with' someone who was a virgin or not, I wouldn't mind at all if he was still a virgin - I actually would find it to be quite an honor.

I can say that because I would not be in that situation with him if we weren't mutually attracted to each other and shared deep feelings for each other and were committed to being together. I can be a VERY patient woman/teacher

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There is something beautifully innocent about anyone's first time and it should be special - most times people throw away their virginity just to lose it only to regret it later and wish that it had been more meaningful.

Just Lurking · 08-12-2009, 05:03 PM

Virgin here, would prefer a virgin partner. I'd feel more comfortable with someone who has the same (lack of) experience as I have.

That's just a preference though - doesn't matter either way.

Ospi · 08-12-2009, 06:30 PM

#1, as long as they don't have a running record of like 100 or something then it doesn't really make a difference to me as long as they understand when things go awry first time around /blush.

Logan X · 08-12-2009, 07:01 PM

don't care

caflme · 08-12-2009, 07:03 PM

Can I just say - and I'm sorry if I am out of place but in my experience - there isn't a 'level of play' if you are with someone that cares about you and that you care about - the only time it will be a disaster is if you just pick someone to 'be with' because you want to lose your virginity and if your partner doesn't really know you, understand you or care. Every single person is different, likes different things... it is all about having the chemistry, the patience and the sense of humor to just 'be with each other' and 'let things happen' - not trying to 'make things happen'. If ya'll are ever in that situation you need to be with someone who understands that there isn't only one chance... one night... one shot.... if it doesn't work the first time the way you expect, you cuddle, kiss, fool around and try it later or another day, or night.

Ok, I won't say anything else... sorry. And this is to the girls/boys/men and women on this site - heck, it's to myself... since it's been a long time for me too and it will most likely be a long time yet before I get to ride that wave again.

kanarazu · 08-12-2009, 07:49 PM

i wouldn't care, but i think it would be cool if they were a virgin, because then they would have no one to compare me too and I would be the best they ever had

kenny87 · 08-12-2009, 10:48 PM

I would most certainly prefer virgin, so we are on the same level and everything, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. With the way things look I don't think I will every have to wonder about this question to begin with though.

Auron · 08-13-2009, 12:10 AM

why should this even matter? Im not a virgin. As long as you are in a serious relationship and that other person loves you back, he/she could care less if you're a virgin.

UltraShy · 08-13-2009, 12:25 AM

At 36 the odds of me finding a woman in my age range who's a virgin isn't too likely. Plenty of them have kids that prove they are not.

View Poll Results: Do you care if a potential girlfriend or boyfriend is still a virgin?
I'm a virgin myself and it wouldn't make a difference to me	29	35.37%
I'm a virgin myself and I would prefer to be with someone who is too	20	24.39%
I'm a virgin myself but I would prefer someone who has a bit more experience	2	2.44%
I am no longer a virgin and it doesn't make a difference to me	20	24.39%
I am no longer a virgin but I would prefer to be with someone who still is	6	7.32%
I am no longer a virgin and I would prefer to be with someone who isn't either	5	6.10%
Voters: 82. You may not vote on this poll

08-12-2009, 09:02 AM	#1 (permalink)
Teagirl Status: excessively polite Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Belgium Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 15	Do you care if a potential girlfriend or boyfriend is still a virgin? I choose the first option, I am a virgin and I certainly would not mind dating one. It would take alot of the pressure off, I wouldn't have to worry to be worse than any of his previous partners. On the other hand I think it would be nice to be with someone who already has a little bit experience, so that at least one of us knows what they're doing...

08-12-2009, 09:48 AM	#4 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,628	I would hope that my girlfriend would have the same status as me, but I can't hold that against her. __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

08-12-2009, 10:13 AM	#5 (permalink)
anonymid Status: gulping for shape Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Chicagoland Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,077	#4 __________________ "He who has not the courage to suffer either death or life, who will neither resist nor flee, what can we do with him?" - Montaigne

08-12-2009, 11:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,596	It wouldn't bother me, though with my SA and if she was still a virgin and close to my age I got to wonder what my chances of "getting some" would be. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

08-12-2009, 09:23 AM	#2 (permalink)
Dempsey Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Sydney Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 635	If I were to have a one-night stand then I'd rather they be experienced. If I wanted an actual girlfriend, then it wouldn't make a difference to me. We would just both be awkward.

