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What do you do when someone's staring at you?

Are you too scared to tell them to stop or look back?
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I have pretty much never noticed anyone staring at me. Not that no one ever has. It's just that I don't care what other people are looking at. I just wouldn't notice because when I'm in public I have stuff to do and I'm not paying attention to people enough to know if they're staring at me or the floor or anything else.

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Are you too scared to tell them to stop or look back?
You are like me, I have this same problem. When I was younger I use to say "do u want a photo?" but now I just give them a look. But they keep bloody staring so I try and get away from them. Happens when I have the courage to leave my house and I think to myself.... I haven't been out for 5 days and as soon as I do I've got someone blatantly staring. They don't even try to do it discreetly, even when they are with their wife's. Just nuts!!

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Sometimes I stare back at them like "WHAT" other times I quiver with fear but then I'm like **** this who cares.

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Yeah, I never tell them. But when I'm feeling brave I might manage an annoyed look, and that usually gets them off my back.
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I probably might not even notice because that's how much I avoid looking at people. But I most likely would be too scared to tell them to stop and would pretend not to notice.

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This has happened to me. I look at them and smile and say hello
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post #12 of 26 (permalink) Old 06-17-2017, 07:27 PM
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It depends. If you mean people staring at you like they're ready to kick your butt (because they're angry at the world) then it's probably best to just ignore them. Especially if they seem like they are able to kick your butt.
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This has happened to me. I look at them and smile and say hello
This, in my experience, is what socially adept people usually do.

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It really depends how they are staring at me and their intentions. Some people at work know that I feel uncomfortable being stared at so they do it on purpose just to tease me. When someone purposely stares at me (and they are standing nearby) I always say "Are you okay? Can I help you with something?"

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I usually stare back a bit threateningly until one of us stops looking. It's happened a bunch of times but my soulless stare has backed me up all the time, lol.
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It's always some dude; it's never some cute girl who can't stop staring at me. I give them a couple eyebrow raises and a wink. That usually makes most people uncomfortable and look away, but if not, I just dug myself into a deeper hole...

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I'll just give them a quick glance then continue on about my business.

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there will come a day when i will look back without blushing and looking away...but it is not this day.

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I've noticed that I've become quite wary and rude to strangers. I think I've become this way after dealing with so many rude people, so if the attention is unwanted (which is most of the time) and I'm in a position that I can act how I want (they don't have any authority/relation to me) I will usually glare at them or look at them suspiciously.

If I think the stare is innocent or accidental then I either pretend I didn't notice or smile back/make a funny face.
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That only happened in foreign countries where I stuck out. Usually I ignored it but if they were doing it too intensely or if I was in a bad mood, I sometimes stared back at them and made a face.
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