Social Anxiety Support

smelly · 11-01-2009, 11:54 PM

i have found that i cannot cope with the feelings of jealousy with SAD. my boyfriend is absolutely wonderful and makes me feel so great about myself, however if i feel jealousy because of him, the effects seem much greater. i think this is because he seems like one of the most positive things in my life. and when this positive thinking of a person transforms into negative, i don't know what to do with myself.
the feeling of jealousy overcomes me and i carry it along with me as well as SA making my whole brain completely clouded and unable to function. it hurts because then i cannot be myself. and i feel as if my boyfriend is annoyed because i want to talk about it constantly, until i at least feel better. i don't like being this annoying girl. but that it what i think i have become. i am afraid that if/when we break up he will feel so much happier he doesn't have a complainy girl anymore. oucccchhhh why am i like this? this isn't who i am. does anyone feel the same way?

ShyViolet · 11-02-2009, 01:52 AM

I'm jealous that you have a boyfriend.

Yes, jealousy is a huge issue for me. I get insanely jealous of people. I think it was the main reason I had a falling out with a friend several years ago.

fma · 11-02-2009, 03:47 AM

Be positive, think that if a wonderful person like him is with you... it's because you're better than you think :P I don't think your boyfriend is with you because is doing you a favour, don't you think?

Don't question it, and simply enjoy it

Jealousy is a problem for me too, specially when I'm jealous of the guy that is with the girl that I like... I feel inferior, I feel bad... but... you have to be positive

All the best.

11-01-2009, 11:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
smelly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 8	jealousy i have found that i cannot cope with the feelings of jealousy with SAD. my boyfriend is absolutely wonderful and makes me feel so great about myself, however if i feel jealousy because of him, the effects seem much greater. i think this is because he seems like one of the most positive things in my life. and when this positive thinking of a person transforms into negative, i don't know what to do with myself. the feeling of jealousy overcomes me and i carry it along with me as well as SA making my whole brain completely clouded and unable to function. it hurts because then i cannot be myself. and i feel as if my boyfriend is annoyed because i want to talk about it constantly, until i at least feel better. i don't like being this annoying girl. but that it what i think i have become. i am afraid that if/when we break up he will feel so much happier he doesn't have a complainy girl anymore. oucccchhhh why am i like this? this isn't who i am. does anyone feel the same way?

11-02-2009, 03:47 AM	#3 (permalink)
fma Status: SPA Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 53	Be positive, think that if a wonderful person like him is with you... it's because you're better than you think :P I don't think your boyfriend is with you because is doing you a favour, don't you think? Don't question it, and simply enjoy it Jealousy is a problem for me too, specially when I'm jealous of the guy that is with the girl that I like... I feel inferior, I feel bad... but... you have to be positive All the best. __________________ Fighting my anxiety -Blog

11-02-2009, 01:52 AM	#2 (permalink)
ShyViolet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,942	I'm jealous that you have a boyfriend. Yes, jealousy is a huge issue for me. I get insanely jealous of people. I think it was the main reason I had a falling out with a friend several years ago.