We need a dating service for us SA people! Wouldn't it be great to go on a date and just smile and look around silently and come home after a few hours with a feeling of accomplishment? Damn that went well? <3 other then that, that leaves us with having to verbaly please our dates and friends.
And we're not good at it, most of the times.
So what do we do?
Throw ourselves at heavy social events > doesn't work to me but just manages to get me pissed more of the whole SA problem
Throw ourselves slowly at minimal social events and slowly increase the volume of humans > works better; at least less stress at the end of the day and you can get some satisfaction from some "events" as you have a better chances of appearing less SA'sd and succedding at communicating. And then you use that feeling of accomplishment for onward events and so on so forth, it must lead to improvement. How great of an improvement, do not know, but surely an improvement.
If you do something, you don't get worse at it. We as humans are not capable of degrading skills that we practise. We're like a guitarist that is starting to play.
So surely we need to be more around people and we will get better at it. But to do it in smaller steps rather then inviting family and friends over for a .. barbeque? Cause we will just hate ourselves and others more afterwards. Though of course life throws unexpected massive social events at times just to shake things up a bit. So our path wont be dull in any case.
What a *ucked up problem we got, dear SA'sers. I'm an owner of a small successful company, got a new luxury car, got enough money, yet I can't buy myself out of this one. I've been working on my business and not on myself, hence, of course there are little topics to talk about.
I feel like I can go on about this forever. Cause I've been spending time on this topic and I can talk about it. I couldn't be left speechless over this topic. You're all mostly writing long posts about not having much to say. My will be the longest here though I think
So my conclusion is that we're at least average talkers but we haven't spent time on topics of interest. Say you went to talk with somebody about SA, you could talk about it for 3 days non stop right? So it's just that our minds were/are elsewhere.
Dam I'm gonna stop now