Social Anxiety Support

Delicate · 11-05-2009, 06:14 PM

I have a lot on my mind at the moment. Which is fine. But it's gotten to a point where I can't stop thinking and I think I'm leaning more towards depressed than anxious. Because I can't stop the littlest thing effecting my whole life. But that will give me anxiety attacks and stuff. Like I'll avoid a place or a song or even a word, I mean it I won't say certain words all because of associations and I'm driving myself completely crazy. I don't know who to talk to because I opened up to a friend I've known forever, literally forever, and she made me feel like **** about it and was so patronizing I want to slap her. (Then I feel like a ***** because she just bought me tickets to a huge fashion show next month for my birthday).

Now my family know I have some problems they'll be more sensetive and ask how I am but it's too much to even answer. I know that's really ungreatful because I have people there... to some extent. But it's me, I can't talk about personal things, I won't make myself vulnerable. I just don't know what to do at all. I go to group therapy and hardly open up in any way. I've have like 2 friends, one more got back in touch lately. But I just bull**** I try to be open. What pisses me off is that people tell me to be open "how can you have a relationship if you don't talk about things" but I tried to so much and did somewhat and got screwed over for it.

sadfox · 11-05-2009, 06:18 PM

i dont talk to people and live alone i guess i share my thoughts with the world on here and thats what i do when im bored or go on other sites of my interests like wrestling forums and football forums

illlaymedown · 11-05-2009, 06:38 PM

I often feel like I need someone to talk to so I go thru my entire phone number list which is about maybe 60 or so and I don't feel that I can honestly talk to a single one...sometimes I go on AIM but I never have anyone to talk to on there either, maybe two people every now and again. So, at that point I either vent on here or suffer in silence

It's a suck type of feeling to have no one....I don't even have a family who'd care if I did say something cus I have allllll the time and they still don't help and nothing changes. Sadness

Smythe · 11-05-2009, 06:55 PM

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What do you do when there's no one to talk to?

I talk to myself :/
and through IM's the rest of the time.

secretlyshecries · 11-05-2009, 11:56 PM

There's people on msn I know only online but talking to them makes me feel a lot better sometimes. More than that though I just write down how I'm feeling.

polythene · 11-06-2009, 03:12 AM

I used to dump all my problems on my closest friends before I realized HEY, THAT'S NOT WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR. I'm also really verbose so they have to take in about 50x more whining than they would for a normal person. I've found that a lot of people don't have 'someone they can talk to,' even if they have good friends around... I mean the everyday things, the problems that are persistent and embarrassing and sometimes debilitating.

I've learned to (try to) cope by writing it down. Distracting myself also helps, and trying actively not to dwell obsessively on things that make me upset - lately I acknowledge that something sucks, then try to dismiss it and let it go. Venting on these forums helps sometimes, but it can feel isolating because people don't customarily know what to say to "I hate my life and I want to die."

It helps though, to be able to almost anonymously communicate exactly what you're feeling to people... even if it's the Internet. I don't think I bother telling my issues to people in real life anymore, nothing has ever come of that for me.

Dempsey · 11-06-2009, 03:14 AM

The people on here are pretty good to talk to. I've met a few people who think the same way I do. I like how you don't cop all the lame advice that most normal people would give you (just be yourself lol!).

Andrew1980 · 11-06-2009, 04:23 AM

I first developed OCD when I was about 19. The thoughts would not stop, all day and night my head would constantly be thinking and thinking. By the night time, my anxiety levels had risen so high that I would have a panick attack. It became a battle of survival where I had to force myself to stop thinking otherwise I was going to go crazy.

Compulsions can be mental or physical. I remember constantly thinking about whether or not I should be eating more fruit each day (hah). The act of trying to reason as to whether I should eat more fruit was the compulsion.

Anyway, if you are developing OCD, you can talk to me. I hope you are not though, it has destroyed my life even more than the SA.

Delicate · 11-06-2009, 07:05 PM

Well I guess there are people to talk to but I can't or when you get betrayed by being honest and open a couple of times, well, you put up a stronger front.

I think I might have a little ocd I have little compulsions I've noticed. How are you coping with it now? The things that I'm thinking about though are specific but because I try not to they come in my mind anyway and it's just frustrating because I think normal people would talk and get it off their mind but I can't do that and when I have I quickly regret it... a lot.

inthemausoleum · 11-06-2009, 07:40 PM

I rejoice.. and then I go post anonymously my problem on gaia or yahoo answers for advice.

Neptunus · 11-06-2009, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by polythene

I used to dump all my problems on my closest friends before I realized HEY, THAT'S NOT WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR.

I find journaling, posting on forums, and prayer helpful.

Delicate · 11-06-2009, 07:59 PM

I can write **** down but it doesn't change anything or how I feel about it.

