Social Anxiety Support

malone · 11-03-2009, 05:06 AM

When people have all these pictures of them having so much fun with all these other people. It just makes me feel so bad about myself. I just sit here thinking, 'why the heck can't I have that'.

They're out at parties with about 40 people around them, laughing, messing about and just generally having a good time. I've never experienced anything like that, at 18 - that's a bit sad.

If only I wasn't so useless around people and making and keeping friends - maybe I'd be able to be like that too. SA doesn't get me down usually, but, I don't know. Stupid facebook.

I probably shouldn't hang around these sorts of sites - but I figured I'd try my best at being 'normal' and social. Nope, not working. Feeling even more isolated and down about my lack of social skills.

It's not fair. I'd like to be able to talk to people without getting flustered and nervous. I'd like to have normal healthy friendships as much as the next person. It feels like this is never going to happen for me. I'm never going to get invited to go anywhere because I don't know anyone because I don't know how to get to know anyone in the first place - nasty cycle.

I'm going to be lonely forever. Gah.

glarmph · 11-03-2009, 05:20 AM

Same, except I'm 25. That's why I cancelled my facebook account and everyting else; I never talked to anyone and scanning through it every day just made me feel worse.

Braxietel · 11-03-2009, 05:24 AM

Yes, Facebook does really serve as a constant reminder that pretty much everyone I know is doing something better than I am, and are capeable of enjoying life and all that. A tad annoying.

Prakas · 11-03-2009, 05:35 AM

lol, I know how you feel. Thats one of the reasons I don't even bother with them.

Meh, you have us here at SAS, so you won't be lonely

malone · 11-03-2009, 05:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Prakas

Meh, you have us here at SAS, so you won't be lonely

secretlyshecries · 11-03-2009, 05:45 AM

Oh god, I know. I go on these sites to interact with people and feel connected to them considering I don't have anyone in 'real life' but browsing their pages and seeing their pictures... I have to stop doing it! Sometimes I honestly feel so depressed afterwards. And incredibly lonely.

mind_games · 11-03-2009, 05:47 AM

I use the 'hide' function on facebook so that I don't see certain people's posts.

Pialicious88 · 11-03-2009, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by malone

When people have all these pictures of them having so much fun with all these other people. It just makes me feel so bad about myself. I just sit here thinking, 'why the heck can't I have that'.

They're out at parties with about 40 people around them, laughing, messing about and just generally having a good time. I've never experienced anything like that, at 18 - that's a bit sad.

If only I wasn't so useless around people and making and keeping friends - maybe I'd be able to be like that too. SA doesn't get me down usually, but, I don't know. Stupid facebook.

I probably shouldn't hang around these sorts of sites - but I figured I'd try my best at being 'normal' and social. Nope, not working. Feeling even more isolated and down about my lack of social skills.

It's not fair. I'd like to be able to talk to people without getting flustered and nervous. I'd like to have normal healthy friendships as much as the next person. It feels like this is never going to happen for me. I'm never going to get invited to go anywhere because I don't know anyone because I don't know how to get to know anyone in the first place - nasty cycle.

I'm going to be lonely forever. Gah.

preach it sista, i hate it when ppl post those pics they took at some party is like they rubbin it in yo face, damn social sluts

KaiserNeptune · 11-03-2009, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by malone

When people have all these pictures of them having so much fun with all these other people. It just makes me feel so bad about myself. I just sit here thinking, 'why the heck can't I have that'.

They're out at parties with about 40 people around them, laughing, messing about and just generally having a good time. I've never experienced anything like that, at 18 - that's a bit sad.

If only I wasn't so useless around people and making and keeping friends - maybe I'd be able to be like that too. SA doesn't get me down usually, but, I don't know. Stupid facebook.

I probably shouldn't hang around these sorts of sites - but I figured I'd try my best at being 'normal' and social. Nope, not working. Feeling even more isolated and down about my lack of social skills.

It's not fair. I'd like to be able to talk to people without getting flustered and nervous. I'd like to have normal healthy friendships as much as the next person. It feels like this is never going to happen for me. I'm never going to get invited to go anywhere because I don't know anyone because I don't know how to get to know anyone in the first place - nasty cycle.

I'm going to be lonely forever. Gah.

I totally know where you're coming from, and I am the same. Like I said in a earlier thread, Facebook is a friendly daily reminder that I have a non-existent social life among other things.

Haydsmom2007 · 11-03-2009, 08:31 AM

I know. It makes me sad

Rixy · 11-03-2009, 09:27 AM

A lot of us feel that way. It also annoys me when people post "I'M REALLY HAPPY" in their status. Is it jealousy? Probably, I don't know. I know how you feel Malone

shadowmask · 11-03-2009, 09:44 AM

I've never had a facebook or myspace account. I doubt I'll ever feel a need to have one.

