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Emptyheart · 09-15-2009, 09:50 PM

I know this is kinda off..
But me and my ex have broken up for
About 2 months..it just wasn't working out.
I just felt like I didn't know em anymore
And he wasn't my type at all..it was weird because
At times I was really in love with this guy.
He told me he loved me and I didn't say it back,
Instead I told em I don't love you the same I used too.
Maybe I was just tired from all the arguing and fighting He always
Brings..and he doesn't treat me well either..he kinda treats me like
Crap, but everytime we split up he always has a way of
Sweeping me off my feet again and I just get back with him.
The only times I really miss him is when Im feeling low and lonely.
Which I'm kinda feeling right now..I guess he's just someone I can talk too.

zomgz · 09-15-2009, 10:47 PM

oh i wouldn't, if he's mean to you that's just not coooool.. my dad was like that, everytime he would say something hurtful he would be all nice again. it just doesn't work though because now i just can't trust him at all lol.

mooncake · 09-16-2009, 01:51 AM

From the sounds of it, it would be a mistake to get back with this guy. I understand the loneliness that might drive you to want to have him in your life again, but it seems as though when it comes down to it, he's just not a good boyfriend to you. Unless the break-up was down to a reason that has been resolved, the same problems are only going to pop up again and again. You also said 'everytime' we split up... which leads me to think that perhaps it's best to let this relationship go for good if you've already given it numerous tries but it still isn't working. Don't fall for the charm he puts on when he wants you to come crawling back to him; tell yourself you're better than that and that you deserve someone who won't hurt you as he has.

nightrain · 09-16-2009, 01:26 PM

Stay away from him. You don't deserve to be treated badly.

nobodyuknow · 09-16-2009, 10:19 PM

Do you want to get back together with him, or is it just easier than meeting new people? Because I don't think it sounds like a good idea, either.

Nobody should stay with someone who treats them like dirt, especially someone who is working on anxiety and self-esteem issues.

My sister was with this guy who ended up hitting her when they got into a huge fight. Afterwards she was always saying stuff like it was family interference (which is bull because she stopped talking to any of us when she was involved with this guy). She is stuck having to deal with him (even though they aren't together) because she ended up having a kid with him. For the longest time she was crying over him and going on about how wonderful he was. He wasn't wonderful. He was a controlling abuser. It was his pattern. I'm scared of stuff like that.

I think if you have reservations now, you should bail while you can. Think of it as self-preservation.

Emptyheart · 09-16-2009, 10:51 PM

Thx guys for the advice.
I'm not going to lie, he was also abusive..
I just don't know why I always end missing this guy.
I mean Ive gotten aproched by very goodlooking guys,
And I guess when he found out..he just wants to slip back
Into my life...I think I'm going to finally let go of him..start fresh.

09-15-2009, 09:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
Emptyheart Status: wishes to be SA-free Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: In my own world. Gender: Female Posts: 368	Should I get back with him? I know this is kinda off.. But me and my ex have broken up for About 2 months..it just wasn't working out. I just felt like I didn't know em anymore And he wasn't my type at all..it was weird because At times I was really in love with this guy. He told me he loved me and I didn't say it back, Instead I told em I don't love you the same I used too. Maybe I was just tired from all the arguing and fighting He always Brings..and he doesn't treat me well either..he kinda treats me like Crap, but everytime we split up he always has a way of Sweeping me off my feet again and I just get back with him. The only times I really miss him is when Im feeling low and lonely. Which I'm kinda feeling right now..I guess he's just someone I can talk too.

09-15-2009, 10:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Wherever The Winds Fly Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Washington Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 600	oh i wouldn't, if he's mean to you that's just not coooool.. my dad was like that, everytime he would say something hurtful he would be all nice again. it just doesn't work though because now i just can't trust him at all lol. __________________ Chained to the bottom of the ocean floor, it's like running underwater. Feel free to add me to: Myspace \| Facebook \| Mindviz

09-16-2009, 01:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
nightrain Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: NC Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 825	Stay away from him. You don't deserve to be treated badly. __________________ My youtube videos!

09-16-2009, 10:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
nobodyuknow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: somewhere Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 79	Do you want to get back together with him, or is it just easier than meeting new people? Because I don't think it sounds like a good idea, either. Nobody should stay with someone who treats them like dirt, especially someone who is working on anxiety and self-esteem issues. My sister was with this guy who ended up hitting her when they got into a huge fight. Afterwards she was always saying stuff like it was family interference (which is bull because she stopped talking to any of us when she was involved with this guy). She is stuck having to deal with him (even though they aren't together) because she ended up having a kid with him. For the longest time she was crying over him and going on about how wonderful he was. He wasn't wonderful. He was a controlling abuser. It was his pattern. I'm scared of stuff like that. I think if you have reservations now, you should bail while you can. Think of it as self-preservation. __________________ when we are scared we can hide in our reveries but what we need is a change of ideas --bad religion

09-16-2009, 01:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
mooncake Status: wooden hippie nice Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 189	From the sounds of it, it would be a mistake to get back with this guy. I understand the loneliness that might drive you to want to have him in your life again, but it seems as though when it comes down to it, he's just not a good boyfriend to you. Unless the break-up was down to a reason that has been resolved, the same problems are only going to pop up again and again. You also said 'everytime' we split up... which leads me to think that perhaps it's best to let this relationship go for good if you've already given it numerous tries but it still isn't working. Don't fall for the charm he puts on when he wants you to come crawling back to him; tell yourself you're better than that and that you deserve someone who won't hurt you as he has.

09-16-2009, 10:51 PM	#6 (permalink)
Emptyheart Status: wishes to be SA-free Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: In my own world. Gender: Female Posts: 368	Thx guys for the advice. I'm not going to lie, he was also abusive.. I just don't know why I always end missing this guy. I mean Ive gotten aproched by very goodlooking guys, And I guess when he found out..he just wants to slip back Into my life...I think I'm going to finally let go of him..start fresh.