Social Anxiety Support

dawntoearth · 05-27-2009, 04:09 PM

I'm exhausted.

Sunday my boyfriend told me he wanted to take a break to reevaluate the relationship. Then he changed his mind and we made up. Then Monday he broke up with me because he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship. Then he apologized and wanted to get back together. I was staying with him and we were planning to live together for the summer. Everything was going great. Then all this drama happened and I had to leave so I could just...recover. (He's definitely not ready to be living with a girlfriend.)

Wtf man!?!

I love him deeply and want to be with him, but this is so emotionally draining.

I guess this doesn't have much to do with SA, except for the fact that one of the reasons he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me is because he needed someone who he could take to parties and be social with and it didn't seem like I was putting effort into trying to deal with my social anxiety.

Ouch. Specially cuz I was.

Whew. Ok. End rant.

Thanks for reading everyone. Perhaps not the most constructive post, but I just wanted to get this ridiculousness off my chest.

aviationboy · 05-27-2009, 05:13 PM

sounds like he isn't ready to be living with you for starters.. also as you said he isn't comfortable with your SA as he wants someone outgoing to take to social events.
this is my advice (take with a grain of salt as always), if he doesn't want to accept you as YOU are then tell him to hit the road, there are plenty more fish in the sea and you will find someone who appreciates you for how YOU are NOW. you shouldn't have to change for anyone

dawntoearth · 05-28-2009, 03:31 PM

Thanks for the feedback!

kos · 05-28-2009, 03:37 PM

ya never change your personality (ive had that backfire a few times) for anyone. Unless you do like going to parties and all that hip stuff lul. If he is not willing to accept you as you are now whats the point of being in a relationship with him? imo.

05-27-2009, 04:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
dawntoearth Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Boston Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 95	warning: relationship vent I'm exhausted. Sunday my boyfriend told me he wanted to take a break to reevaluate the relationship. Then he changed his mind and we made up. Then Monday he broke up with me because he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship. Then he apologized and wanted to get back together. I was staying with him and we were planning to live together for the summer. Everything was going great. Then all this drama happened and I had to leave so I could just...recover. (He's definitely not ready to be living with a girlfriend.) Wtf man!?! I love him deeply and want to be with him, but this is so emotionally draining. I guess this doesn't have much to do with SA, except for the fact that one of the reasons he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me is because he needed someone who he could take to parties and be social with and it didn't seem like I was putting effort into trying to deal with my social anxiety. Ouch. Specially cuz I was. Whew. Ok. End rant. Thanks for reading everyone. Perhaps not the most constructive post, but I just wanted to get this ridiculousness off my chest.

05-27-2009, 05:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
aviationboy Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 374	sounds like he isn't ready to be living with you for starters.. also as you said he isn't comfortable with your SA as he wants someone outgoing to take to social events. this is my advice (take with a grain of salt as always), if he doesn't want to accept you as YOU are then tell him to hit the road, there are plenty more fish in the sea and you will find someone who appreciates you for how YOU are NOW. you shouldn't have to change for anyone

05-28-2009, 03:31 PM	#3 (permalink)
dawntoearth Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Boston Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 95	Thanks for the feedback!

05-28-2009, 03:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
kos Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ontario Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 513	ya never change your personality (ive had that backfire a few times) for anyone. Unless you do like going to parties and all that hip stuff lul. If he is not willing to accept you as you are now whats the point of being in a relationship with him? imo.