Social Anxiety Support

CoconutHolder · 10-16-2009, 07:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Belle Star

I still feel like an alien from another planet speaking a different language that no one understands.

I can very much relate to this statement.

toffee · 10-16-2009, 08:09 AM

No one knows what SA is, no one i know anyway. People just think i'm weird and quiet... i'd love to be able to sit in a big room with my family and laugh away without a worry, but i always sit in the corner, only talking when i need to.. my family think i'm weird.

ShawnPearce · 10-16-2009, 08:24 AM

My dear father, who knows little if nothing about SAD, was skeptical of me ever since I came forward with my SA. No matter how many times I explained it to him he would still have his back up against it and me. Eventually he admitted that he thought I was a liar. That really hurt, but SA was something he never heard about before in his entire life, so I was able to tolerate his ignorance.

liarsclub · 10-16-2009, 08:26 AM

All of the above. I'm used to the weird, odd, aloof, left field, etc. comments, those don't quake me anymore. Being accused of making excuses is a recent one that hurts the most. Or the fact that I don't have as many friends as some people is evidence some character flaw, or me just not wanting to "open myself up".

Personal judgment when someone doesn't even know half the details is extremely ridiculous. Something to remember next time we feel like judging someone else.

Uninformed judgments hurt, and that's all there is to it.

I think we all struggle enough with our self-image enough as it is.

Moody99 · 10-16-2009, 01:48 PM

"Why you so quiet"
"what you got to be shy about"
Crazy Weird Ani-Social
Lame/Boring
"You Don't Get Out Much"
"Why You In The House"?
"You A Homebody"
"Smile Why You Look So Sad Or Mad"
"Why You So Defensive"
"You To Sensistive"
"You Take Things To Heart"
"Let It Go"
"Open Up"
"Let Go Your Anger To Whoever Hurt You"
"Life Is To Short Live Be Happy"
"What's Wrong Are You Alright"
"Fake/Phony
I've heard all of these all the time from different people i know and don't know,and it makes me mad,i wish i could tell everyone i know and run into...that i struggle with a disorder or a mental illness called "Social Anxiety",which causes me to act nervous around people...and not knowing what to say...or talk about....so these judgemental people would STFU about me being so f_ck*ng quiet....but they would'nt understand what's the use,why even bother... They going to think what they wanna think about u anyway,it will just be a waste of time!
"Do You Ever Go Anywhere"?

Haydsmom2007 · 10-16-2009, 02:11 PM

I'm always the girl who never talks.

At work, Tony is introducing the new guy to everyone and when it's my turn he says "This is Hannah. She rarely says a single word."

Some people think that I hate them.

"You don't talk much."
"Do you ever get excited about anything?"
"You need to talk more."
.... It's always the same damn thing. I hate it.

One time I was talking to somone at work at a previous job and I said something about not getting home until real late and another girl overheard and says "You have friends???" That one really hurt. She was a f*cking *****, though. I hated her.

Haydsmom2007 · 10-16-2009, 02:19 PM

And when people think I have no personality.

RidingLightning · 10-16-2009, 02:32 PM

Here's a good one 2 weeks ago my American Gov't professor handed back an essay and told me how I'm a "Silent Killer" because of my strong opinions I wrote in the essay and that I don't talk in class. Thats just what i want everyone to think of when they see me. Another favorite is when I go to take a final for a class I have been in all semester and the teacher asks me if I'm even in the class. lol ... not
plus my whole family thinks I'm super lazy because I don't have a job.

illlaymedown · 10-16-2009, 04:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by liarsclub

Being accused of making excuses is a recent one that hurts the most. Or the fact that I don't have as many friends as some people is evidence some character flaw, or me just not wanting to "open myself up".

Personal judgment when someone doesn't even know half the details is extremely ridiculous. Something to remember next time we feel like judging someone else.

Uninformed judgments hurt, and that's all there is to it.

I think we all struggle enough with our self-image enough as it is.

You're right. We with SA also judge others. It's not only the extorverts. It's all humanity especially these days. All you see is gossip. It's something we should all be aware of and know that if we don't wanna be judged, then we don't need to be judging. And though a lot of the statements hurt(especially telling me I'm just making excuses), I can understand where they're trying to come from, though they tend to do it in the most inconsiderate of ways. We all as humans could stand to be more considerate of others and their struggles. But when they say a lot of theses things, it's like they're telling you you don't know how you feel, or you're a liar and you don't have any right and such...that really hurts especially when coming from the people who should love you the most...no matter what. I have an aunt that tried to commit siicide and failed many years ago yet she puts me down and says it's all in my head that I'm depressed and "not trying". Ticks me off X-(

Mr Green Genes · 10-17-2009, 12:42 PM

People occasionally say most of the above, and also that I'm really shot...

Banzai · 10-17-2009, 02:32 PM

Quiet, lazy, weird. The usual.
There are probably a couple of people who think I am rude as well, particularly if you expect me to smile as a greeting rather than say "hi" or whatever.

Some people use to call me "cold hearted" as well because I am some what lacking in the "empathy" department. I used to turn up to school looking like a zombie (and still do) in the morning as well.

Come to think of it, whenever someone were to call my name, I would pretend I didn't hear the first time round.

indigo999 · 10-17-2009, 03:15 PM

A zombie was one of the most memorable and accurate come to think of it but I was called much worse. I was struggling to get through each day at work with constant headaches and nerves but all other more normal people cared about was that they had to work with this strange quiet loner who was not friendly and they could not talk with. I can understand their point of view but still had no choice in the matter.

