Social Anxiety Support

NaM3LiK3Th3Brand · 07-04-2012, 10:06 AM

Well I got invited to a beach barbeque today for Fourth of July. I am beyond nervous because i'll be meeting extended family of a guy that im currently dating. My anxiety is flaring and I just want them to like me, and hopefully not realize how quiet I am or how nervous i'll be.

Any advice on how to play it "cool" and to keep relax and less anxious? They will be drinks there but I am not really a drinker but I also know they will help mellow me out a little. They will be other people such as his friends there as well. So help please! lol I will appreciate any advice given, before I go there.

ToucanSam · 07-04-2012, 10:26 AM

To take some of the pressure off of yourself, just remind yourself that since it is a beach, there are dozens of "escape routes" if the pressure gets too high - go off on your own or with bf for a walk, to suntan, or go for a swim, none of which would seem unusual to the others. On this forum, we normally don't advocate fleeing a stressful situation, because it just reinforces the SA fight-or-flight reflex, but it (the flight reflex, not the fight reflex!) might be a good coping strategy for you this time.

NaM3LiK3Th3Brand · 07-04-2012, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by ToucanSam

To take some of the pressure off of yourself, just remind yourself that since it is a beach, there are dozens of "escape routes" if the pressure gets too high - go off on your own or with bf for a walk, to suntan, or go for a swim, none of which would seem unusual to the others. On this forum, we normally don't advocate fleeing a stressful situation, because it just reinforces the SA fight-or-flight reflex, but it (the flight reflex, not the fight reflex!) might be a good coping strategy for you this time.

That makes a lot of sense

. I was so blinded with the fact of meeting his family that I forgot its a beach and I dont have to be around them the whole time, which gives me the excuse to escape when im feeling anxious without it looking weird. Great advice, thanks!

Amirreza · 07-04-2012, 10:50 AM

Do you take any Medicines for SA? It could help. I'm not an expert on meds but a mild doze of Klonopin helps me deal with scary occasions like yours, I'm sure others would be able to give better advice on medicine matters though.

NaM3LiK3Th3Brand · 07-04-2012, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Amirreza

Do you take any Medicines for SA? It could help. I'm not an expert on meds but a mild doze of Klonopin helps me deal with scary occasions like yours, I'm sure others would be able to give better advice on medicine matters though.

No, I don't take any prescribed medication just natural supplements to help with the anxiety.

07-04-2012, 10:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
NaM3LiK3Th3Brand Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 49	Nervous is a understatement Well I got invited to a beach barbeque today for Fourth of July. I am beyond nervous because i'll be meeting extended family of a guy that im currently dating. My anxiety is flaring and I just want them to like me, and hopefully not realize how quiet I am or how nervous i'll be. Any advice on how to play it "cool" and to keep relax and less anxious? They will be drinks there but I am not really a drinker but I also know they will help mellow me out a little. They will be other people such as his friends there as well. So help please! lol I will appreciate any advice given, before I go there. __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."- Dr. Seuss "Art reaches it's self greatest peak when devoid of self-consciousness. Freedom discovers a man the moment he loses concern over what impression he is making or about to make."-Bruce Lee

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07-04-2012, 10:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
ToucanSam Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Illinois Gender: Male Posts: 1,850	To take some of the pressure off of yourself, just remind yourself that since it is a beach, there are dozens of "escape routes" if the pressure gets too high - go off on your own or with bf for a walk, to suntan, or go for a swim, none of which would seem unusual to the others. On this forum, we normally don't advocate fleeing a stressful situation, because it just reinforces the SA fight-or-flight reflex, but it (the flight reflex, not the fight reflex!) might be a good coping strategy for you this time.

07-04-2012, 10:50 AM	#4 (permalink)
Amirreza Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 9	Do you take any Medicines for SA? It could help. I'm not an expert on meds but a mild doze of Klonopin helps me deal with scary occasions like yours, I'm sure others would be able to give better advice on medicine matters though.