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ninjitsu · 12-11-2010, 02:18 PM

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AlisonWonderland · 12-11-2010, 02:24 PM

I'm not offended by your outlook on life.
I don't feel you shouldn't be bitter and angry.
I don't think you need me or anyone else to improve your life.
Why would I care? I don't know you, care about you, or particularly care about whether you're angry or miserable. Get over yourself.

Brightpaperwarewolf · 12-11-2010, 02:33 PM

All I know is the times in my life I was bitter and angry, I wasn't happy, everything sucked, nothing was going my way. It's basically like you continually bathe in **** because you got used to smelling that way. Having a miserable attitude perpetuates yourself to have a miserable existence. It lowers your chance of luck. In order to have have perpetual luck, you got to feel light, like you have no weight on your shoulders. It's a hard process to get rid of, especially when stuff builds up.

But everyone has their own process to cleanse themselves of bitterness, you first have to not want to live in it. I been in your mind state and I'm sure you want to my happy *** to **** off. If you want to stop feeling this way and want your life to be a little easier, stop focusing on yourself because there's people with problems that are far worse than yours. If you keep focusing in yourself, you'll live in perpetual misery. Personally feeling that way sucks, even though you may feel good because in some way, when you are bitter and angry, you feel all high and mighty. It's doesn't translate that way, it's simply you screaming from the prison inside of you.

Kennnie · 12-11-2010, 04:00 PM

im bitter but not angry....

Deathinmusic · 12-11-2010, 04:06 PM

It's completely allowed, so there is nothing wrong with it from that perspective, but I find it hard to believe that someone would be happy being bitter and angry. I know I'm not. So maybe you would be happier if you found a way to get rid of the bitterness and anger. I know, easier said than done.

Insanityonthego · 12-11-2010, 04:07 PM

It's called misanthropy.

Cillian9 · 12-11-2010, 04:31 PM

If you like being bitter and angry, then what's the problem? People disliking you will just give you more reason to be bitter and angry, a state you are happy in. Awesome!

mindsanitizer · 12-11-2010, 09:31 PM

so in other words, you stopped being a slave. dude, you can move mountains if you wanted to. the thing is that it is very difficult to follow once path to success when people are social and are affected by what others say. but break from this and follow your passion and you will soon find happiness. you will find what you like to do in this life. happiness is what you enjoy not what others tell you it's enjoyable. though it may come at the cost of not socializing, but don't care about. open your eyes and see that you are who you are and if they try to put you down, you do the same. is not like everyone lives a perfect life. SA stops us from doing this but if i didn't have SA and didn't feel bad hurting others peoples feelings... all the bullies i have encounter i could say really!.... your wife only is with you for your money and you want to talk mess to me? or the only reason people like you is cus you entertain them like a clown? really... what good have they done for you lately? or you feel just cus you are beautiful you are better than me? i guess beauty made this world modern?

don't believe the hype that entertainment is what is the right thing to do. for some reason i wish television could be banned and people who are strong willed could hold high statuses and not just the status get past from family to family. disregarding everything else.

in other words, if i live rich, i will die rich due to my parents, or if i live poor i will die poor... unless i make some major changes... and that is why major change is good.

for some reason i don't think i never get my point across. eh, at least i tried!

im Lost · 12-11-2010, 09:41 PM

i used to like being bitter & angry cuzz my life but i just found out i rather look at life from a different persepective cuzz i got tired of looking at life that way...

camtrol · 12-12-2010, 12:35 PM

Being as bitter and angry as you are is only you standing in your own way to any hope of ever having any true happiness. Being an ugly human being has no rewards except more ugliness for you to wallow in. If you ever want to find some reward that will move you forward toward being a more fulfilled person you must drop the way you are and if not embrace the world then at least embrace some of the people in it and open yourself up to love and all the hurt and joy that it can bring. Hurtful bitterness is just your escape from reality. In the real world you have to give and take, not just tell people to f off because you are unhappy with your own world.

ambergris · 12-12-2010, 03:36 PM

It's okay to be bitter and angry, as long as you don't let it take over your life. Like, I don't have much time for the majority of people either, but it's a waste of time dwelling on how much they suck and how unfair the world is. It doesn't make you feel better and it doesn't make them feel worse.

