Social Anxiety Support

weird woman · 02-03-2012, 02:50 PM

Maybe it's true. Maybe I am. But they have no right to tell me i am. And i really need to learn how to stop hating myself so much every time someone basically calls me weak and inferior to them.

RonPRon · 02-03-2012, 03:11 PM

Do people literally tell you that?

Eia Au · 02-03-2012, 03:21 PM

I automatically take a passive stance whenever someone projects superiority whether they verbalize it or just say it with the way they carry themselves. I don't know why I am so comfortable being one down to everyone, it is shameful and has made me a very angry person.

epostler · 02-03-2012, 03:22 PM

In my opinion anyone who calls a person weak or inferior to them are 10x more weak and inferior. And you shouldn't let the opinions of someone so weak minded get to you. And honestly they can go **** themselves.
Just show them how superior you really are by shrugging away their ignorant statements.

I am sorry people are so cruel, don't even associate with such a d-bag. You deserve better!

CrimsonTrigger · 02-03-2012, 03:54 PM

Chances are they have that attitude about everybody, not just you. Those so called superior people are arrogant and enjoy making others feel bad about themselves. They are probably narcissistic. When people say stuff like that to me, I don't even respond or acknowledge them. I just go about my day doing what I was doing. It won't take back those words, but they at least close off the part of you that would be affected by it.

I know the words ignore it are thrown around constantly probably don't fix anything, but sometimes it's all you can do. Trust me, you are not inferior to anybody, even when they think they can logically prove that you are.

Quinn the Eskimo · 02-03-2012, 03:58 PM

People think the same about me

Im misunderstood

Guess its my payback for all the years that I thought the same thing about people

Ljudumilu · 02-03-2012, 04:04 PM

Do people really say that? I'm sorry for you if they do. Like people have said, you have to wonder about anyone who'd actually say that to someone, irregardless of whether or not it's true - and I doubt it is true; anyone who'd actually say something so mean-natured is clearly lacking in some basic humanity.

Beelz · 02-03-2012, 04:20 PM

the ones that are truely inferior are the people who think that why they just have some comlex just ignore them

ainsleigh · 02-03-2012, 04:52 PM

What really matters is what you think about you. These people who put you down, have their own internal issues. It's no excuse, but you wouldn't want to be paying too much attention to these people.

We are often our own worst enemy - talking down to ourselves, beating ourselves up, focusing on the negative aspects of our lives. I think focusing on improving our negative self talk can be more helpful than worrying about what others think of us. I know it's easier said than done though, especially with anxiety.

kanra · 02-03-2012, 06:52 PM

People have treated me like I'm stupid, weak, and inferior to them as well. But I'm probably stronger than them, and considering I'm not that desperate to lie to myself to fit in with the crowd I might even be more superior to them.

Someone's actually told me that they didn't care about anything I said, and they also said they were trying really hard not to be mean to me, then they told me they thought I was stupid and childish. WTF. Maybe I can be childish, but I'm just modest and polite to people, so I'm not stupid... Ugh, it's not even worth reasoning. That proves the childish part. She was a *****...
But I just hate those people, and I'm sorry if someone called you that. If anything, try to put THEM below YOU. Don't give them the time of day, and ignore them whenever possible.

jd46 · 02-03-2012, 07:33 PM

I remember as a youngun my grandfather used to say (if you want respect you must first show respect)also(if you want a friend you must be a friend)but it seems over the course of my lifetime these sentiments have slowly been flipped to being nearly upside down,common socialization nowadays is a sort of people ranking on each other ,and there is so much insecurity about social prestige and so forth ,that unless you are the type of person whose willing to play the game youre in the lurch ,but at the same time your time is yours to dance to your own tune,sure there are drawbacks(not getting laid)but we must embrace each new day.weird woman you take insults personally,I do as well,I wish in my aloofness I could identify the damsels in distress and possibly save the day.

