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does anybody feel sexual tension almost everywhere they go, the store, the mall, restaurants, maybe it's just me and my lack of sexual experiences,
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I thought sexual tension was something you felt with another person exclusively?

Anyway, I am feeling it according to the above definition now.

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I don't feel it too often, but I get real uncomfortable around girls when they show clevege. One girl in my class today looked like her breasts were about to pop out of her shirt it was so low. I don't feel much sexual tension, I just want to avoid girls and get away from it.
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Don't worry, for any young dude it's very normal to feel horny like almost all the time. Find yourself a gf and get laid and everything's fine.
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Yes I do, not everywhere though, I dont know what your beliefs are but you may be a tad psychic, take that word however you want.
People find me weird, I know when people are having sex or have had it. I have predicted people having sex with each other before apprently they even knew.
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Don't worry, for any young dude it's very normal to feel horny like almost all the time. Find yourself a gf and get laid and everything's fine.
Easier said than done, especially when you have SA.
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Easier said than done, especially when you have SA.

Haa sadly I dont think that would resolve it, well if your anything like me. Yes my own sexual energy gets diverted into whoever im with at the time, but I still pick up on other peoples.

There is a big difference between sensing sexual tension in places between other people, or actually getting turned on by it or being horny yourself. Try to figure out which one it is
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No, I rarely feel it. And I do mean rarely.
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if that means having a constant erection as i walk around for no reason, yes, i have a lot of sexual tension.
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Do you mean like random boners, if so yes. Me too.
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does anybody feel sexual tension almost everywhere they go, the store, the mall, restaurants, maybe it's just me and my lack of sexual experiences,
I feel it a bit when I see pretty girls everywhere and wish i could ask them out or flirt. I also have crushes on some of my neighbours, especially the girl next door. I don't feel like majorly depressed from it though as there is always my right hand. Relationships are often more trouble than their worth anyways especially with someone with SA who prefers their own space and enjoys being alone. I do miss one night stands and random encounters, but without alcohol I can't do that any more.

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Whenever I see a hot girl I think I should be sleeping with her. Since I have a girlfriend right now it's not as bad...but those thoughts are still there when I'm not with her and I'm in public places.
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Sort of. And it's also sort of new to me, since I've only recently begun to put myself out there, after years of almost never leaving the house. Now, every day, I get surrounded by college girls when I commute. I tell ya, it's hard to handle it... (No pun intended. Seriously.)
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does anybody feel sexual tension almost everywhere they go, the store, the mall, restaurants, maybe it's just me and my lack of sexual experiences,
YES. I THINK EVERY GIRL THAT LOOKS AT ME WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH ME! I still feel like it's true though even though it's not a rational thought.

And this is important: this one girl in my group meeting for a project kept glancing at me the whole time like every 10 seconds. She was ugly and might have SA herself. It was so annoying I couldn't even concentrate! I just kept seeing her eyes turn over to me with my peripheral vision. She looked so unconfident and unsure of herself when she was doing it. I THINK THIS MIGHT BE EXACTLY WHAT I DO TO SOME GIRLS! I will never do it again though now that I know. I will just try to focus on the present moment and let my eyes go wherever that takes me.

Do any of you think you might do this?
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Every so often I make eye contact with some guy and I feel like it might be there. that's probably my imagination. But it's just so hard to tell if it's really there on not. this one time a couple weeks ago I kept looking at this guy who was obviously gay, and looking away, and he kept doing it too. and then it was weird when he got off the bus. It's just so hard to tell if the stories I come up with in my head about strangers and nonverbal communication are true. like for instance today, I was singing to myself as I walked home, and I unexpectedly came across this couple just standing on a street corner. I was embarrassed and I stopped singing...they both had big smiles on their faces, and I wondered if they were smiling because of my singing. It was weird.

Idk, interactions with strangers are weird in general, because they're usually so short and ambiguous.

to the poster above me: yeah, I think I might do that. I'm constantly looking at everyone around me. But generally only when I'm riding the bus or something, or walking down a hall full of people I don't know. I can see why it might weird people out, so I've been trying to stare less lately.

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I haven't had a random erection since puberty. How is that so many of you are popping up in public so often?
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idk...it just happens. maybe the erection part of puberty is now in effect, years after the rest of it is over? maybe cause i play with myself a lot, when i am not playing along, it wants me.
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I haven't had a random erection since puberty. How is that so many of you are popping up in public so often?
me neither! I think it might have to do with the meds I'm on.

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