Rixy · 10-17-2009, 03:26 PM

Cold, quiet, lazy, shy from the nice people. Freak and weirdo from the not so nice people

10-16-2009, 08:09 AM	#42 (permalink)
toffee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 181	No one knows what SA is, no one i know anyway. People just think i'm weird and quiet... i'd love to be able to sit in a big room with my family and laugh away without a worry, but i always sit in the corner, only talking when i need to.. my family think i'm weird. __________________ Everywhere i look, you're all i see.. just a fading ****ing reminder of who i used to be.

10-16-2009, 08:26 AM	#44 (permalink)
liarsclub Status: take it from me.. Join Date: Aug 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 740	All of the above. I'm used to the weird, odd, aloof, left field, etc. comments, those don't quake me anymore. Being accused of making excuses is a recent one that hurts the most. Or the fact that I don't have as many friends as some people is evidence some character flaw, or me just not wanting to "open myself up". Personal judgment when someone doesn't even know half the details is extremely ridiculous. Something to remember next time we feel like judging someone else. Uninformed judgments hurt, and that's all there is to it. I think we all struggle enough with our self-image enough as it is. __________________ Farewell my black balloon, let the weather have its way with you

10-17-2009, 02:32 PM	#51 (permalink)
Banzai Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: UK Posts: 915	Quiet, lazy, weird. The usual. There are probably a couple of people who think I am rude as well, particularly if you expect me to smile as a greeting rather than say "hi" or whatever. Some people use to call me "cold hearted" as well because I am some what lacking in the "empathy" department. I used to turn up to school looking like a zombie (and still do) in the morning as well. Come to think of it, whenever someone were to call my name, I would pretend I didn't hear the first time round. __________________ When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bike. Then I realised that The Lord doesn't work that way, so I stole one and asked him to forgive me. -- Emo Philips

10-17-2009, 03:26 PM	#53 (permalink)
Rixy Status: Falling into Guru Muhk Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 217	Cold, quiet, lazy, shy from the nice people. Freak and weirdo from the not so nice people __________________ Will you say hello to my ma? Will you pay a visit to her? She was an artist just as you were I'd have introduced you to her She would take me out on Sundays We'd go laughing through the garbage She repaired legs like a doctor On the kitchen chairs we sat on She was unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were unhappy just as you were... -Jane's Addiction (Then She Did...)

10-16-2009, 08:24 AM	#43 (permalink)
ShawnPearce Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Male Posts: 7	My dear father, who knows little if nothing about SAD, was skeptical of me ever since I came forward with my SA. No matter how many times I explained it to him he would still have his back up against it and me. Eventually he admitted that he thought I was a liar. That really hurt, but SA was something he never heard about before in his entire life, so I was able to tolerate his ignorance.

10-16-2009, 01:48 PM	#45 (permalink)
Moody99 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Chi-Town Gender: Female Posts: 124	"Why you so quiet" "what you got to be shy about" Crazy Weird Ani-Social Lame/Boring "You Don't Get Out Much" "Why You In The House"? "You A Homebody" "Smile Why You Look So Sad Or Mad" "Why You So Defensive" "You To Sensistive" "You Take Things To Heart" "Let It Go" "Open Up" "Let Go Your Anger To Whoever Hurt You" "Life Is To Short Live Be Happy" "What's Wrong Are You Alright" "Fake/Phony I've heard all of these all the time from different people i know and don't know,and it makes me mad,i wish i could tell everyone i know and run into...that i struggle with a disorder or a mental illness called "Social Anxiety",which causes me to act nervous around people...and not knowing what to say...or talk about....so these judgemental people would STFU about me being so f_ckng quiet....but they would'nt understand what's the use,why even bother... They going to think what they wanna think about u anyway,it will just be a waste of time! "Do You Ever Go Anywhere"?*

10-16-2009, 02:11 PM	#46 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	I'm always the girl who never talks. At work, Tony is introducing the new guy to everyone and when it's my turn he says "This is Hannah. She rarely says a single word." Some people think that I hate them. "You don't talk much." "Do you ever get excited about anything?" "You need to talk more." .... It's always the same damn thing. I hate it. One time I was talking to somone at work at a previous job and I said something about not getting home until real late and another girl overheard and says "You have friends???" That one really hurt. She was a fcking ****, though. I hated her.

10-16-2009, 02:19 PM	#47 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	And when people think I have no personality.

10-16-2009, 02:32 PM	#48 (permalink)
RidingLightning Status: Whatever... Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Florida Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 8	Here's a good one 2 weeks ago my American Gov't professor handed back an essay and told me how I'm a "Silent Killer" because of my strong opinions I wrote in the essay and that I don't talk in class. Thats just what i want everyone to think of when they see me. Another favorite is when I go to take a final for a class I have been in all semester and the teacher asks me if I'm even in the class. lol ... not plus my whole family thinks I'm super lazy because I don't have a job.

10-17-2009, 12:42 PM	#50 (permalink)
Mr Green Genes Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	People occasionally say most of the above, and also that I'm really shot...

10-17-2009, 03:15 PM	#52 (permalink)
indigo999 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 20	A zombie was one of the most memorable and accurate come to think of it but I was called much worse. I was struggling to get through each day at work with constant headaches and nerves but all other more normal people cared about was that they had to work with this strange quiet loner who was not friendly and they could not talk with. I can understand their point of view but still had no choice in the matter.