Social Anxiety Support

mrsnorris22 · 04-23-2012, 11:17 AM

The most difficult aspect for me is missing out on opportunities that would benefit me/help me grow in some way. Like now, I think I have enough of the confidence that I lacked in high school to be able to join in on more of the activities. As a college student, and running in to a few people from high school who are actually nice, it's frustrating that I never opened up to these people before--otherwise, I think I would have viewed my high school experience in a much different light.

Ugh, I know it's not good to dwell--but running in to those nice people whom I never gave a chance to or even attempted to get to know before really got me thinking about this.

What is the most difficult aspect of SA for you?

jim11 · 04-23-2012, 11:21 AM

Spot on!

Theologic · 04-23-2012, 11:49 AM

It's hard knowing that this is the only thing between me and a lot of things.

MidnightBlu · 04-23-2012, 12:05 PM

Limited job opportunities. I can't do any social pressure jobs especially when it comes to sales jobs.
Inability to have fun with people. I'm scared to hang out with a lot of people.

Invisigirl · 04-23-2012, 12:07 PM

All the things I can't have because of it, that are so easy to obtain for people without it.

Ventura · 04-23-2012, 12:14 PM

The point I start to shake, and can't speak to people, or when my nerves get so bad I throw up.

kpx0 · 04-23-2012, 12:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Invisigirl

All the things I can't have because of it, that are so easy to obtain for people without it.

Me too. Dating especially..

Melatonin93 · 04-23-2012, 12:31 PM

I think the most difficult part of SA for me is that I can't really express myself the way I want to, because everytime I talk to people I get this blackout, where I forget the most simple words and have to use different words instead.
Because of this I often can't speak my mind, which really frustrates me.

The other thing that really sickens me is that SA keeps me from getting into a romantic relationship. I think this is the most difficult aspect for a lot of people who suffer from this disorder

Paloma M · 04-23-2012, 12:35 PM

Not living my life to its fullest and missing out good opportunities as well.

Michael127 · 04-23-2012, 12:54 PM

Summed up perfectly: "Not living my life to its fullest and missing out good opportunities as well." I just cannot grab life by the horns and not let go. It bucks me off almost every time.

mrsnorris22 · 04-23-2012, 01:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Theologic

It's hard knowing that this is the only thing between me and a lot of things.

I feel you! hahah

BKrakow · 04-23-2012, 01:29 PM

definitely letting opportunities pass by out of fear...also, stressing over everything I say and replaying it in my head after the fact and constantly wondering if I'm coming off the wrong way; and often being unable to stand up for myself, even when I know I should.

Lasair · 04-23-2012, 01:30 PM

Physically not been able to address my own personal problems as I am so afraid to speak them out load

momentsunset · 04-23-2012, 01:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Invisigirl

All the things I can't have because of it, that are so easy to obtain for people without it.

yeah exactly.

ramelxa · 04-23-2012, 01:39 PM

Experiencing love. Being aggressive enough to get someone to care.

Black And Mild · 04-23-2012, 02:26 PM

Forming bonds with other people, and being open about how I feel is pretty hard for me. Also, getting out of my comfort zone.

Machine37 · 04-23-2012, 02:34 PM

The 'wimpy' label.
I'm not a small guy but.....
" You should speak up more."
" You're too nice."
" He can't even look into your eyes."
" Don't hurt his feelings."

And the' scary' label.
" He'll snap and kill you."
" We don't want to make you mad."
" Watch out for the quiet ones."

Screwed one way, screwed the other....

MadeinLithuania · 04-23-2012, 02:35 PM

Show positive emotions - it's really difficult and I can't to show that I'm interesting in someone, but if I show it, I feel really bad >.<

wanderinginwonderland · 04-23-2012, 03:03 PM

All the chances with girls I lost out on but I can't blame everything just on SA lots of dominos had to fall in the wrong places to get here.

CaptainRoommate · 04-23-2012, 03:39 PM

Weaseling out of something social because I'm afraid, even though I want to do it.
Hours/days of painful anticipation -> moments of temporary relief -> Weeks/Months/Years of crushing shame.

