Social Anxiety Support

Mucho · 11-02-2009, 08:15 PM

I don't suffer much from SA, but let me tell you, talking to people sucks for me! Like, for some reason when I start talking it's almost like the other person is getting bored of everything I say. Don't know if it's cause I got a weak voice or what, but it's just really bad in conversations. I suck with small talk, and plus about five minutes in, most people start to distance themselves from me! Why the heck is this?

Actually, even on forums, I noticed a lot of times people ignore my comments like I'm not there

ugh...is it the way I talk?

I'm guessing all of you can probably relate to this a lot. What can I do about any of this?

bwidger85 · 11-03-2009, 07:43 AM

Sometimes I think people do these things because of your energy that you give out (low energy). Other times I think that all I have to do is be interested in something and almost always it shows and people react positively. I think you may be exaggerating instances online but in real life, who knows? My only advise would be to stay interested in what your interested in, don't try too hard, don't let it consume your energy and thoughts and stop being hard on yourself because a lot of it has to do with the other person and not just you. However, by all means, if you WANT to talk then talk and do it because you enjoy it and not because of the reactions you get. That's all I got.

Mucho · 11-18-2009, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by bwidger85

Sometimes I think people do these things because of your energy that you give out (low energy). Other times I think that all I have to do is be interested in something and almost always it shows and people react positively. I think you may be exaggerating instances online but in real life, who knows? My only advise would be to stay interested in what your interested in, don't try too hard, don't let it consume your energy and thoughts and stop being hard on yourself because a lot of it has to do with the other person and not just you. However, by all means, if you WANT to talk then talk and do it because you enjoy it and not because of the reactions you get. That's all I got.

Hey I'm sorry that this is such a laaaaaaaaaaaaate response, but I just checked, and I noticed I got an answer. So, I wanted to say I agree with you about the energy thing, but then again I can't really do anything about that. I wonder how people can sense that I'm uncomfortable =/

Anyway, this topic proves what I said. I speak, no one listens. It's like I'm not even there. At least I GOT a response this time haha. So anyway, just wanted to say thanks, and sorry for the late response.

11-02-2009, 08:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mucho Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Sandston VA, USA Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 21	So hard to talk! I don't suffer much from SA, but let me tell you, talking to people sucks for me! Like, for some reason when I start talking it's almost like the other person is getting bored of everything I say. Don't know if it's cause I got a weak voice or what, but it's just really bad in conversations. I suck with small talk, and plus about five minutes in, most people start to distance themselves from me! Why the heck is this? Actually, even on forums, I noticed a lot of times people ignore my comments like I'm not there ugh...is it the way I talk? I'm guessing all of you can probably relate to this a lot. What can I do about any of this?

11-03-2009, 07:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
bwidger85 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 708	Sometimes I think people do these things because of your energy that you give out (low energy). Other times I think that all I have to do is be interested in something and almost always it shows and people react positively. I think you may be exaggerating instances online but in real life, who knows? My only advise would be to stay interested in what your interested in, don't try too hard, don't let it consume your energy and thoughts and stop being hard on yourself because a lot of it has to do with the other person and not just you. However, by all means, if you WANT to talk then talk and do it because you enjoy it and not because of the reactions you get. That's all I got. __________________ Album #3 (download my complete third album as it is right now!)