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Old 04-10-2011, 07:17 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I know this title sounds over dramatic, but every time I change my eating habits, she tells me that I should keep eating the way I was before. I do know that she likes that I am fat because she feels that this will cause me to never have male attention and I wont end up pregnant or something. She told me that she doesn't want me to make the same mistakes as she did when she had me at an unplanned time. I assured her that I would not get pregnant, but she is really scared that I might. I guess because I am in college and she feels that there is more chances or something.

When this guy asked me out a few weeks ago, she went bananas! She hates when I talk to guys. She hates sex and thinks that it is the worst thing ever invented. I cant talk to her about sex because she says that sex is a very bad thing for women. Its really weird.

Everytime I try to take control over my weight, she tries to sabotage me. It sucks because I would like to be successful in my weightloss. Its like if I stay fat, she doesnt have to worry about me leaving her or getting married and leaving her alone. This is the ways she acts.

I am a grown woman and I have to live at home because I am a student. I cant date either. Like, if I go out with guys, I cant tell her about it because she would literally freak out and we end up arguing. She thinks dating men is a bad thing and that men are going to do something terrible to me.

What can I do about this?
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youre mom seems arkward
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youre mom seems arkward
yeah, I know. very awkward!
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From your first post it seems that you understand why she doesn't want you to lose weight.

She might be jealous that you could have a better life than her.
Move out ASAP
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My mom tried to talk about sex with me once ever and it was awful. If I had a mom who regularly talked about it with me I'd have to fake being deaf.
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From your first post it seems that you understand why she doesn't want you to lose weight.

She might be jealous that you could have a better life than her.
Move out ASAP
+1 you should run for the hills quick!
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Yeah, as weird as this sounds, it seems like your mom harbors a jealousy towards you.
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You should tell her that you want to get skinnier for health reasons not for the purpose of being more aesthetically appealing. Maybe enlightening her with the idea of doing exercise with you would be a good idea. Keep eating, but do exercise as well.
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Just tell her you're not changing your habits to loose weight, but to become an overall healthier person. I mean I definitely notice a difference in my depression and anxiety levels when I eat healthy and exercise, as opposed to laying in front of the tv with a bag of chips :P...exercise=endorphins=happy
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My mom is the same way, except she doesnt want me to get anyone pregnant.
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if you want to lose weight, do it!

it is your body and you're an adult - your mum is just going to have to deal with it or realize that you are your own person.
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I think you should tell your mom what you wrote on the first post.
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