Social Anxiety Support

bowlingpins · 09-10-2009, 01:04 PM

In terms of your SA, has it improved or worsened by being online here?

kpiper0101 · 09-10-2009, 01:32 PM

It helps only in the sense that I don't feel as alone in it when I see so many others dealing with the same kind of stuff. There was a time when I had no idea that what was wrong with me had a name and was something that other people had too and knew about.

finster · 09-10-2009, 01:33 PM

This comes up alot on here.

For me, it's great to know I'm not the only one with this, and to see how others are coping.

But it can be sad and depressing to read discouraging post after discouraging post.

I voted 'helps a little'.

LostInReverie · 09-10-2009, 01:45 PM

Helps waste time, has no effect on SA.

shyvr6 · 09-10-2009, 02:25 PM

Doesn't really affect me either way.

Mercurochrome · 09-10-2009, 04:30 PM

Hurts a lot, because I like the way it sounds

layitontheline · 09-10-2009, 06:24 PM

It doesn't affect my SA at all. It does affect my depression though, I've noticed. Sometimes I'll feel better after being on here because I can relate to things people have said or because it provided a distraction from my sad life. Other times I'll feel worse because it reminds me of how alone I am.

STKinTHEmud · 09-11-2009, 12:31 AM

I find that giving advice or offering suggestions regarding positive thinking or otherwise helps get my own thoughts in order. It makes me more reflective on ways to help myself and therefore reinforces my newer positive habits.

Neptunus · 09-11-2009, 12:37 AM

Misery likes company. Helps a lot.

Freedom2010 · 09-11-2009, 04:57 AM

It actually helped a little. Reading about people overcoming their SA and the way they overcome it can be pretty inspiring. It shows you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

This website actually gave me the idea of getting a part time job in order to overcome my shyness and meet new people. I don't know whether I would have had that idea if I hadn't been on this website. It is possible, but I love my new job and that job is changing my life

N3XT2NON3 · 09-11-2009, 09:32 AM

Hurts a little. too few success stories. i wanna get more insight onto actually beating this.

just being honest

ippa · 09-11-2009, 02:54 PM

i would like there be another option, "helps a little and hurts alot" or something, i stoped reading "frustration" and "coping with sa" forums after i "hooked" other person fears and they became mine and my sa got much worse, so i fear to read such posts, no offense just saying what happened to me, but triumphs and positive thinking forums are great.

saillias · 09-11-2009, 03:08 PM

If you read the Coping With Social Anxiety and Frustration forums, it will hurt.

If you find the helpful posters and topics, and go to positive thinking, and make goals, it will help

Toad Licker · 09-11-2009, 03:26 PM

I think when I first joined it helped some but now that the honeymoon is over...

Just Lurking · 09-11-2009, 06:08 PM

Mostly neutral.. I go through bouts where it helps 'a little'..

ShyViolet · 09-11-2009, 09:12 PM

Sometimes it helps a little, sometimes it hurts a little.

dreamer222 · 09-12-2009, 10:02 AM

Helps a little. Sometimes I'll go on here after a rough day of school, read a few posts, and be reminded that there actually are people like myself out there. This boosts my mood a lot.

Witan · 09-12-2009, 07:58 PM

I didn't vote, because it can do both (depending on my mood). On the one hand, hearing about people going through the same stuff I am makes me feel not so alone. On the other hand, hearing about people going through the same stuff I am makes me depressed.

Steve123 · 09-13-2009, 03:52 PM

I don't know yet, just registered to my first one today. Though I have already found it nice to know I'm not the only one with my problem, particularly with regards to being a late bloomer.

_AJ_ · 09-13-2009, 05:09 PM

helps meet people who i can meet in person and try and overcome sa with. also provides all the latest techniques and ideas. also provides a place to post your progress and get praise and feedback.

without a doubt: Helps a lot

View Poll Results: ?/?
Helps a lot	13	12.62%
Helps a little	50	48.54%
Neither helps nor hurts	22	21.36%
Hurts a little	16	15.53%
Hurts a lot	2	1.94%
Voters: 103. You may not vote on this poll

09-10-2009, 01:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
bowlingpins Status: Temporarily Banned Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 557	coming to this site or any SA site. Does it help you or hurt you? In terms of your SA, has it improved or worsened by being online here?

