Social Anxiety Support

hmf22 · 10-14-2009, 05:50 PM

reserved, quiet, weird, shy, rude, stuck up, sad, and so on. I hate when people make comments like that! Would you go up to a fat girl and ask her why she's so fat? would you go up to an ugly girl and ask her why she's so ugly? would you go up to a handicapped girl and ask her why she's handicapped? NO! so why do people think it's ok to go up to me and ask me why I'm so shy and quiet??!! I can't help it people!! sheesh. It makes me feel like so worthless when people do that. It hurts like you would not believe.

tutliputli · 10-14-2009, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ChrisWasNotThere

Lol I've got that too, "why are you so serious all the time, you look like your going to kill someone"

HAHA, I'm not going to kill someone I'm just terrified of you!

I can't believe people actually say that. That's fricking weird. I am the shyest, most reserved, and most awkward person you could ever meet, but I have not yet had one single person say that to me.

illlaymedown · 10-14-2009, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by hmf22

reserved, quiet, weird, shy, rude, stuck up, sad, and so on. I hate when people make comments like that! Would you go up to a fat girl and ask her why she's so fat? would you go up to an ugly girl and ask her why she's so ugly? would you go up to a handicapped girl and ask her why she's handicapped? NO! so why do people think it's ok to go up to me and ask me why I'm so shy and quiet??!! I can't help it people!! sheesh. It makes me feel like so worthless when people do that. It hurts like you would not believe.

I see you're new here. Welcome. We all feel that pain, believe me we can all relate to how you feel

It's shocking for me to know how many people on SAS describe me when they tell about themselves when I used to think I was alone in this.
I agree. They think it's ok to make snap judgements about people instead of sticking it through to find the real person on the inside. Patience leads you to the best, not judgement. Gah, people make me so angry with that crap! X-( I was always shocked when people told me they thought I hated them when they first met me. I was like WTH??? I was just worried about what you thought of me!!!!

JMX · 10-14-2009, 09:59 PM

Every once in a while I've been told that I'm quiet. I got it a lot in high school though; I've had people ask me why I don't ever talk.

Neptunus · 10-14-2009, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by CoconutHolder

Or better yet, I've had people BLAIM the medication I was on!
You are right. Either way people will use it & that is never fun.

Yep, as cynical as this may sound, most people take advantage of any "weakness." Only the privileged few should know... if anyone.

heyJude · 10-14-2009, 10:49 PM

"Is everything ok?"
"Are you ok? You sure?"
"You are very quiet." I got told this by two of my friends who are quiet themselves.

"Quit being lazy." "You don't want to do anything!" (my dad).

Belle Star · 10-15-2009, 02:32 AM

she is such a *****. I have been called a biatch a lot. Mainly by people who don't know me at all. When I was younger it was: quiet, your so quiet, I thought you were weird when I first met you, I thought you were stuck up.

The best compliment I got was when a friend said I always heard that you never talked but now I am thinking when do you ever shut up!

I still feel like an alien from another planet speaking a different language that no one understands.

DryRun · 10-15-2009, 02:40 AM

I've heard it all.

Stuck up
Conceited
Self absorbed
Quiet. etc. etc

It still amazes me how people draw such misconceptions with so little knowledge.

Dempsey · 10-15-2009, 02:58 AM

Not cheerful
Needs a girlfriend

Logan X · 10-15-2009, 05:04 AM

Pretty much everything that has been said already.

epril · 10-15-2009, 05:12 AM

They have said that I'm lazy, don't live up to my potential, have a chip on my shoulder, I'm unfriendly, unsociable, I don't try, I don't seem to care, I daydream, I'm uninterested, on and on. Yeah, I would choose to be this way??? I hate how judgmental people are just from observing you without really getting to know what makes you tick. Honestly I think most people are afraid of us SAers.

I especially love it when people say, "loosen up! It's ok! We won't hurt you! You just have to learn to let go and live a little!" STFU.

