Social Anxiety Support

laurafreak · 11-06-2009, 04:54 PM

So I've posted about my friends before, they've slowly stopped inviting me to anything. Well, we were supposed to hang out on Halloween atleast. I even went costume shopping with one of them and spent like $80 on my costume and accessories.

Well, the Friday before Halloween, they went out to some restaurant/bar in their costumes and had a grand old time. How do I know? Theyve posted the pics all over facebook. Ok, didn't let it get me down b/c I was going to go out with them on Saturday. Saturday comes. Saturday morning one of them texts me and says she doesn't think she can make it cause her bfs sister was moving back to town and she wanted to go help. Uh...ok fine. Two other friends got stuck working. So it was gonna be my sister, one friend, and maybe a 2nd. We were gonna dress up and go out to dinner. HALF AN HOUR before I'm supposed to meet them and I'm halfway in my costume, the one friend bails out cause she has tummy ache. My sister is pretty pissed too and she just ends up going home straight after work.

This hurt me SO bad.

I still kept upset and angry about it, even though it was a week ago. I've friggen got teary eyed over it.

And when I first saw all their facebooks, one had commented that they should go out next Friday night. So I commented back "invite me, I'll actually come out with you guys for once" and she texted me and told me sorry, that hadn't invited me cause they didn't think I'd actually come but maybe next time. Well here it is, next Friday night and I get no invite

It's so hard for me to make friends. And when I finally make them, I lose them. I don't know what I do wrong!

I'm so SICK of this.

brokensaint · 11-06-2009, 05:08 PM

It's no coincidence that you're having this problem and that you have SA. I had the same disappointment this Halloween and when I confronted a friend of mine about it, she was offended and hurt and pissed off that I didn't initiate more things. Point is, I wouldn't let it affect my self-esteem. Relationships often fade with me because of my SA, I'm sure it's no different with you or most people on this forum.

11-06-2009, 04:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
laurafreak Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: hell Gender: Female Posts: 334	never invited anymore... So I've posted about my friends before, they've slowly stopped inviting me to anything. Well, we were supposed to hang out on Halloween atleast. I even went costume shopping with one of them and spent like $80 on my costume and accessories. Well, the Friday before Halloween, they went out to some restaurant/bar in their costumes and had a grand old time. How do I know? Theyve posted the pics all over facebook. Ok, didn't let it get me down b/c I was going to go out with them on Saturday. Saturday comes. Saturday morning one of them texts me and says she doesn't think she can make it cause her bfs sister was moving back to town and she wanted to go help. Uh...ok fine. Two other friends got stuck working. So it was gonna be my sister, one friend, and maybe a 2nd. We were gonna dress up and go out to dinner. HALF AN HOUR before I'm supposed to meet them and I'm halfway in my costume, the one friend bails out cause she has tummy ache. My sister is pretty pissed too and she just ends up going home straight after work. This hurt me SO bad. I still kept upset and angry about it, even though it was a week ago. I've friggen got teary eyed over it. And when I first saw all their facebooks, one had commented that they should go out next Friday night. So I commented back "invite me, I'll actually come out with you guys for once" and she texted me and told me sorry, that hadn't invited me cause they didn't think I'd actually come but maybe next time. Well here it is, next Friday night and I get no invite It's so hard for me to make friends. And when I finally make them, I lose them. I don't know what I do wrong! I'm so SICK of this.

11-06-2009, 05:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
brokensaint Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Halifax, NS Gender: Male Posts: 202	It's no coincidence that you're having this problem and that you have SA. I had the same disappointment this Halloween and when I confronted a friend of mine about it, she was offended and hurt and pissed off that I didn't initiate more things. Point is, I wouldn't let it affect my self-esteem. Relationships often fade with me because of my SA, I'm sure it's no different with you or most people on this forum.