People who are happy in their own lives couldn't care less what you do. It's only other unhappy and insecure people who will judge and criticise you for making choices they disagree with. So, in answer to your question: people are bothered by your negative attitude because deep down they're as messed up as you are, they just don't want to admit it.

aBucketandaMop · 12-12-2010, 04:49 PM

lol well when people react like that it's obvious your rejection has hurt them.

it isn't that they care to pry into your personal life it is just that they want to offend you.so i don't really think anyone has a problem with the way you live your life necessarily, but they have a problem with being turned down.

i think though...that it isn't healthy to live a miserable, angry life. that's what i think is wrong with it. but i doubt anyone who gives you a hard time over it really cares.

inneedofher · 12-12-2010, 05:06 PM

I don't get it. People are suppose to like you being miserable and bitter, sorry but most people don't enjoy being around someone like that.

MattFoley · 12-12-2010, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ninjitsu

I don't like life and I am very bitter and angry, I am a very miserable person,

I don't know why I'm even responding to this but you say you don't like life and you're a bitter and angry person. Keep being who you are then if you want to continue hating life. Keep it up and you won't be 21, miserable and angry. You'll be 70 and wondering why you've wasted your life. **** happens to us all. Some people choose to let it take over their life and others don't. It's your choice.

ninjitsu · 12-18-2010, 05:07 PM

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Tetrahydrocannabinol · 12-18-2010, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ninjitsu

I don't get what I'm supposed to do?

Try to be happy whatever way you can, cause like you said you're miserable. You can't change the past or external things that make life suck, but you can change your internal ways of thinking so that those things don't matter as much, or you're happy/content regardless. http://gethappy.net/bookhm.htm It could always be worse. There are definitely people out there who would trade lives with you in an instant.

Or you could just do drugs 24/7 and get your happiness through chemical means. (not really being serious, but kinda..)

ninjitsu · 12-18-2010, 06:23 PM

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Tetrahydrocannabinol · 12-18-2010, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ninjitsu

Sounds like intentionally deluding myself and brainwashing myself into thinking that everything is okay.

I'm pissed because its not okay, not for trivial reasons, if it was a trivial reason, then I would have done something about my problem, but it isn't and I can't and the last resort after being trapped in ****.

.

What's wrong with that? Happiness/not feeling miserable or pissed/being content/etc is the goal right? Who cares how you get there. If you can't change whatever it is that's making you feel like ****, then really what other alternative do you have? Unless of course you want to go through life feeling like ****?

fixmein45 · 12-18-2010, 08:59 PM

Maslow's hierarchy of needs

Krikorian · 07-05-2011, 01:14 PM

Sounds like the fairly typical, "I don't need you! I don't care about you! React! Please react! React to me! I exist! Respond to me!"

12-11-2010, 02:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
ninjitsu Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Wisconsin. Gender: Male Posts: 126	What's wrong with being bitter and angry? Removed Comment - By Ninjitsu

12-11-2010, 02:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
Brightpaperwarewolf Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Northern Virginia Gender: Male Posts: 3,626	All I know is the times in my life I was bitter and angry, I wasn't happy, everything sucked, nothing was going my way. It's basically like you continually bathe in ** because you got used to smelling that way. Having a miserable attitude perpetuates yourself to have a miserable existence. It lowers your chance of luck. In order to have have perpetual luck, you got to feel light, like you have no weight on your shoulders. It's a hard process to get rid of, especially when stuff builds up. But everyone has their own process to cleanse themselves of bitterness, you first have to not want to live in it. I been in your mind state and I'm sure you want to my happy * to **** off. If you want to stop feeling this way and want your life to be a little easier, stop focusing on yourself because there's people with problems that are far worse than yours. If you keep focusing in yourself, you'll live in perpetual misery. Personally feeling that way sucks, even though you may feel good because in some way, when you are bitter and angry, you feel all high and mighty. It's doesn't translate that way, it's simply you screaming from the prison inside of you. __________________ From the land of the midnight sun where ice blue roses grow 'long those roads of gold and silver snow Howlin' wide or moanin low So many roads I know So many roads to ease my soul

12-11-2010, 09:41 PM	#9 (permalink)
im Lost Status: im lost can u help me? Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: california Gender: Male Posts: 503	i used to like being bitter & angry cuzz my life but i just found out i rather look at life from a different persepective cuzz i got tired of looking at life that way... __________________ Life laughs at you when you are unhappy. Life smile at you when you are happy. Life salutes you when you make other happy.