Still Waters · 10-15-2009, 05:19 AM

Very few people have ever actually said it,but I know they often think I'm lazy. I avoid,avoid,avoid things that are "people" related. - Of course that's almost everything. Stuckup is also a super popular opinion as well.

Dolphinsaresmiling · 10-15-2009, 06:18 AM

ugh... 'Just stop worrying!!! (I hope it would be that easy!) Even if you make a mistake, most of people do not care or take too much attention to it, and so what, they're not most likely to see you anymore(random people in public)' - - I like that saying.. but it is hard to think this way... I could say, almost impossible to me.

'Nothing is wrong with you! You're just overreacting!'

'You should get more friends'

'You should talk more'

Hmm...

'Why are you so depressed always?'. ... :-o

'You're lazy'

'You're dreamy, you don't listen'

'You seem so nervous'

GRRRRR!

Hmmm, and lot of other needless things...

Phibes · 10-15-2009, 06:55 AM

We probably assume that they think we're this and that.

Georgina 22 · 10-15-2009, 07:01 AM

quiet, shy, antisocial,

That I am making up excuses.

"Why don't you talk?",

"Your so quiet." ,

"You've just gotta do it! that's how to overcome it!"

wassubie · 10-15-2009, 07:47 PM

Quiet, quiet, and quiet.

I've never been called stuck up. I think I'd have a good laugh at that one.

Meli24R · 10-15-2009, 07:59 PM

Weird, quiet girl, lazy, snob
People have also told me to get a life, that it's all in my head, that I'm just not trying hard enough to overcome this, and that I simply need to believe in myself (yeah easier said than done)
And I wish I had a dollar for everytime someone asked me 'why are you so quiet' or 'don't you talk?'

cabos · 10-15-2009, 08:01 PM

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We probably assume that they think we're this and that.

Yep.

Though I'm pretty sure I've heard everything in this thread at least once in my life. My favourites being "Why are you so sad?" and "Don't be afraid, we don't bite!".

milo001 · 10-16-2009, 01:32 AM

being called anti-social by my principal for many times.and he always advised me "Mixed around with others".been thinking of quiting college.after went to the leadership training camp i guess everyone think of me as anti-social i guess.

CoconutHolder · 10-16-2009, 07:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Phoebus

Yep, as cynical as this may sound, most people take advantage of any "weakness." Only the privileged few should know... if anyone.

So sad yet so so true.

10-15-2009, 02:32 AM	#27 (permalink)
Belle Star Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 20	these days i just get she is such a *****. I have been called a biatch a lot. Mainly by people who don't know me at all. When I was younger it was: quiet, your so quiet, I thought you were weird when I first met you, I thought you were stuck up. The best compliment I got was when a friend said I always heard that you never talked but now I am thinking when do you ever shut up! I still feel like an alien from another planet speaking a different language that no one understands.

10-15-2009, 05:04 AM	#30 (permalink)
Logan X Status: I'm dead inside Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: LaSalle, QC Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 5,274	Pretty much everything that has been said already. __________________ It ain't the fall that gets you. It's the sudden stop at the bottom.

10-15-2009, 05:19 AM	#32 (permalink)
Still Waters Status: Lost And Unaccounted For Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stuck in the Lost and Found Gender: Female Posts: 668	Very few people have ever actually said it,but I know they often think I'm lazy. I avoid,avoid,avoid things that are "people" related. - Of course that's almost everything. Stuckup is also a super popular opinion as well. __________________ I knew a man who lived in fear It was huge,it was angry,it was drawing near Behind his house,a secret place Was the shadow of the demon he could never face. He tells the world that it's sleeping But as the night came 'round I heard it's lonely sound It wasn't roaring,it was weeping. - Weeping - Josh Groban

10-15-2009, 07:47 PM	#36 (permalink)
wassubie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ypsilanti/Ann Arbor, MI Posts: 60	Quiet, quiet, and quiet. I've never been called stuck up. I think I'd have a good laugh at that one. __________________ Twitter