QuakerOats167 · 11-03-2009, 02:04 PM

Ok, this one's pretty simple actually. Anyone with more than 1,000 pictures is what you call a "facebook loser" who takes pictures just for the sake of being able to show - no, prove - that they have a fun and interesting life. Usually these are your wannabe's who really could be doing other things with their lives and enjoying them more, but they need to accumulate this enormous supply of pictures so they can make their case for being cool and outgoing. How much personality are you really showing in a picture with 6-10 people in a half-circle faking a smile at some crappy party? The only cool pictures on facebook are the ones where people are actually doing something interesting... I'd rather see someone's "Rock Climbing in Ireland" album than another one of those immature party-pix albums named after the chorus of whatever ****ty song has been on the radio lately or some stupid quote a drunk girl said that night. don't let something like that get you down. those people need to prove to everyone else, and to themselves, that they are fun and interesting by bringing their camera everywhere, haha. It's really obnoxious actually, I untag myself in like 90% of the pictures Ive been in on facebook.

cyndy · 11-03-2009, 03:31 PM

i've grown to hate facebook and myspace so much that i just deleted both accounts.
i'm grateful for the great people i've met on this site and i'll continue to be an active member here...this is certainly better for me than those other 2. i'm also on livinganxious.com which is like a myspace for people with anxiety disorders. i love it there too.
so goodbye to facebook and myspace!!!

illlaymedown · 11-03-2009, 03:40 PM

I'm contemplating deleting mine. I display my art on myspace so that's the only reason I have it and nobody cares about me on facebook and they're people who have actually met me. They barely say a thing about my art or say anything to me....makes me feel sad, I'll admit. You'd think those would be the ones who'd wanna cheer you on the most.

LaRibbon · 11-03-2009, 09:48 PM

That's why I don't want to buckle to the pressure to get a facebook account. I know it would only make me feel worse. And I don't want to be addicted to it. I see people at uni logged into it for half the day. Forget it, I waste enough time on here.

quietriverrunsdeep · 11-05-2009, 06:03 PM

You took the words right out of my mouth. I joined since it looked like fun but all anyone does is glorify themselves. They post pics all the time trying to get a response or post something meaningless like "took a shower" to try to get attention. And did anyone ever notice that if you say you have a Facebook account, the first thing they ask is how many friends you have? It's like your social status is determined by the amount of friends you have even if it's 400 and 350 of them are random people you haven't even met. A lot of people are too stuck up to even post to other people's walls, yet they want people to come to there's. It's just a never ending circle of vanity. Yet, it's so addicting...

Lovesick Loner · 11-05-2009, 06:51 PM

Facebook depresses me sometimes, too. But I still do use it from time to time. I wouldn't say it's a bad site. It's just...um, a bit exhibitionist?

kitterbug · 11-05-2009, 06:54 PM

I can relate.

JMX · 11-05-2009, 07:03 PM

What really irritates me is when I see someone's profile and they have 1800+ photos tagged of themselves. I've thought about deleting my account, but there is one application on there that I enjoy using.

11-03-2009, 05:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
malone Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Posts: 60	Okay, heres what really bothers me about social networking sites When people have all these pictures of them having so much fun with all these other people. It just makes me feel so bad about myself. I just sit here thinking, 'why the heck can't I have that'. They're out at parties with about 40 people around them, laughing, messing about and just generally having a good time. I've never experienced anything like that, at 18 - that's a bit sad. If only I wasn't so useless around people and making and keeping friends - maybe I'd be able to be like that too. SA doesn't get me down usually, but, I don't know. Stupid facebook. I probably shouldn't hang around these sorts of sites - but I figured I'd try my best at being 'normal' and social. Nope, not working. Feeling even more isolated and down about my lack of social skills. It's not fair. I'd like to be able to talk to people without getting flustered and nervous. I'd like to have normal healthy friendships as much as the next person. It feels like this is never going to happen for me. I'm never going to get invited to go anywhere because I don't know anyone because I don't know how to get to know anyone in the first place - nasty cycle. I'm going to be lonely forever. Gah.

11-03-2009, 05:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
glarmph Status: Hiding in my basement Join Date: May 2009 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 243	Same, except I'm 25. That's why I cancelled my facebook account and everyting else; I never talked to anyone and scanning through it every day just made me feel worse. __________________ Life sucks, then you die.

