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depression25 · 01-14-2010, 10:01 AM

i'm 26 and i get so angry when someone , especially my mum compare me to other people , neighbors and family members , look what they did they have life some are married got children, and u still even can't get job... i can't stand this anymore i hate comparing my self to others i want have my own way i don't care for others , where i live neighbors they are competing each other , everyone want have better than other one , this make me sick just want to disappear from this stupid place where i live ****

My911GT2993 · 01-14-2010, 11:03 AM

what others don't take into account is how sa affects us, and how limiting it can be. Living with the sa for a long time, and we fall behind, inevitably.
But because others dont seem to understand sa atal, they dont put that into consideration.
Banzai did you just read the title and answer? ha

Stargirl09 · 01-14-2010, 11:21 AM

Comparing ourselves to others, being concerned with how we appear, over-analysing things we do in public, being on constant guard in public, expecting the worst to happen, embarassment, self-restriction, feeling less worthy than everyone else, having low self esteem-you name it, these are standard s.a symptoms so your post describes.

The answer as to WHY we compare ourselves to other people is because we have s.a and thats a mental problem so we see there's no logic but the s.a thoughts still continue.

lyricalillusions · 01-14-2010, 11:34 AM

I don't think I've ever compared myself to others. At least hardly ever. I've always been different than others, so I never felt I had any reason to compare myself to people I was nothing like. Occasionally, I do find myself doing it, but I never do it for long because it's futile. Comparing myself to others is like comparing a star to a heart & the two have nothing in common. At least nothing that's immediately evident.

lyricalillusions · 01-14-2010, 11:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Banzai

To see how worthy we are.

Basing your own worth off of others' preset standards, is definitely not a good way to measure your worth, everyone is worthy & worthwhile, even if they're nothing at all like others.

01-14-2010, 10:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
depression25 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 61	why do we compare always ourselves to others i'm 26 and i get so angry when someone , especially my mum compare me to other people , neighbors and family members , look what they did they have life some are married got children, and u still even can't get job... i can't stand this anymore i hate comparing my self to others i want have my own way i don't care for others , where i live neighbors they are competing each other , everyone want have better than other one , this make me sick just want to disappear from this stupid place where i live **** __________________ Goodbye Cruel World I'm Leaving You Today , Goodbye All You People There's Nothing More U can Say To Make Me Change My Mind GOODBYE

01-14-2010, 11:21 AM	#3 (permalink)
Stargirl09 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Wyke, Bradford Gender: Female Posts: 697	Comparing ourselves to others, being concerned with how we appear, over-analysing things we do in public, being on constant guard in public, expecting the worst to happen, embarassment, self-restriction, feeling less worthy than everyone else, having low self esteem-you name it, these are standard s.a symptoms so your post describes. The answer as to WHY we compare ourselves to other people is because we have s.a and thats a mental problem so we see there's no logic but the s.a thoughts still continue. __________________ The biggest mistake you can make in life is to be continually afraid of making one-Elbert Hubbard

01-14-2010, 11:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
lyricalillusions Status: My So-Called Self Join Date: Nov 2008 Gender: Female Age: 31 Posts: 646	I don't think I've ever compared myself to others. At least hardly ever. I've always been different than others, so I never felt I had any reason to compare myself to people I was nothing like. Occasionally, I do find myself doing it, but I never do it for long because it's futile. Comparing myself to others is like comparing a star to a heart & the two have nothing in common. At least nothing that's immediately evident. __________________ “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” _Dr. Seuss

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01-14-2010, 11:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
My911GT2993 Status: User Requested Ban Join Date: May 2009 Age: 26 Posts: 648	what others don't take into account is how sa affects us, and how limiting it can be. Living with the sa for a long time, and we fall behind, inevitably. But because others dont seem to understand sa atal, they dont put that into consideration. Banzai did you just read the title and answer? ha