10-14-2009, 05:50 PM	#21 (permalink)
hmf22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Utah Gender: Female Posts: 115	reserved, quiet, weird, shy, rude, stuck up, sad, and so on. I hate when people make comments like that! Would you go up to a fat girl and ask her why she's so fat? would you go up to an ugly girl and ask her why she's so ugly? would you go up to a handicapped girl and ask her why she's handicapped? NO! so why do people think it's ok to go up to me and ask me why I'm so shy and quiet??!! I can't help it people!! sheesh. It makes me feel like so worthless when people do that. It hurts like you would not believe.

10-14-2009, 09:59 PM	#24 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	Every once in a while I've been told that I'm quiet. I got it a lot in high school though; I've had people ask me why I don't ever talk.

10-14-2009, 10:49 PM	#26 (permalink)
heyJude Status: Doodling in the corner. Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 184	"Is everything ok?" "Are you ok? You sure?" "You are very quiet." I got told this by two of my friends who are quiet themselves. "Quit being lazy." "You don't want to do anything!" (my dad).

10-15-2009, 02:40 AM	#28 (permalink)
DryRun Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: TX Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 18	I've heard it all. Stuck up Conceited Self absorbed Quiet. etc. etc It still amazes me how people draw such misconceptions with so little knowledge.

10-15-2009, 02:58 AM	#29 (permalink)
Dempsey Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Sydney Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 631	Not cheerful Needs a girlfriend

10-15-2009, 05:12 AM	#31 (permalink)
epril Status: sa challenger Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: arizona Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 2,646	They have said that I'm lazy, don't live up to my potential, have a chip on my shoulder, I'm unfriendly, unsociable, I don't try, I don't seem to care, I daydream, I'm uninterested, on and on. Yeah, I would choose to be this way??? I hate how judgmental people are just from observing you without really getting to know what makes you tick. Honestly I think most people are afraid of us SAers. I especially love it when people say, "loosen up! It's ok! We won't hurt you! You just have to learn to let go and live a little!" STFU.

10-15-2009, 06:18 AM	#33 (permalink)
Dolphinsaresmiling Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Somewhere Only I Know Gender: Female Posts: 38	ugh... 'Just stop worrying!!! (I hope it would be that easy!) Even if you make a mistake, most of people do not care or take too much attention to it, and so what, they're not most likely to see you anymore(random people in public)' - - I like that saying.. but it is hard to think this way... I could say, almost impossible to me. 'Nothing is wrong with you! You're just overreacting!' 'You should get more friends' 'You should talk more' Hmm... 'Why are you so depressed always?'. ... :-o 'You're lazy' 'You're dreamy, you don't listen' 'You seem so nervous' GRRRRR! Hmmm, and lot of other needless things...

10-15-2009, 06:55 AM	#34 (permalink)
Phibes Status: blessed with lucky sevens Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia. Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 637	We probably assume that they think we're this and that.

10-15-2009, 07:01 AM	#35 (permalink)
Georgina 22 Status: wants to be anxiety-free Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: In my little shell lol Gender: Female Posts: 602	quiet, shy, antisocial, That I am making up excuses. "Why don't you talk?", "Your so quiet." , "You've just gotta do it! that's how to overcome it!"

10-15-2009, 07:59 PM	#37 (permalink)
Meli24R Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 198	Weird, quiet girl, lazy, snob People have also told me to get a life, that it's all in my head, that I'm just not trying hard enough to overcome this, and that I simply need to believe in myself (yeah easier said than done) And I wish I had a dollar for everytime someone asked me 'why are you so quiet' or 'don't you talk?'

10-16-2009, 01:32 AM	#39 (permalink)
milo001 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 245	being called anti-social by my principal for many times.and he always advised me "Mixed around with others".been thinking of quiting college.after went to the leadership training camp i guess everyone think of me as anti-social i guess.