11-03-2009, 05:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
Braxietel Status: Dandy or a clown? Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 211	Yes, Facebook does really serve as a constant reminder that pretty much everyone I know is doing something better than I am, and are capeable of enjoying life and all that. A tad annoying. __________________ DeviantART \| Twitter \| Facebook \| VideoBlog \| Blog

11-03-2009, 05:47 AM	#7 (permalink)
mind_games Status: dances, like a fridge Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,571	I use the 'hide' function on facebook so that I don't see certain people's posts. __________________ "this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me"

11-03-2009, 09:44 AM	#12 (permalink)
shadowmask Status: Seeing stars Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,085	I've never had a facebook or myspace account. I doubt I'll ever feel a need to have one. __________________ Basically, I'm complicated I have a hard time taking the easy way I wouldn't call it schizophrenia But I'll be at least two people today

11-03-2009, 05:35 AM	#4 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	lol, I know how you feel. Thats one of the reasons I don't even bother with them. Meh, you have us here at SAS, so you won't be lonely

11-03-2009, 05:45 AM	#6 (permalink)
secretlyshecries Status: In hiding Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Australia, hiding under a rock somewhere Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 569	Oh god, I know. I go on these sites to interact with people and feel connected to them considering I don't have anyone in 'real life' but browsing their pages and seeing their pictures... I have to stop doing it! Sometimes I honestly feel so depressed afterwards. And incredibly lonely.

11-03-2009, 08:31 AM	#10 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	I know. It makes me sad

11-03-2009, 09:27 AM	#11 (permalink)
Rixy Status: Falling into Guru Muhk Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 228	A lot of us feel that way. It also annoys me when people post "I'M REALLY HAPPY" in their status. Is it jealousy? Probably, I don't know. I know how you feel Malone

11-03-2009, 02:04 PM	#13 (permalink)
QuakerOats167 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 78	Ok, this one's pretty simple actually. Anyone with more than 1,000 pictures is what you call a "facebook loser" who takes pictures just for the sake of being able to show - no, prove - that they have a fun and interesting life. Usually these are your wannabe's who really could be doing other things with their lives and enjoying them more, but they need to accumulate this enormous supply of pictures so they can make their case for being cool and outgoing. How much personality are you really showing in a picture with 6-10 people in a half-circle faking a smile at some crappy party? The only cool pictures on facebook are the ones where people are actually doing something interesting... I'd rather see someone's "Rock Climbing in Ireland" album than another one of those immature party-pix albums named after the chorus of whatever ****ty song has been on the radio lately or some stupid quote a drunk girl said that night. don't let something like that get you down. those people need to prove to everyone else, and to themselves, that they are fun and interesting by bringing their camera everywhere, haha. It's really obnoxious actually, I untag myself in like 90% of the pictures Ive been in on facebook.

11-03-2009, 03:31 PM	#14 (permalink)
cyndy Status: pain helps a lot Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: maryland Gender: Female Age: 38 Posts: 118	i've grown to hate facebook and myspace so much that i just deleted both accounts. i'm grateful for the great people i've met on this site and i'll continue to be an active member here...this is certainly better for me than those other 2. i'm also on livinganxious.com which is like a myspace for people with anxiety disorders. i love it there too. so goodbye to facebook and myspace!!! __________________ social phobia, panic disorder w/agoraphobia, gad, depression(mild) current meds: buspirone 10mg 2x day, paroxetine 10mg, clonazepam 1.5mg inhale what i am, exhale what i think i am inhale exhale by henry rollins

11-03-2009, 03:40 PM	#15 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 366	I'm contemplating deleting mine. I display my art on myspace so that's the only reason I have it and nobody cares about me on facebook and they're people who have actually met me. They barely say a thing about my art or say anything to me....makes me feel sad, I'll admit. You'd think those would be the ones who'd wanna cheer you on the most. __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-03-2009, 09:48 PM	#16 (permalink)
LaRibbon Status: Temporarily Banned Join Date: May 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 487	That's why I don't want to buckle to the pressure to get a facebook account. I know it would only make me feel worse. And I don't want to be addicted to it. I see people at uni logged into it for half the day. Forget it, I waste enough time on here.

11-05-2009, 06:03 PM	#17 (permalink)
quietriverrunsdeep Status: Analyzing Human Nature Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: The Middle Of Nowhere Gender: Female Age: 15 Posts: 84	You took the words right out of my mouth. I joined since it looked like fun but all anyone does is glorify themselves. They post pics all the time trying to get a response or post something meaningless like "took a shower" to try to get attention. And did anyone ever notice that if you say you have a Facebook account, the first thing they ask is how many friends you have? It's like your social status is determined by the amount of friends you have even if it's 400 and 350 of them are random people you haven't even met. A lot of people are too stuck up to even post to other people's walls, yet they want people to come to there's. It's just a never ending circle of vanity. Yet, it's so addicting...

11-05-2009, 06:51 PM	#18 (permalink)
Lovesick Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Pennsylvania Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 164	Facebook depresses me sometimes, too. But I still do use it from time to time. I wouldn't say it's a bad site. It's just...um, a bit exhibitionist? __________________ "Every day is Like Sunday, Every day is silent and gray" - Morrissey

11-05-2009, 06:54 PM	#19 (permalink)
kitterbug Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 148	I can relate.

11-05-2009, 07:03 PM	#20 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	What really irritates me is when I see someone's profile and they have 1800+ photos tagged of themselves. I've thought about deleting my account, but there is one application on there that I enjoy using.