People think i'm stupid, weak, and inferior to them.

[Grapefruits]

Originally Posted by Christina123

If you behave like a doormat, people will treat you like one.
I behave like a doormat, which is why I allow other people to have way too much power over me.

And how, exactly, does one behave like a doormat?

[Mae West]

Originally Posted by weird woman

Yes, i've actually been told by people that i'm inferior, weak, and stupid. Here's some things i have been told:

"You should just learn to live with people treating you like crap because you are weaker than everyone else and you can't change it even if you really try to, so just live with it and pretend to like it, and learn to be happy with it, cause you can't really do anything about it anyway."

"You aren't as smart as most other people because of your lack of life experience and personality."

"I'm glad i didn't turn out like you did."

"You're usually wrong about everything, you should just agree with us because we are right."

"You probably just sit on the couch all day."

"You're my project, I'm gonna mold you."

And other stuff.

Where can i find people who will just talk to you as an equal?

But yeah you guys are right. F people like that. Even if most people in my life is gonna be like that. Then i'll just have to make it clear that i don't want those people around me, and that no one has the right to talk to me like that. The more i let people talk to me like that, the more they think it's ok to be like that to me. People can often make other people feel like less than a human being.

Those people are a-holes. I wouldn't spend a second with people like that unless I was forced to work with them. Have you stood up for yourself and made it clear this behavior isn't appropriate? This might make them back down. Even if they do back down I would protect myself against people that are pushing the boundaries and trying to be the aggressor.

[NatureFellow]

Well, if you think people perceive you like that then that's how reality will be.
Don't let people walk over you, but at the same time establish a quiet confidence.

I always find it inspiring when you see someone that doesn't have to say anything that yet has a 'presence' about them. You are constantly aware they are in the room simply by the way they are stood and by the way they interact with other people.

I have been told that when I speak everyone in the room listens, and I've been told that on numerous occasions. That's simply because I don't speak any old tat that comes into my head, and I'm a very good listener ; a quality many people find admirable in another person.

I hope this helps.
This was not meant to be a self indulgent post on my behalf.
Regards, Matt.

[InMyDreams55]

Originally Posted by weird woman

Yes, i've actually been told by people that i'm inferior, weak, and stupid. Here's some things i have been told:

"You should just learn to live with people treating you like crap because you are weaker than everyone else and you can't change it even if you really try to, so just live with it and pretend to like it, and learn to be happy with it, cause you can't really do anything about it anyway."

"You aren't as smart as most other people because of your lack of life experience and personality."

"I'm glad i didn't turn out like you did."

"You're usually wrong about everything, you should just agree with us because we are right."

"You probably just sit on the couch all day."

"You're my project, I'm gonna mold you."

And other stuff.

Where can i find people who will just talk to you as an equal?

But yeah you guys are right. F people like that. Even if most people in my life is gonna be like that. Then i'll just have to make it clear that i don't want those people around me, and that no one has the right to talk to me like that. The more i let people talk to me like that, the more they think it's ok to be like that to me. People can often make other people feel like less than a human being.

Errr....weird woman....with all due respect....whoever these people are who are telling you these things, you need to cut them off ASAP!

I hate the "I am better than you" types. Hate. HATE. With a capital H.

[Grapefruits]

Originally Posted by Eia Au

I automatically take a passive stance whenever someone projects superiority whether they verbalize it or just say it with the way they carry themselves. I don't know why I am so comfortable being one down to everyone, it is shameful and has made me a very angry person.

Same here. Whenever someone really arrogant or confident walks by or I see them looking at me, I generally will not make eye contact and I will become very tense.

In high school, I was so ignorant of classism and stuff like that until I was a senior. While a freshmen, in one of my classes there was a group of popular kids. Very cocky, arrogant, boastful, etc. And I sat at the table with nerdy misfits. Kids with acne, glasses, etc. Sometimes I would catch one of the really really stuck up ones staring at us with a scowl and turning her nose up. They were all very wealthy, and wound up going to a top 50 college that is in our state. One of them even went to Harvard.

I personally am terrified of people like that. I encountered a lot of snobbery from teachers and other students because I had bad grades and accidentally said out loud that I was attending community college. In addition I was in no sports or clubs or ANYTHING at all in high school. Boy did the snobbery get worse. My school had a very large upper middle class population.

I am fully aware that I have very low self-confidence, self-esteem, etc. and so if someone walks by me or looks at me and has that aura of superiority usually I think back to those kids in HS who had that same aura, and actually had stuff to back it up with. I don't have anything. I mean, in a way I suppose diverting my eyes is like an animal who backs down and allows the alpha to rule or something, but how on Earth can I act confident around people like that when generally I don't have anything to be confident about?

[Grapefruits]

Originally Posted by NatureFellow

Well, if you think people perceive you like that then that's how reality will be.
Don't let people walk over you, but at the same time establish a quiet confidence.

I always find it inspiring when you see someone that doesn't have to say anything that yet has a 'presence' about them. You are constantly aware they are in the room simply by the way they are stood and by the way they interact with other people.

I have been told that when I speak everyone in the room listens, and I've been told that on numerous occasions. That's simply because I don't speak any old tat that comes into my head, and I'm a very good listener ; a quality many people find admirable in another person.

I hope this helps.
This was not meant to be a self indulgent post on my behalf.
Regards, Matt.

Ugh, I always hated that in high school. Whenever I spoke up, the entire room would get quiet and just stare at me intently. I found it to be really rude and it just accelerated my social anxiety and fear of speaking. I don't know why people give a crap about what I have to say, anyway. Most of the kids probably thought that I was smart but in reality I had terrible grades.