Social Anxiety Support

nubly · 08-17-2009, 09:21 AM

Just curious how many people have been in a relationship compared to those that have a college degree. I find the former to be much easy with SA than the latter.

Been in two relationships dont have a degree

pointy · 08-17-2009, 10:07 AM

Been at university for a total of two years. I've dropped out and changed my degree once in that time due mostly to problems with SA. Now I'm back at uni and struggling again. Never had a relationship.

VCL XI · 08-17-2009, 10:08 AM

Both are total impossibilities for me.

Stanley · 08-17-2009, 10:21 AM

You're missing the option "Still in college and has been in at least one relationship"

nubly · 08-17-2009, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Stanley

You're missing the option "Still in college and has been in at least one relationship"

I messed up on the wording. Thats the "I have still in college and am in a relationship" option.

Lisa · 08-17-2009, 10:35 AM

have a degree + been in relationships

Stanley · 08-17-2009, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by nubly

I messed up on the wording. Thats the "I have still in college and am in a relationship" option.

Oh, I see. I thought you were referring to those who in college and in relationship right now.

Hoth · 08-17-2009, 11:07 AM

I can't see what's socially difficult about college -- it was a breeze, nobody pays any attention to anyone, just sit back and watch the lectures in silence. So much better than high school where everybody knows you and pesters you. Maybe it's an agoraphobia thing, or something that only affects you if you have friends asking you to do stuff? Anyhow, I got my degree and no relationship.

DuncanThaw · 08-17-2009, 12:03 PM

I have no college/university degree, but I am in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by Hoth

I can't see what's socially difficult about college -- it was a breeze, nobody pays any attention to anyone, just sit back and watch the lectures in silence. So much better than high school where everybody knows you and pesters you. Maybe it's an agoraphobia thing, or something that only affects you if you have friends asking you to do stuff? Anyhow, I got my degree and no relationship.

During my (truncated) college career, most of my courses involved small class sizes: usually 15-20 students, with the expectation of participating in class discussion on a consistent basis. It was very difficult, socially, though I was a dedicated student. I also found it excruciating to live in a dormitory, and tried to hide away as much as possible. I wasn't able to finish my degree, and it had nothing to do with an inability to do the coursework, but rather an inability to handle the social aspects of college, which are considerable.

Hoth · 08-17-2009, 12:45 PM

Forgot that a lot of people have to move out to go to college (and can't afford a private place) -- living in a dorm would be hell.

The amount of class interaction seems to vary considerably by major.

So, it's not a level playing field. Some ways of going to college are a lot easier than others.

Mercurochrome · 08-17-2009, 12:56 PM

College degree, but no relationships

whiterabbit · 08-17-2009, 02:56 PM

I have a degree but have never been in a relationship. My degree was definitely easier than I would find a relationship. Or a friendship even.

Canadian Brotha · 08-17-2009, 04:52 PM

Well I mangled my vote but I've been in a short lived relationship & don't have a degree

WineKitty · 08-17-2009, 05:16 PM

Not sure what one has to do with the other?

But for me, no degree several relationships. My husband has a degree though and has also had several relationships throughout his life.

WineKitty · 08-17-2009, 05:18 PM

Wait a minute...Nubly were you drunk when you posted the options??

Where is the I do not have a degree but have had relationships option??

copper · 08-17-2009, 05:29 PM

Earned a 4 year degree and never been in a relationship. It didn't help moving from job to job and then out of state.

DuncanThaw · 08-17-2009, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by WineKitty

Where is the I do not have a degree but have had relationships option??

I was kind of wondering the same thing...

Zephyr · 08-17-2009, 06:33 PM

Have a degree, no relationships. I don't see that as an option.

School's easy. Everything else = hard.

anonymid · 08-17-2009, 06:59 PM

Master's degree, been in a couple relationships (though currently single).

UltraShy · 08-18-2009, 12:01 AM

Have degree; have no relationship.

