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Old 02-18-2011, 05:47 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I feel like I missed out on soooo much in high school. All I did was play games (world of warcraft mostly). I had a few friends in the beginning of high school, but once I started playing wow I let it take over my life.

Does anyone else feel that games might have played a part in their SA?
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If it wasnt for games I would probably go insane being in the house with nothing to do. I thank games for being a shoulder to lean on.
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Yes yes yes! Video games comfort me. And like the above poster, if I didn't have my video games, I would go crazy!
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Really? Im high school now and I met some pretty cool people just by playing video games. Played Modern warfare 2, met this guy who also played mw2. He was a clan leader full of people from our school. Played a couple games with them. Then met them in person.
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Games really helped me escape from the struggles and pain of SA when I was in HS. No different than tv or music as a way to cope with was dealing with. Final Fantasy X will always have a special place in my heart for that reason.
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Gaming actually helped me socialize. I find that hanging out with gamers is pretty easy. They're fun, they're chill, and they tend to be non-judgmental.
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I enjoy them on occasion. I install when I want to play and uninstall when I'm finished; I always regret looking back at a whole week and realizing it was a forgettable blur of virtual rockets and railguns.
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lol you start playing WoW and that's that pretty much. You no longer belong to the human realm.
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If it wasnt for games I would probably go insane being in the house with nothing to do. I thank games for being a shoulder to lean on.
yes my thoughts exactly!
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I didn't use to be into video games much, but I am now part of a MMO game. It has had an amazing positive effect on me. When I started a year ago, I could hardly get the courage to be where any of the other avatars were, and now I seek out the biggest groups I can find just to chat. I think it is starting to carry over into real life too.
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I feel like I missed out on soooo much in high school. All I did was play games (world of warcraft mostly). I had a few friends in the beginning of high school, but once I started playing wow I let it take over my life.

Does anyone else feel that games might have played a part in their SA?
I think so. I believe there are also some studies that link massive video game playing to causing SA. I think what caused my SA was when I decided to not interact at all with my peers from school that I would just remain mute for the whole day, and when the typical school day was over, I just played video game for hours for the rest of the day; this was pretty much a typical school day for me; thus I lack so much in social skills (which is the main reason as to why I have SA).
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I think so. I believe there are also some studies that link massive video game playing to causing SA. I think what caused my SA was when I decided to not interact at all with my peers from school that I would just remain mute for the whole day, and when the typical school day was over, I just played video game for hours for the rest of the day; this was pretty much a typical school day for me; thus I lack so much in social skills (which is the main reason as to why I have SA).
Same here. I don't really know how to interact with people outside of games. I have some friends from when I used to game all the time, but that's all they do everyday... and that's not what I want my life to be about.
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Same here. I don't really know how to interact with people outside of games.
Yep the same for me too. All I can talk about with people are sports and video games anything else I resort to making people talk about themselves, and then after that the conversation dies. Most people don't keep up with games and sports; thus it makes it makes it extremely hard for me to talk with them.
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Games really helped me escape from the struggles and pain of SA when I was in HS. No different than tv or music as a way to cope with was dealing with. Final Fantasy X will always have a special place in my heart for that reason.
Ditto, down to the FFX comment. Many games, but that one in particular, provided me with an escape from reality and also way to reflect on my feelings during those years. It was especially poignant because I found Tidus to be such a relatable character, and his relationship with Jecht mirrored my own with my father.
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If it wasnt for games I would probably go insane being in the house with nothing to do. I thank games for being a shoulder to lean on.
Exact same with me.
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I'm a gen x old fart now. I wasted my 20's playing mud's long before everquest and wow. Though it was not as immersive and it helped "typing skills" I don't know what else I could have done. It was a "controlled environment" where I didn't feel as lonely even though I hardly talked to other players and then only in safe contexts. Better than sitting in a mall or standing around somewhere where you can feel people checking me out and labeling me a misfit in their minds.. I finally quit when I couldn't live with myself anymore doing it. The "friends" I had on the game I ended up having animosities with or their real lives meant something (married, kids, other rl friends, a real social life) while mine had nothing. Nowadays once in a while I might indulge in a single player RPG like Dragonage and realize I'm escaping for 40+ hours.


The entertainment industries (one of few America has left ) have pushed all kinds of game addictions and SA is still not taken seriously enough. And there's the overpopulation and TV shows.

I'm not saying it's bad for all shy people. The potential to meet new friends does exist. Maybe for a certain subset of SA people it can be harmful in the long run.

I just listen to localized talk radio now. Yes, it's always someone bashing another sub political group or individual and blaming some set of population for wasting taxpayer dollars or some such. Still am going insane to some extent.
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WoW wasn't out when I was in high school. I played other games but mostly I spent my time in chat rooms.

Still, I don't look at it as though my time spent doing that made me miss out on other things. I know perfectly well that if it hadn't been for that I would have had my nose stuck in a book or some other escape. The social anxiety was always there and my not doing something others deemed anti-social wasn't going to make it better. After all, being online was about the most interaction I ever got with strangers.

That being said, I'm actually kind of a loner on WoW now because even that interaction makes me anxious.
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I think it could go both ways.. It may help some learn to be more comfortable talking with other people but personally I feel like games kind of took away the last of my social skills (which wasn't much to begin with, hah). I'm not exactly blaming the games themselves, I'm focusing on the isolation they can possibly lead to. When I think of my childhood I don't have any memories to look back on where I was having fun hanging out with friends. I can only remember the endless hours I spent in an MMO. Even if I didn't play games though, like someone else said, I would very easily be able to find another solitary distraction.

I spent so much time stuck in front of my computer that I kind of forgot how to act & talk to people in real life. I would sit in school daydreaming about going home as soon as possible so I could level up, lol. And its funny, I have SA even online, so I don't really interact too often with other people in game. On one hand it sort of doesn't bother me because I'm naturally an introvert & enjoy time by myself. But, once in a while, I do get lonely and wish I actually had friends in real life, or at least still had some social skills left to make some, hah.
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Yes, I migth have been more social if I wasn't playing all the time. But they have helped me to cope with me feelings. I don't know what I would had done if I couldn't play when I was in high school. Maybe I would have felt more anxious or depressed back then.

I really like playing. It's a part of me since I was 7. When I remember my life I remember mostly what game I was playing back then and I think: that game was amazing. One of my childhood memories are playing Super Mario Kart with my brother or Donkey Kong Country. Of course one have to do other stuff, if I ever have kids I will encourage them to make friends and practice some sports.

I wish I knew another gamer though, Im the guy who knows more about games than most of my friends. They just talk about girls and football.
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For me, personally, MMO's have taught me how to socialise. I owe a huge amount to what people have taught me online and although they're hardly an integral part of my life anymore they've left a huge mark on me. If I didn't have them I don't think I'd be capable of making small-talk.

I remember reading this study about how a closet-gay opened up online to strangers and by doing that he was able to open up to his family and friends.

I feel my situation is akin to that, by forcing me to be myself online I've ended up becoming more outgoing and like myself in real life.
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