09-10-2009, 02:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	Doesn't really affect me either way. __________________ Music

09-10-2009, 04:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
Mercurochrome Status: see other Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: away Age: 29 Posts: 2,964	Hurts a lot, because I like the way it sounds __________________ well acquainted with worms and dirt

09-11-2009, 12:37 AM	#9 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,840	Misery likes company. Helps a lot. __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

09-10-2009, 01:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
kpiper0101 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Eugene, OR Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 354	It helps only in the sense that I don't feel as alone in it when I see so many others dealing with the same kind of stuff. There was a time when I had no idea that what was wrong with me had a name and was something that other people had too and knew about.

09-10-2009, 01:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
finster Status: Painfully Shy Guy Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Southeast Michigan Gender: Male Posts: 316	This comes up alot on here. For me, it's great to know I'm not the only one with this, and to see how others are coping. But it can be sad and depressing to read discouraging post after discouraging post. I voted 'helps a little'.

09-10-2009, 01:45 PM	#4 (permalink)
LostInReverie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Age: 26 Posts: 3,620	Helps waste time, has no effect on SA.

09-10-2009, 06:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
layitontheline Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 320	It doesn't affect my SA at all. It does affect my depression though, I've noticed. Sometimes I'll feel better after being on here because I can relate to things people have said or because it provided a distraction from my sad life. Other times I'll feel worse because it reminds me of how alone I am.

09-11-2009, 12:31 AM	#8 (permalink)
STKinTHEmud Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: CA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 358	I find that giving advice or offering suggestions regarding positive thinking or otherwise helps get my own thoughts in order. It makes me more reflective on ways to help myself and therefore reinforces my newer positive habits.

09-11-2009, 04:57 AM	#10 (permalink)
Freedom2010 Status: breaking free Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Here, there, and eveywhere Gender: Female Posts: 2,214	It actually helped a little. Reading about people overcoming their SA and the way they overcome it can be pretty inspiring. It shows you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. This website actually gave me the idea of getting a part time job in order to overcome my shyness and meet new people. I don't know whether I would have had that idea if I hadn't been on this website. It is possible, but I love my new job and that job is changing my life __________________ "Live right now- just be yourself. Doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else." - Jimmy Eat World

09-11-2009, 09:32 AM	#11 (permalink)
N3XT2NON3 Status: Waiting 4 The Sky To Fall Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: NJ Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 313	Hurts a little. too few success stories. i wanna get more insight onto actually beating this. just being honest

09-11-2009, 02:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
ippa Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 35	i would like there be another option, "helps a little and hurts alot" or something, i stoped reading "frustration" and "coping with sa" forums after i "hooked" other person fears and they became mine and my sa got much worse, so i fear to read such posts, no offense just saying what happened to me, but triumphs and positive thinking forums are great.

09-11-2009, 03:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
saillias Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Calgary, AB Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 293	If you read the Coping With Social Anxiety and Frustration forums, it will hurt. If you find the helpful posters and topics, and go to positive thinking, and make goals, it will help

09-11-2009, 03:26 PM	#14 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,630	I think when I first joined it helped some but now that the honeymoon is over... __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

09-11-2009, 06:08 PM	#15 (permalink)
Just Lurking Status: Student.. Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 2,852	Mostly neutral.. I go through bouts where it helps 'a little'.. __________________ "The psychiatrist says, 'I think you're crazy.' The man says, 'I want a second opinion.' The psychiatrist says, 'Okay, you're ugly, too!'" ~Henny Youngman

09-11-2009, 09:12 PM	#16 (permalink)
ShyViolet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,942	Sometimes it helps a little, sometimes it hurts a little.

09-12-2009, 10:02 AM	#17 (permalink)
dreamer222 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 216	Helps a little. Sometimes I'll go on here after a rough day of school, read a few posts, and be reminded that there actually are people like myself out there. This boosts my mood a lot. __________________ What if the hokey pokey really is what it's all about?

09-12-2009, 07:58 PM	#18 (permalink)
Witan Status: O fortuna, velut luna Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Iowa Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 640	I didn't vote, because it can do both (depending on my mood). On the one hand, hearing about people going through the same stuff I am makes me feel not so alone. On the other hand, hearing about people going through the same stuff I am makes me depressed. __________________ YouTube Men's SA Group - request invite by PM

09-13-2009, 03:52 PM	#19 (permalink)
Steve123 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 63	I don't know yet, just registered to my first one today. Though I have already found it nice to know I'm not the only one with my problem, particularly with regards to being a late bloomer.

09-13-2009, 05:09 PM	#20 (permalink)
_AJ_ Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Edmonton, Alberta, Canada Posts: 734	helps meet people who i can meet in person and try and overcome sa with. also provides all the latest techniques and ideas. also provides a place to post your progress and get praise and feedback. without a doubt: Helps a lot __________________ Courage is not the absence of fear, it is the decision to act in spite of it.