11-05-2009, 06:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
Delicate Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 758	What do you do when there's no one to talk to? I have a lot on my mind at the moment. Which is fine. But it's gotten to a point where I can't stop thinking and I think I'm leaning more towards depressed than anxious. Because I can't stop the littlest thing effecting my whole life. But that will give me anxiety attacks and stuff. Like I'll avoid a place or a song or even a word, I mean it I won't say certain words all because of associations and I'm driving myself completely crazy. I don't know who to talk to because I opened up to a friend I've known forever, literally forever, and she made me feel like ** about it and was so patronizing I want to slap her. (Then I feel like a * because she just bought me tickets to a huge fashion show next month for my birthday). Now my family know I have some problems they'll be more sensetive and ask how I am but it's too much to even answer. I know that's really ungreatful because I have people there... to some extent. But it's me, I can't talk about personal things, I won't make myself vulnerable. I just don't know what to do at all. I go to group therapy and hardly open up in any way. I've have like 2 friends, one more got back in touch lately. But I just bull** I try to be open. What pisses me off is that people tell me to be open "how can you have a relationship if you don't talk about things" but I tried to so much and did somewhat and got screwed over for it. __________________ Safety Rule Update# Don't talk to strangers... unless you want to meet anyone ever. Demetri Martin

11-05-2009, 06:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 365	I often feel like I need someone to talk to so I go thru my entire phone number list which is about maybe 60 or so and I don't feel that I can honestly talk to a single one...sometimes I go on AIM but I never have anyone to talk to on there either, maybe two people every now and again. So, at that point I either vent on here or suffer in silence It's a suck type of feeling to have no one....I don't even have a family who'd care if I did say something cus I have allllll the time and they still don't help and nothing changes. Sadness __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-06-2009, 07:05 PM	#9 (permalink)
Delicate Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 758	Well I guess there are people to talk to but I can't or when you get betrayed by being honest and open a couple of times, well, you put up a stronger front. I think I might have a little ocd I have little compulsions I've noticed. How are you coping with it now? The things that I'm thinking about though are specific but because I try not to they come in my mind anyway and it's just frustrating because I think normal people would talk and get it off their mind but I can't do that and when I have I quickly regret it... a lot. __________________ Safety Rule Update# Don't talk to strangers... unless you want to meet anyone ever. Demetri Martin

11-06-2009, 07:59 PM	#12 (permalink)
Delicate Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 758	I can write **** down but it doesn't change anything or how I feel about it. __________________ Safety Rule Update# Don't talk to strangers... unless you want to meet anyone ever. Demetri Martin

11-05-2009, 06:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
sadfox Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: hamilton scotland Gender: Male Posts: 78	i dont talk to people and live alone i guess i share my thoughts with the world on here and thats what i do when im bored or go on other sites of my interests like wrestling forums and football forums

11-05-2009, 11:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
secretlyshecries Status: In hiding Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Australia, hiding under a rock somewhere Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 569	There's people on msn I know only online but talking to them makes me feel a lot better sometimes. More than that though I just write down how I'm feeling.

11-06-2009, 03:12 AM	#6 (permalink)
polythene Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 219	I used to dump all my problems on my closest friends before I realized HEY, THAT'S NOT WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR. I'm also really verbose so they have to take in about 50x more whining than they would for a normal person. I've found that a lot of people don't have 'someone they can talk to,' even if they have good friends around... I mean the everyday things, the problems that are persistent and embarrassing and sometimes debilitating. I've learned to (try to) cope by writing it down. Distracting myself also helps, and trying actively not to dwell obsessively on things that make me upset - lately I acknowledge that something sucks, then try to dismiss it and let it go. Venting on these forums helps sometimes, but it can feel isolating because people don't customarily know what to say to "I hate my life and I want to die." It helps though, to be able to almost anonymously communicate exactly what you're feeling to people... even if it's the Internet. I don't think I bother telling my issues to people in real life anymore, nothing has ever come of that for me.

11-06-2009, 03:14 AM	#7 (permalink)
Dempsey Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Sydney Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 633	The people on here are pretty good to talk to. I've met a few people who think the same way I do. I like how you don't cop all the lame advice that most normal people would give you (just be yourself lol!).

11-06-2009, 04:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
Andrew1980 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Brisbane Posts: 33	I first developed OCD when I was about 19. The thoughts would not stop, all day and night my head would constantly be thinking and thinking. By the night time, my anxiety levels had risen so high that I would have a panick attack. It became a battle of survival where I had to force myself to stop thinking otherwise I was going to go crazy. Compulsions can be mental or physical. I remember constantly thinking about whether or not I should be eating more fruit each day (hah). The act of trying to reason as to whether I should eat more fruit was the compulsion. Anyway, if you are developing OCD, you can talk to me. I hope you are not though, it has destroyed my life even more than the SA.

11-06-2009, 07:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
inthemausoleum Status: Duplicate Account Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 3	I rejoice.. and then I go post anonymously my problem on gaia or yahoo answers for advice.