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Old 01-22-2012, 02:59 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I don't understand why women don't like me. I'm very good looking and well built, I am extremely intelligent, and also very nice and kind-hearted. I have very bad social anxiety and have never kissed, hugged, touched a girl in my life. I also have an extreme phobia of pictures of myself, so don't ask.
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I cant believe your self condescending username, there's more to the world than human interaction with the opposite sex. I'm a ninja king.
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I don't think all women dislike you, I think maybe it's your anxiety that's interfering with your social interaction with women.
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Yes Ultima, I agree with what you are stating. There is more to life than interaction with the opposite sex, but that aspect of life is one problem I cannot seem to find a solution to.
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I have a feeling this thread will get locked.
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I don't think all women dislike you, I think maybe it's your anxiety that's interfering with your social interaction with women.
Work on your anxiety first. Does that have any effect whatsoever on how you interact with women? If not, then maybe it's something else, but I'm willing to bet you're "very bad social anxiety" has something to do with it.
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Well, do you talk to girls? You can't really get one if you're a guy and you don't talk to them. We are supposed to be the ones who do the approaching.
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I have a feeling this thread will get locked.
How so?
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How so?
Lately there's been a trend of people making threads about women and women read the thread and get offended and then a huge flame war breaks out and the thread gets locked or deleted.
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Lately there's been a trend of people making threads about women and women read the thread and get offended and then a huge flame war breaks out and the thread gets locked or deleted.
Oh right, hopefully this thread doesn't take that turn lol.
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I don't understand why women don't like me. I'm very good looking and well built, I am extremely intelligent, and also very nice and kind-hearted. I have very bad social anxiety and have never kissed, hugged, touched a girl in my life. I also have an extreme phobia of pictures of myself, so don't ask.
Maybe you're too narcissistic?
lol, I dunno. Sorry if you're offended, I'm just making a suggestion...

But other then the obvious you have social anxiety thing, I don't know dude. From that description you seem pretty cool to me.

Are you making a conscious effort to talk to them?
Guys are kinda expected to "be in control" of the whole approaching and meeting thing.
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Well, do you talk to girls? You can't really get one if you're a guy and you don't talk to them. We are supposed to be the ones who do the approaching.
I am not actively talking to girls anymore. But, in the past I did talk to quite a few girls who seemed to show an interest in me. When the time came that I asked each one out, they all rejected me and never talked to me again. Ever since I have never asked the question because I fear rejection which would make me more depressed than i currently am now.
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Maybe you're too narcissistic?
lol, I dunno. Sorry if you're offended, I'm just making a suggestion...

But other then the obvious you have social anxiety thing, I don't know dude. From that description you seem pretty cool to me.

Are you making a conscious effort to talk to them?
Guys are kinda expected to "be in control" of the whole approaching and meeting thing.
No, I am not offended nor narcissistic, I am just putting out there what I have been told by my guy friends.
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I am not actively talking to girls anymore. But, in the past I did talk to quite a few girls who seemed to show an interest in me. When the time came that I asked each one out, they all rejected me and never talked to me again. Ever since I have never asked the question because I fear rejection which would make me more depressed than i currently am now.
Maybe you misread them. Maybe they weren't interested at all but they just liked you as a friend (how exactly did they reject you? Did they still want to be friends? Or did they just say "no, leave me alone"?). Maybe you scared them off. This information alone doesn't narrow down the possibilities much.
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Maybe you misread them. Maybe they weren't interested at all but they just liked you as a friend (how exactly did they reject you? Did they still want to be friends? Or did they just say "no, leave me alone"?). Maybe you scared them off. This information alone doesn't narrow down the possibilities much.
Well, I am almost sure that I did scare them off. One even scowled at me and never talked to me again. Out of the other two, One told me "you're a creeper" and the other said "Do you really think I'd date a guy like you?!"
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Well, I am almost sure that I did scare them off. One even scowled at me and never talked to me again. Out of the other two, One told me "you're a creeper" and the other said "Do you really think I'd date a guy like you?!"
Did these events transpire in school?
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Did these events transpire in school?
Indeed they did.
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Well, I am almost sure that I did scare them off. One even scowled at me and never talked to me again. Out of the other two, One told me "you're a creeper" and the other said "Do you really think I'd date a guy like you?!"
Well then it's your approach. What did you say to them?/How did you ask them out or show interest in them?

Or did you give off a creepy, stalker-ish vibe. I've scared girls off before also so I know how that is, you don't want to do that, you want to seem very nice and approachable.
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Indeed they did.
I noticed a lot of females become extremely selective of whom approaches in a public setting such as a school; especially high school, did they give any longful gestures that might have piqued your interest to openly engage? Some will reject simply because of the place & time. But I know...you couldn't have came up to them in front of others, having suffering from social anxieties. Or did you?
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