04-23-2012, 11:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
mrsnorris22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: US Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 379	The most difficult aspect of SA for you guys? The most difficult aspect for me is missing out on opportunities that would benefit me/help me grow in some way. Like now, I think I have enough of the confidence that I lacked in high school to be able to join in on more of the activities. As a college student, and running in to a few people from high school who are actually nice, it's frustrating that I never opened up to these people before--otherwise, I think I would have viewed my high school experience in a much different light. Ugh, I know it's not good to dwell--but running in to those nice people whom I never gave a chance to or even attempted to get to know before really got me thinking about this. What is the most difficult aspect of SA for you?

04-23-2012, 11:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
Theologic Status: // SMTA Join Date: Apr 2012 Gender: Male Posts: 1,330	It's hard knowing that this is the only thing between me and a lot of things. __________________ "Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward."- Victor Kiam Twitch.Tv Youtube

04-23-2012, 12:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
Invisigirl Status: Why are you so loud? Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NY Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 724	All the things I can't have because of it, that are so easy to obtain for people without it. __________________ Estoy cansada de esta pinche misera

04-23-2012, 01:39 PM	#15 (permalink)
ramelxa Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 11	The most difficult aspect of SA for you guys? Experiencing love. Being aggressive enough to get someone to care.

04-23-2012, 03:39 PM	#20 (permalink)
CaptainRoommate Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Michigan Gender: Male Posts: 258	Weaseling out of something social because I'm afraid, even though I want to do it. Hours/days of painful anticipation -> moments of temporary relief -> Weeks/Months/Years of crushing shame. __________________ Come on in now, wipe your feet on my dreams

04-23-2012, 11:21 AM	#2 (permalink)
jim11 Status: SOS Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: In front of my computer Gender: Male Posts: 1,712	Spot on!

04-23-2012, 12:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
MidnightBlu Status: Sofa King Fabulous Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,989	Limited job opportunities. I can't do any social pressure jobs especially when it comes to sales jobs. Inability to have fun with people. I'm scared to hang out with a lot of people.

04-23-2012, 12:14 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ventura Status: Registered Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 10,386	The point I start to shake, and can't speak to people, or when my nerves get so bad I throw up.

04-23-2012, 12:31 PM	#8 (permalink)
Melatonin93 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 6	I think the most difficult part of SA for me is that I can't really express myself the way I want to, because everytime I talk to people I get this blackout, where I forget the most simple words and have to use different words instead. Because of this I often can't speak my mind, which really frustrates me. The other thing that really sickens me is that SA keeps me from getting into a romantic relationship. I think this is the most difficult aspect for a lot of people who suffer from this disorder

04-23-2012, 12:35 PM	#9 (permalink)
Paloma M Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Texas Age: 23 Posts: 2,590	Not living my life to its fullest and missing out good opportunities as well.

04-23-2012, 12:54 PM	#10 (permalink)
Michael127 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Victoria, B.C. Gender: Male Posts: 516	Summed up perfectly: "Not living my life to its fullest and missing out good opportunities as well." I just cannot grab life by the horns and not let go. It bucks me off almost every time.

04-23-2012, 01:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
BKrakow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: new england Gender: Female Posts: 2,095	definitely letting opportunities pass by out of fear...also, stressing over everything I say and replaying it in my head after the fact and constantly wondering if I'm coming off the wrong way; and often being unable to stand up for myself, even when I know I should.

04-23-2012, 01:30 PM	#13 (permalink)
Lasair Status: User Requested Temporary Ban Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Ireland Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 7,255	Physically not been able to address my own personal problems as I am so afraid to speak them out load

04-23-2012, 02:26 PM	#16 (permalink)
Black And Mild Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Unknown Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 1,696	Forming bonds with other people, and being open about how I feel is pretty hard for me. Also, getting out of my comfort zone.

04-23-2012, 02:34 PM	#17 (permalink)
Machine37 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 66	The 'wimpy' label. I'm not a small guy but..... " You should speak up more." " You're too nice." " He can't even look into your eyes." " Don't hurt his feelings." And the' scary' label. " He'll snap and kill you." " We don't want to make you mad." " Watch out for the quiet ones." Screwed one way, screwed the other....

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