12-12-2010, 12:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
camtrol Status: find me a crystal ball Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 47 Posts: 103	Being as bitter and angry as you are is only you standing in your own way to any hope of ever having any true happiness. Being an ugly human being has no rewards except more ugliness for you to wallow in. If you ever want to find some reward that will move you forward toward being a more fulfilled person you must drop the way you are and if not embrace the world then at least embrace some of the people in it and open yourself up to love and all the hurt and joy that it can bring. Hurtful bitterness is just your escape from reality. In the real world you have to give and take, not just tell people to f off because you are unhappy with your own world. __________________ Off on your way- hit the open road- there is magic at your fingers

12-18-2010, 08:59 PM	#19 (permalink)
fixmein45 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Providence, RI Gender: Male Posts: 268	Maslow's hierarchy of needs __________________ Expect everything and anything feels like nothing...expect nothing and anything feels like everything.

12-11-2010, 02:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
AlisonWonderland Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: England Gender: Female Posts: 535	I'm not offended by your outlook on life. I don't feel you shouldn't be bitter and angry. I don't think you need me or anyone else to improve your life. Why would I care? I don't know you, care about you, or particularly care about whether you're angry or miserable. Get over yourself.

12-11-2010, 04:00 PM	#4 (permalink)
Kennnie Status: Love Your Life Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: brockton Gender: Male Posts: 5,008	im bitter but not angry....

12-11-2010, 04:06 PM	#5 (permalink)
Deathinmusic Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,811	It's completely allowed, so there is nothing wrong with it from that perspective, but I find it hard to believe that someone would be happy being bitter and angry. I know I'm not. So maybe you would be happier if you found a way to get rid of the bitterness and anger. I know, easier said than done.

12-11-2010, 04:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
Insanityonthego Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Panama City Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,315	It's called misanthropy.

12-11-2010, 04:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
Cillian9 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Yukon Gender: Female Posts: 141	If you like being bitter and angry, then what's the problem? People disliking you will just give you more reason to be bitter and angry, a state you are happy in. Awesome!

12-11-2010, 09:31 PM	#8 (permalink)
mindsanitizer Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 320	so in other words, you stopped being a slave. dude, you can move mountains if you wanted to. the thing is that it is very difficult to follow once path to success when people are social and are affected by what others say. but break from this and follow your passion and you will soon find happiness. you will find what you like to do in this life. happiness is what you enjoy not what others tell you it's enjoyable. though it may come at the cost of not socializing, but don't care about. open your eyes and see that you are who you are and if they try to put you down, you do the same. is not like everyone lives a perfect life. SA stops us from doing this but if i didn't have SA and didn't feel bad hurting others peoples feelings... all the bullies i have encounter i could say really!.... your wife only is with you for your money and you want to talk mess to me? or the only reason people like you is cus you entertain them like a clown? really... what good have they done for you lately? or you feel just cus you are beautiful you are better than me? i guess beauty made this world modern? don't believe the hype that entertainment is what is the right thing to do. for some reason i wish television could be banned and people who are strong willed could hold high statuses and not just the status get past from family to family. disregarding everything else. in other words, if i live rich, i will die rich due to my parents, or if i live poor i will die poor... unless i make some major changes... and that is why major change is good. for some reason i don't think i never get my point across. eh, at least i tried!

12-12-2010, 03:36 PM	#11 (permalink)
ambergris Status: Inactive Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Gender: Female Posts: 574	It's okay to be bitter and angry, as long as you don't let it take over your life. Like, I don't have much time for the majority of people either, but it's a waste of time dwelling on how much they suck and how unfair the world is. It doesn't make you feel better and it doesn't make them feel worse. People who are happy in their own lives couldn't care less what you do. It's only other unhappy and insecure people who will judge and criticise you for making choices they disagree with. So, in answer to your question: people are bothered by your negative attitude because deep down they're as messed up as you are, they just don't want to admit it.

12-12-2010, 04:49 PM	#12 (permalink)
aBucketandaMop Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: somewhere. Gender: Female Posts: 399	lol well when people react like that it's obvious your rejection has hurt them. it isn't that they care to pry into your personal life it is just that they want to offend you.so i don't really think anyone has a problem with the way you live your life necessarily, but they have a problem with being turned down. i think though...that it isn't healthy to live a miserable, angry life. that's what i think is wrong with it. but i doubt anyone who gives you a hard time over it really cares.

12-12-2010, 05:06 PM	#13 (permalink)
inneedofher Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jun 2010 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 232	I don't get it. People are suppose to like you being miserable and bitter, sorry but most people don't enjoy being around someone like that.

12-18-2010, 05:07 PM	#15 (permalink)
ninjitsu Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Wisconsin. Gender: Male Posts: 126	Removed Comment - By Ninjitsu

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