Twelve Keyz · 02-03-2012, 08:08 PM

do people really tell you that or do you just feel that way? I often feel inferior to other guys. it could just be low self esteem.

sundays · 02-03-2012, 08:50 PM

live your life the way you want to, not the way you're supposed to.
some of the best words of advice i've ever received

weird woman · 02-03-2012, 10:17 PM

Yes, i've actually been told by people that i'm inferior, weak, and stupid. Here's some things i have been told:

"You should just learn to live with people treating you like crap because you are weaker than everyone else and you can't change it even if you really try to, so just live with it and pretend to like it, and learn to be happy with it, cause you can't really do anything about it anyway."

"You aren't as smart as most other people because of your lack of life experience and personality."

"I'm glad i didn't turn out like you did."

"You're usually wrong about everything, you should just agree with us because we are right."

"You probably just sit on the couch all day."

"You're my project, I'm gonna mold you."

And other stuff.

Where can i find people who will just talk to you as an equal?

But yeah you guys are right. F people like that. Even if most people in my life is gonna be like that. Then i'll just have to make it clear that i don't want those people around me, and that no one has the right to talk to me like that. The more i let people talk to me like that, the more they think it's ok to be like that to me. People can often make other people feel like less than a human being.

Christina123 · 02-03-2012, 11:39 PM

If you behave like a doormat, people will treat you like one.
I behave like a doormat, which is why I allow other people to have way too much power over me.

Toppington · 02-04-2012, 12:24 AM

You give their words power. Do you want to be their stepping stone or do you want to prove them wrong so they can feel like the shallow idiots they truly are? I've had my fair share of similar comments thrown at me and I will admit that I let them wound me and my pride but I always get back up. You can't let some shallow *******s shut you and your life down for good. Keep going, please.

jay l · 02-04-2012, 04:36 AM

wow. people would say that to you? thats terrible.
As hard as it is, try not to let them bring you down with their statements. dont let them get what they want. they probably just want to feel better about themselves. Maybe try to use their insults as motivation to prove them wrong.

FreshPerspective · 02-04-2012, 09:38 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzEa9...eature=mh_lolz

That video has a LOT of incite.
Going by the principles of the video, if one thinks he's inferior, stupid, & weak compared to others, he really thinks others are inferior, stupid, & weak compared to him!
Flip it!

FreshPerspective · 02-04-2012, 09:41 AM

Honestly, if people treat me as inferior & weak, etc, it's because I believe I am.

Grapefruits · 02-04-2012, 01:09 PM

I feel the same way. Sometimes I just want to give up on everything and just live for myself. I feel so abnormal. I don't know how to function or think like a normal human being. I don't understand how to socialize and how it can come so naturally to other people. It's so weird.

Sometimes people stare at me like I'm weird or something. I get very anxious and tense like, all the time. Whenever I feel someone staring at me, my heart races and I feel like throwing up. Sometimes people do that to me. I can see them from the corner of my eye just staring at me.

I hate people! Why do people always have to bother me? Why can't people either be nice or just leave me alone completely!? Is that so hard? I mean, I don't stare at others and try to intimidate them. I'm just not that kind of person. At all.

Human beings are all sociopaths. Those ****ing wolves are always monitoring the environment, looking for a weak limping gazelle when in reality, what on Earth could they possibly gain from me? This is not the animal kingdom and I am not their food.

02-03-2012, 02:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
weird woman Status: F*** "NORMAL!" Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: In a place that doesn't exist. Age: 99 Posts: 1,295	People think i'm stupid, weak, and inferior to them. Maybe it's true. Maybe I am. But they have no right to tell me i am. And i really need to learn how to stop hating myself so much every time someone basically calls me weak and inferior to them. __________________ Are you in the passenger seat of your own life, or behind the steering wheel?

