Social Anxiety Support

Anti depressant · 08-24-2011, 05:01 PM

Has anyone ever been in this situation? You're with some friends, or a friend, and pople are texting you. I personally don't want to be rude to the people around me by texting back or talking back but at the same time I don't want to be rude to the other people by not replying back (which would lead them to perhaps not reply to me in the future, I sometimes worry about that).

This never used to be an issue for me, but, now with more people showing interest in me, and wanting to talk to me, I've been receiving tests at unexpected times, and sometimes, those times happen to be when I'm with other people. So what should I do?

luffy · 08-24-2011, 05:07 PM

you should text them back, everyone is used to that these days. I don't think your friends will get upset about it.

bmoney · 08-24-2011, 05:15 PM

Send the texting friend just one text saying something along the lines of" Hey I'm busy right now but I'll get in touch with you soon

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hmnut · 08-24-2011, 05:19 PM

I am going to have to give the exact opposite response to luffy.

Do not start texting while you are hanging out with people. If someone texts you and you do not text them back right away they should be mature enough to realize that you have other things to do in your life besides just texting.

I mean it is often a judgement call, if the text is really important obviously text them back or text them that you will get in touch with them as soon as you are free.

Consent texting while you are out with someone is the definition of rude. I took time out of my day to spend it with you, if you don't want to be here I could have stayed home and watched DVDs in my underwear.

Anti depressant · 08-24-2011, 06:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hmnut

I am going to have to give the exact opposite response to luffy.

Do not start texting while you are hanging out with people. If someone texts you and you do not text them back right away they should be mature enough to realize that you have other things to do in your life besides just texting.

I mean it is often a judgement call, if the text is really important obviously text them back or text them that you will get in touch with them as soon as you are free.

Consent texting while you are out with someone is the definition of rude. I took time out of my day to spend it with you, if you don't want to be here I could have stayed home and watched DVDs in my underwear.

Thanks. I've been around different social situations and I've been around people that text when they hang out with other people and other people that don't. I think I've kind of come to the conclusion that I should respond to it if it's important (one of my friends texted me earlier that her car broke down) but not if it's something just trivial, unless, other people are texting.

Mae West · 08-24-2011, 06:51 PM

If someone texts you it's ok to answer them but a long convo is rude IMO. My friend does this all the time and I never say anything but I think it is poor manners and quite stupid. Why do you have to be texting someone else (a long or pointless convo) while you are hanging out with someone?

JenN2791 · 08-24-2011, 09:02 PM

I respond anyway unless someone texted me stuff that I don't want to even talk about (i.e. things/people I absolutely hate... like I have a HUUUUGE Lil Wayne fan as a friend and all he does is TALK TO ME ABOUT HIM)

08-24-2011, 05:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
Anti depressant Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 662	What do you do when someone texts you when you're hanging out? Has anyone ever been in this situation? You're with some friends, or a friend, and pople are texting you. I personally don't want to be rude to the people around me by texting back or talking back but at the same time I don't want to be rude to the other people by not replying back (which would lead them to perhaps not reply to me in the future, I sometimes worry about that). This never used to be an issue for me, but, now with more people showing interest in me, and wanting to talk to me, I've been receiving tests at unexpected times, and sometimes, those times happen to be when I'm with other people. So what should I do?

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08-24-2011, 05:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
luffy Status: I have to feed my dog Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: inland empire, CA Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,892	you should text them back, everyone is used to that these days. I don't think your friends will get upset about it.

08-24-2011, 05:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
bmoney Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 30	Send the texting friend just one text saying something along the lines of" Hey I'm busy right now but I'll get in touch with you soon "

08-24-2011, 05:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
hmnut Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Freedonia Posts: 500	I am going to have to give the exact opposite response to luffy. Do not start texting while you are hanging out with people. If someone texts you and you do not text them back right away they should be mature enough to realize that you have other things to do in your life besides just texting. I mean it is often a judgement call, if the text is really important obviously text them back or text them that you will get in touch with them as soon as you are free. Consent texting while you are out with someone is the definition of rude. I took time out of my day to spend it with you, if you don't want to be here I could have stayed home and watched DVDs in my underwear.

08-24-2011, 06:51 PM	#6 (permalink)
Mae West Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 2,412	If someone texts you it's ok to answer them but a long convo is rude IMO. My friend does this all the time and I never say anything but I think it is poor manners and quite stupid. Why do you have to be texting someone else (a long or pointless convo) while you are hanging out with someone?

08-24-2011, 09:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
JenN2791 Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Aug 2011 Gender: Female Posts: 2,958	I respond anyway unless someone texted me stuff that I don't want to even talk about (i.e. things/people I absolutely hate... like I have a HUUUUGE Lil Wayne fan as a friend and all he does is TALK TO ME ABOUT HIM)