08-12-2009, 09:43 AM	#3 (permalink)
N3XT2NON3 Status: Waiting 4 The Sky To Fall Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: NJ Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 313	I am no longer a virgin but I would prefer to be with someone who still is

08-12-2009, 11:45 AM	#7 (permalink)
LostInReverie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Age: 26 Posts: 3,620	I'm a virgin myself and I would prefer to be with someone who is too

08-12-2009, 12:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: California Age: 24 Posts: 735	I'm a virgin and very uncomfortable with the idea of having a relationship with someone who has has sex with other people.

08-12-2009, 01:05 PM	#9 (permalink)
Delicate Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 755	I chose number one. It bothered him though that I'm a virgin. __________________ Safety Rule Update# Don't talk to strangers... unless you want to meet anyone ever. Demetri Martin

08-12-2009, 01:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
nubly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA the greatest and best country in the world!! :) Posts: 7,065	id rather be with someone who has been with several people so she doesnt wander what it would be like to be with someone else __________________ www.audacityofhypocrisy.com/

08-12-2009, 01:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
sacred Status: bored of sas Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 155	depends on the person their attitude and self awareness. seriously if the relationship on an emotional level was gonna be something that brings me back to middle school id cut off from her and like the iron maiden song goes run to the hills and run for my life. __________________

08-12-2009, 03:41 PM	#12 (permalink)
caflme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 44 Posts: 582	I am no longer a virgin and it really doesn't make any difference to me whether I was 'with' someone who was a virgin or not, I wouldn't mind at all if he was still a virgin - I actually would find it to be quite an honor. I can say that because I would not be in that situation with him if we weren't mutually attracted to each other and shared deep feelings for each other and were committed to being together. I can be a VERY patient woman/teacher , There is something beautifully innocent about anyone's first time and it should be special - most times people throw away their virginity just to lose it only to regret it later and wish that it had been more meaningful.

08-12-2009, 05:03 PM	#13 (permalink)
Just Lurking Status: Student.. Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 2,852	Virgin here, would prefer a virgin partner. I'd feel more comfortable with someone who has the same (lack of) experience as I have. That's just a preference though - doesn't matter either way. __________________ "The psychiatrist says, 'I think you're crazy.' The man says, 'I want a second opinion.' The psychiatrist says, 'Okay, you're ugly, too!'" ~Henny Youngman

08-12-2009, 06:30 PM	#14 (permalink)
Ospi Status: Swoit Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,499	#1, as long as they don't have a running record of like 100 or something then it doesn't really make a difference to me as long as they understand when things go awry first time around /blush. __________________ "Racing is life. Anything that happens before or after...is just waiting"

08-12-2009, 07:01 PM	#15 (permalink)
Logan X Status: I'm dead inside Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: LaSalle, QC Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 5,275	don't care

08-12-2009, 07:03 PM	#16 (permalink)
caflme Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 44 Posts: 582	Can I just say - and I'm sorry if I am out of place but in my experience - there isn't a 'level of play' if you are with someone that cares about you and that you care about - the only time it will be a disaster is if you just pick someone to 'be with' because you want to lose your virginity and if your partner doesn't really know you, understand you or care. Every single person is different, likes different things... it is all about having the chemistry, the patience and the sense of humor to just 'be with each other' and 'let things happen' - not trying to 'make things happen'. If ya'll are ever in that situation you need to be with someone who understands that there isn't only one chance... one night... one shot.... if it doesn't work the first time the way you expect, you cuddle, kiss, fool around and try it later or another day, or night. Ok, I won't say anything else... sorry. And this is to the girls/boys/men and women on this site - heck, it's to myself... since it's been a long time for me too and it will most likely be a long time yet before I get to ride that wave again.

08-12-2009, 07:49 PM	#17 (permalink)
kanarazu Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: St. Louis Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 97	i wouldn't care, but i think it would be cool if they were a virgin, because then they would have no one to compare me too and I would be the best they ever had

08-12-2009, 10:48 PM	#18 (permalink)
kenny87 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Louisville, Kentucky Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 625	I would most certainly prefer virgin, so we are on the same level and everything, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. With the way things look I don't think I will every have to wonder about this question to begin with though.

08-13-2009, 12:10 AM	#19 (permalink)
Auron Status: Fade to Black Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 656	why should this even matter? Im not a virgin. As long as you are in a serious relationship and that other person loves you back, he/she could care less if you're a virgin. __________________ My Poetry and Photography Website! "What can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence" - Christopher Hitchens

08-13-2009, 12:25 AM	#20 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Accident of Birth Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (Atheist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 24,572	At 36 the odds of me finding a woman in my age range who's a virgin isn't too likely. Plenty of them have kids that prove they are not. __________________ Nothing is ever the way it should be What we deserve we just don't get you see http://www.insureyourgunrights.com/