02-03-2012, 03:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
Quinn the Eskimo Status: the blank man Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Ohio Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 506	People think the same about me Im misunderstood Guess its my payback for all the years that I thought the same thing about people __________________ must have me confused with some other guy ❂

02-03-2012, 04:52 PM	#9 (permalink)
ainsleigh Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Nomadic Posts: 526	What really matters is what you think about you. These people who put you down, have their own internal issues. It's no excuse, but you wouldn't want to be paying too much attention to these people. We are often our own worst enemy - talking down to ourselves, beating ourselves up, focusing on the negative aspects of our lives. I think focusing on improving our negative self talk can be more helpful than worrying about what others think of us. I know it's easier said than done though, especially with anxiety. __________________ http://www.ainsleighwrite.com/

02-03-2012, 10:17 PM	#14 (permalink)
weird woman Status: F*** "NORMAL!" Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: In a place that doesn't exist. Age: 99 Posts: 1,295	Yes, i've actually been told by people that i'm inferior, weak, and stupid. Here's some things i have been told: "You should just learn to live with people treating you like crap because you are weaker than everyone else and you can't change it even if you really try to, so just live with it and pretend to like it, and learn to be happy with it, cause you can't really do anything about it anyway." "You aren't as smart as most other people because of your lack of life experience and personality." "I'm glad i didn't turn out like you did." "You're usually wrong about everything, you should just agree with us because we are right." "You probably just sit on the couch all day." "You're my project, I'm gonna mold you." And other stuff. Where can i find people who will just talk to you as an equal? But yeah you guys are right. F people like that. Even if most people in my life is gonna be like that. Then i'll just have to make it clear that i don't want those people around me, and that no one has the right to talk to me like that. The more i let people talk to me like that, the more they think it's ok to be like that to me. People can often make other people feel like less than a human being. __________________ Are you in the passenger seat of your own life, or behind the steering wheel?

02-04-2012, 12:24 AM	#16 (permalink)
Toppington Status: Presently Irrelevant Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Renton, WA Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 2,940	You give their words power. Do you want to be their stepping stone or do you want to prove them wrong so they can feel like the shallow idiots they truly are? I've had my fair share of similar comments thrown at me and I will admit that I let them wound me and my pride but I always get back up. You can't let some shallow *******s shut you and your life down for good. Keep going, please. __________________ 216 Through the madness we find Loyalty is no match for power Say goodbye to your life, left to rot in Your darkest hour Prayers won't help you now as long as you're mine

02-03-2012, 03:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
RonPRon Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 11	Do people literally tell you that?

02-03-2012, 03:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
Eia Au Status: SAS member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: San Diego, CA Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 582	I automatically take a passive stance whenever someone projects superiority whether they verbalize it or just say it with the way they carry themselves. I don't know why I am so comfortable being one down to everyone, it is shameful and has made me a very angry person.

02-03-2012, 03:22 PM	#4 (permalink)
epostler Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Scottsburg, IN Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 95	In my opinion anyone who calls a person weak or inferior to them are 10x more weak and inferior. And you shouldn't let the opinions of someone so weak minded get to you. And honestly they can go **** themselves. Just show them how superior you really are by shrugging away their ignorant statements. I am sorry people are so cruel, don't even associate with such a d-bag. You deserve better!

02-03-2012, 03:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
CrimsonTrigger Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 1,368	Chances are they have that attitude about everybody, not just you. Those so called superior people are arrogant and enjoy making others feel bad about themselves. They are probably narcissistic. When people say stuff like that to me, I don't even respond or acknowledge them. I just go about my day doing what I was doing. It won't take back those words, but they at least close off the part of you that would be affected by it. I know the words ignore it are thrown around constantly probably don't fix anything, but sometimes it's all you can do. Trust me, you are not inferior to anybody, even when they think they can logically prove that you are.

02-03-2012, 04:04 PM	#7 (permalink)
Ljudumilu Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 65	Do people really say that? I'm sorry for you if they do. Like people have said, you have to wonder about anyone who'd actually say that to someone, irregardless of whether or not it's true - and I doubt it is true; anyone who'd actually say something so mean-natured is clearly lacking in some basic humanity.

