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Should I delete my crush from facebook

Okay, my crush makes me feel very insecure. I feel like I can't do anything without him judging me. Plus he hates me. Funny story. I rejected him because he hurt my friend's feelings and it really seemed that my crush liked me. I added him on facebook and apologized to him. He accepted my friend request but he won't forgive me. Why would he accept my friend request and not forgive me? That just confused me. Well anyways, since I know that he hates me and he probably is not going to forgive me, should I just delete him? Or will that only make me look like an immature person. I feel like if I delete him, I would move on from him and forget about him, but I kind of still like him. I don't know what to do.
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Yep, just hit delete and don't look back or you can just place him in your FB restricted group. That's where I keep all my family members


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I say delete him, especially if you think it would help you. From what you told us, he sounds like the immature one.

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I feel like if I delete him, I would move on from him and forget about him
From what you write, this doesn't sound like such a bad thing

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Give the other person the benefit of the doubt...
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Okay, my crush makes me feel very insecure. I feel like I can't do anything without him judging me. Plus he hates me. Funny story. I rejected him because he hurt my friend's feelings and it really seemed that my crush liked me. I added him on facebook and apologized to him. He accepted my friend request but he won't forgive me. Why would he accept my friend request and not forgive me? That just confused me.
This sounds really ****ing familiar. These people string you along by acting like they love you and they always twist things around so it's your fault and never, ever even slightly theirs. The fact that he re-added you just to berate you is just so typical.

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Well anyways, since I know that he hates me and he probably is not going to forgive me, should I just delete him? Or will that only make me look like an immature person.
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Why would you even think about keeping him? Delete him without a second thought. It sounds like he's been an *** to you and you have every right to delete him. He's never forgiven you. So, you should not talk to him anymore.
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I would delete him. Just seems way too awkward to me to have somebody on your friends list when he won't even forgive you. :/

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Ask yourself if you'd feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with him reading it. If the answer's now (I can guess that it is) then I'd delete him.
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So I did decide to delete and block my crush on facebook. I want to move on from him and to break free which I did. It was also stupid that I had him as one of my friends when he actually won't forgive me so screw that you know. I'm not going to have him on there. I actually deactivated my facebook and I don't want to get it back. There's no point in having one anyway.
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This sounds really ****ing familiar. These people string you along by acting like they love you and they always twist things around so it's your fault and never, ever even slightly theirs. The fact that he re-added you just to berate you is just so typical.



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So I did end up doing it and I feel so much better now. Not only did I delete him, but I blocked him as well. It was stupid for me to have him on my friend list and why would I want to keep him there you know? So I deleted him.
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Sounds like you did the right thing, good job.
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Sounds like you did the right thing, good job.
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