Geez we're not alone are we when it comes to being single. I'm from Australia and like a lot of other countries we have a variety of internet dating sites ranging from the moral to the immoral
I've exhausted all my options through family & friends, so have been giving this whole internat dating thing a good crack. Suffice to say my luck so far sux. I can strike up interest in someone, but once the SA is mentioned, the majority do a runner. Comments like; "I don't want to be restricted like that.", or "I don't think I could cope with that", etc. etc. I even get knocked back by ladies who themselves have an anxiety condition, claiming that coping with their own problems is hard enough without having to cope with mine as well.
Yes I agree our options are limited. My last serious relationship failed largely due to the fact the SA placed sometimes unreasonable restrictions on what we could do as a couple. Things like travelling, socialising, going out for dinner etc. all suffered. The fact it was restricting us put even more stress on me, despite her assurances to the contrary.
But there is light out there people!! It will be difficult to start and maintain a relationship whilst your symptoms are at their worst. What to do?? Don't make the same mistake I did, and try to cope ibn a relationship when my symptoms themselves were not the best to start with. Concentrate on getting the best available help you can get, "get your **** together", build up some confidence and self esteem, and then worry about a relationship. Bringing a lot of baggage into a relationship makes things a lot harder. Reducing the baggage improves your chances. Don't add to the stress of SA by worrying about why I'm single.
Try to improve yourself, and then worry about a relationship.
I know SA sux. But with decent professional help and a lot of trial & error with meds, I'm a lot better than I was.
It takes a determined view to realise that YOU deserve
the best help available. I know you may not think so, but you are as entitled to the best care as any other person. Unfortunately the quality of professional care and the effects of meds are not always good, and can make matters worse at times, but don't give up!! Be determined! Don't put up with **** care, and "shop around" until you strike up a good repore with a professional who is willing to be patient with you, and is willing to try a number of meds until YOU
start to improve.
Don't let generalised anxiety and depression add to the already difficult condition of SA. I've been there and done that. Not nice.
Despite the ****. Despite the setbacks. Don't give up your determination to get better! It can and does happen!
I wish you all the best. You're not alone.