02-03-2012, 04:20 PM	#8 (permalink)
Beelz Status: Sigh Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Halifax West Yorkshire Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 594	the ones that are truely inferior are the people who think that why they just have some comlex just ignore them

02-03-2012, 06:52 PM	#10 (permalink)
kanra Status: SAS member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 778	People have treated me like I'm stupid, weak, and inferior to them as well. But I'm probably stronger than them, and considering I'm not that desperate to lie to myself to fit in with the crowd I might even be more superior to them. Someone's actually told me that they didn't care about anything I said, and they also said they were trying really hard not to be mean to me, then they told me they thought I was stupid and childish. WTF. Maybe I can be childish, but I'm just modest and polite to people, so I'm not stupid... Ugh, it's not even worth reasoning. That proves the childish part. She was a *****... But I just hate those people, and I'm sorry if someone called you that. If anything, try to put THEM below YOU. Don't give them the time of day, and ignore them whenever possible.

02-03-2012, 07:33 PM	#11 (permalink)
jd46 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 100	I remember as a youngun my grandfather used to say (if you want respect you must first show respect)also(if you want a friend you must be a friend)but it seems over the course of my lifetime these sentiments have slowly been flipped to being nearly upside down,common socialization nowadays is a sort of people ranking on each other ,and there is so much insecurity about social prestige and so forth ,that unless you are the type of person whose willing to play the game youre in the lurch ,but at the same time your time is yours to dance to your own tune,sure there are drawbacks(not getting laid)but we must embrace each new day.weird woman you take insults personally,I do as well,I wish in my aloofness I could identify the damsels in distress and possibly save the day.

02-03-2012, 08:08 PM	#12 (permalink)
Twelve Keyz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Canada Gender: Male Posts: 931	do people really tell you that or do you just feel that way? I often feel inferior to other guys. it could just be low self esteem.

02-03-2012, 08:50 PM	#13 (permalink)
sundays Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 43	live your life the way you want to, not the way you're supposed to. some of the best words of advice i've ever received

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02-03-2012, 11:39 PM	#15 (permalink)
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jay l Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: new york Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 222	wow. people would say that to you? thats terrible. As hard as it is, try not to let them bring you down with their statements. dont let them get what they want. they probably just want to feel better about themselves. Maybe try to use their insults as motivation to prove them wrong.

02-04-2012, 09:38 AM	#18 (permalink)
FreshPerspective Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Kalamazoo Gender: Male Posts: 117	http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzEa9...eature=mh_lolz That video has a LOT of incite. Going by the principles of the video, if one thinks he's inferior, stupid, & weak compared to others, he really thinks others are inferior, stupid, & weak compared to him! Flip it!

02-04-2012, 09:41 AM	#19 (permalink)
FreshPerspective Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Kalamazoo Gender: Male Posts: 117	Honestly, if people treat me as inferior & weak, etc, it's because I believe I am.

02-04-2012, 01:09 PM	#20 (permalink)
Grapefruits Status: Temporarily Banned Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: The United States of America Gender: Female Posts: 622	I feel the same way. Sometimes I just want to give up on everything and just live for myself. I feel so abnormal. I don't know how to function or think like a normal human being. I don't understand how to socialize and how it can come so naturally to other people. It's so weird. Sometimes people stare at me like I'm weird or something. I get very anxious and tense like, all the time. Whenever I feel someone staring at me, my heart races and I feel like throwing up. Sometimes people do that to me. I can see them from the corner of my eye just staring at me. I hate people! Why do people always have to bother me? Why can't people either be nice or just leave me alone completely!? Is that so hard? I mean, I don't stare at others and try to intimidate them. I'm just not that kind of person. At all. Human beings are all sociopaths. Those ****ing wolves are always monitoring the environment, looking for a weak limping gazelle when in reality, what on Earth could they possibly gain from me? This is not the animal kingdom and I am not their food.