View Poll Results: College degree vs relationship status
I have a college degree	16	24.62%
I have been in at least one relationship	5	7.69%
I have a college degree and been in a relationship	22	33.85%
I am still in college but never been in a relationship	10	15.38%
I have still in college and am in a relationship	3	4.62%
I have no college degree nor been in a relationship	7	10.77%
N/A	2	3.08%
Voters: 65. You may not vote on this poll

08-17-2009, 09:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
nubly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA the greatest and best country in the world!! :) Posts: 7,065	College degree vs relationship status Just curious how many people have been in a relationship compared to those that have a college degree. I find the former to be much easy with SA than the latter. Been in two relationships dont have a degree __________________ www.audacityofhypocrisy.com/

08-17-2009, 11:07 AM	#8 (permalink)
Hoth Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern California Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 321	I can't see what's socially difficult about college -- it was a breeze, nobody pays any attention to anyone, just sit back and watch the lectures in silence. So much better than high school where everybody knows you and pesters you. Maybe it's an agoraphobia thing, or something that only affects you if you have friends asking you to do stuff? Anyhow, I got my degree and no relationship. __________________ "Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less." - Marie Curie

08-17-2009, 12:45 PM	#10 (permalink)
Hoth Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern California Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 321	Forgot that a lot of people have to move out to go to college (and can't afford a private place) -- living in a dorm would be hell. The amount of class interaction seems to vary considerably by major. So, it's not a level playing field. Some ways of going to college are a lot easier than others. __________________ "Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less." - Marie Curie

08-17-2009, 12:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
Mercurochrome Status: see other Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: away Age: 29 Posts: 2,964	College degree, but no relationships __________________ well acquainted with worms and dirt

08-17-2009, 10:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
pointy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 112	Been at university for a total of two years. I've dropped out and changed my degree once in that time due mostly to problems with SA. Now I'm back at uni and struggling again. Never had a relationship.

08-17-2009, 10:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
VCL XI Status: n/a Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,566	Both are total impossibilities for me.

08-17-2009, 10:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
Stanley Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Corpus Christi, TX Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 705	You're missing the option "Still in college and has been in at least one relationship"

08-17-2009, 10:35 AM	#6 (permalink)
Lisa Status: Missing her friends!!!!!! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Britain Posts: 2,067	have a degree + been in relationships

08-17-2009, 02:56 PM	#12 (permalink)
whiterabbit Status: scum Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 802	I have a degree but have never been in a relationship. My degree was definitely easier than I would find a relationship. Or a friendship even.

08-17-2009, 04:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
Canadian Brotha Status: A Lonely Soul Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,791	Well I mangled my vote but I've been in a short lived relationship & don't have a degree __________________ Listen To My Demo Album, "Soul Of A Man" Listen To Live Folkstyle Sculpting Facebook=Become A Fan Blogspot=My Poetry I See What I Want To See, And Read Into It What I Want To Read Depressions Blinding Me, It’s Clouding My Vision Of Positivity Stand Up Live Your Life, As People Do In Society Maturity Is Calling, It’s Time To Find Your Personality Everybody Knows Everything, When It Comes To People Outside Themselves ^^^An Excerpt Of Song Lyrics Of Mine^^^

08-17-2009, 05:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
WineKitty Status: Almost 10,000 Posts :) Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alone Inside My Mind Gender: Female Posts: 9,967	Not sure what one has to do with the other? But for me, no degree several relationships. My husband has a degree though and has also had several relationships throughout his life. __________________ "The more I know about people, the better I like my dog." - Mark Twain

08-17-2009, 05:18 PM	#15 (permalink)
WineKitty Status: Almost 10,000 Posts :) Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alone Inside My Mind Gender: Female Posts: 9,967	Wait a minute...Nubly were you drunk when you posted the options?? Where is the I do not have a degree but have had relationships option?? __________________ "The more I know about people, the better I like my dog." - Mark Twain

08-17-2009, 05:29 PM	#16 (permalink)
copper Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Keweenaw Peninsula Michigan Age: 39 Posts: 7,768	Earned a 4 year degree and never been in a relationship. It didn't help moving from job to job and then out of state. __________________ troll: man, we got a lot of snow yooper: eh? troll: three feet, man! yooper: yah troll: no school, man, it was sweet yooper: you closed school for three feet of snow?!?!??!? troll: you like excessive punctuation, don't you?

08-17-2009, 06:33 PM	#18 (permalink)
Zephyr Status: gone Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 9,579	Have a degree, no relationships. I don't see that as an option. School's easy. Everything else = hard.

08-17-2009, 06:59 PM	#19 (permalink)
anonymid Status: gulping for shape Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Chicagoland Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,077	Master's degree, been in a couple relationships (though currently single). __________________ "He who has not the courage to suffer either death or life, who will neither resist nor flee, what can we do with him?" - Montaigne

08-18-2009, 12:01 AM	#20 (permalink)
UltraShy Status: Accident of Birth Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Milwaukee, WI (Atheist, Libertarian) Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 24,572	Have degree; have no relationship. __________________ Nothing is ever the way it should be What we deserve we just don't get you see http://www.insureyourgunrights.com/