Social Anxiety Support

shadowguy · 11-02-2009, 08:54 AM

Well I just looked at facebook to see my one friend, my cousin, having fun with his friends. I haven't seen him in so long...we used to be inseparable. They move so often I never get to see him, and it looks like he's growing up, making friends, and moving past me like everyone else I've known.

It just feels too late...how could I possibly make friends at a community college I'll be going to one day a week? It feels too late...everyone's already made their friend connections and I'm just stuck being alone.

delirium · 11-02-2009, 08:59 AM

It's never too late, especially seeing as how you're only 19! Making friends isn't a competition to see who can make the most friends before the other. Just focus on getting to know other people out of genuine interest, listen to their stories and they'll appreciate it. Whether a friendship blossoms out of these initial seeds is not necessarily up to you (though you can take the lead by getting contact information, inviting them out, etc.).

It's never too late to make friends! (Consider senior citizens newly entering retirement homes.)

shadowguy · 11-02-2009, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by delirium

It's never too late, especially seeing as how you're only 19! Making friends isn't a competition to see who can make the most friends before the other. Just focus on getting to know other people out of genuine interest, listen to their stories and they'll appreciate it. Whether a friendship blossoms out of these initial seeds is not necessarily up to you (though you can take the lead by getting contact information, inviting them out, etc.).

It's never too late to make friends! (Consider senior citizens newly entering retirement homes.)

You're right. Sometimes I just really want to have all of that -now-. I want to be able to go on facebook and say "I'm bored" and have people to talk to, do stuff with, etc. I don't want to wait until I get too old and everyone's focusing on other things. I regret missing a lot during teenage years...and I'm about to be 20. It sounds harder to make friends after everyone graduates college. I'm worried it's my last chance to enjoy this period of my life...because I didn't take advantage of high school. Regret is painful.

Stu · 11-02-2009, 07:04 PM

Don't get stuck in the trap of listening to people and thinking you're too old for something. I've repeatedly written myself at so-called 'deadlines' (16yo, 18yo, 20yo, 21yo, 25yo) only to get 5 years down the track and realise how much time I actually had.

I mourned my youth before it was gone, it's a big mistake that a lot of people make.

11-02-2009, 08:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
shadowguy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 30	Jealous and helpless Well I just looked at facebook to see my one friend, my cousin, having fun with his friends. I haven't seen him in so long...we used to be inseparable. They move so often I never get to see him, and it looks like he's growing up, making friends, and moving past me like everyone else I've known. It just feels too late...how could I possibly make friends at a community college I'll be going to one day a week? It feels too late...everyone's already made their friend connections and I'm just stuck being alone.

11-02-2009, 08:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
delirium Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Posts: 214	It's never too late, especially seeing as how you're only 19! Making friends isn't a competition to see who can make the most friends before the other. Just focus on getting to know other people out of genuine interest, listen to their stories and they'll appreciate it. Whether a friendship blossoms out of these initial seeds is not necessarily up to you (though you can take the lead by getting contact information, inviting them out, etc.). It's never too late to make friends! (Consider senior citizens newly entering retirement homes.)

11-02-2009, 07:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
Stu Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Hemisphere Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 36	Don't get stuck in the trap of listening to people and thinking you're too old for something. I've repeatedly written myself at so-called 'deadlines' (16yo, 18yo, 20yo, 21yo, 25yo) only to get 5 years down the track and realise how much time I actually had. I mourned my youth before it was gone, it's a big mistake that a lot of people make.