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Old 04-18-2008, 06:40 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Hello, I'm new to these forums. I've suffered from social anxiety for about six years now.

Anyway, on to the reason I posted. At age 23, I feel like I've wasted my youth. I've never had a girlfriend, even though I've had offers (for dates). I haven't had a proper social life since I was a kid.

This has really damaged my self-esteem. I always feel people are talking about me behind my back. It's just so hard going out everyday when you think everyone is judging you.

But, what makes me the most depressed is that I have wasted my youth. Yeah, I guess I'm still young, but you are in your prime during the teenage years. I've wasted most of my youth, it just seems like I'm...coasting through life with no decent reason anymore.

Does anyone else feel like this? "Wasted time" makes me feel miserable.

PS: Sorry if I sound a little too despairing in this post, but that's how I really feel.
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Old 04-18-2008, 06:45 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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I think most would agree that the 20's is the real time to take advantage of youth.
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Old 04-18-2008, 06:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
 
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Well, I guess the main thing is: I don't feel young, anymore. Lack of energy, etc. I don't know why.
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Old 04-18-2008, 07:03 PM   #4 (permalink)
 
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Well thats not caused by your age. A lot of people with SA feel lethargic and lazy and constantly procrastinate. Better nutrition, sleep habits, and exercise can help with this. You would be amazed at the energy you can get from simply taking multi vitamins.
When I told my doc about my lack of energy he gave me adderall, and I find it really helpful. I can guarantee you though that your youthful energy isnt gone for good.
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Old 04-18-2008, 07:04 PM   #5 (permalink)
 
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im 19 but i feel like im wastin my youth. i dont really do much.

its cool man, you still have time. 23 is still very young. i know its hard with SA, but we gotta try our best.
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Old 04-18-2008, 07:58 PM   #6 (permalink)
 
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I'm 25 and I can see life just slipping away. It's almost like I went from 18 to 68. Now I'm old, withering away, fading into the sunset, waiting for death to take me to my eternal rotting place.
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Old 04-18-2008, 08:08 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Babies!

I'm 29, and I've wasted most of my twenties, and if anyone should be upset, I should be. And I am. But only a little bit. Self pity won't help. It never helps. As long as you're still alive you've got another chance to start turning things around.

The reason why you lack energy is you have no purpose when you're shut in all the time. Depression also can contribute.
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Old 04-18-2008, 08:32 PM   #8 (permalink)
 
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Yeah, I'm 26 and I missed that whole period in my life when you go to college and do nothing but party and meet girls. Currently, I'm missing the part of life where you find a cute girl and start a family. Things are off to a great start!! woo hoo
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I feel the same way, I'm wasting my youth as we speak.
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Old 04-18-2008, 09:08 PM   #10 (permalink)
 
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Well it's never too late to start. Sure you didn't do anything in your teens, but why waste your twenties as well. Start something before you're in your thirties saying I wasted my twenties.
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The nice thing about youth is that you have so much of life ahead you. Hindsight is 20/20, but foresight is cloudy at best.
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Yeah, I'm 26 and I missed that whole period in my life when you go to college and do nothing but party and meet girls. Currently, I'm missing the part of life where you find a cute girl and start a family. Things are off to a great start!! woo hoo
Partying is not that important especially if you do is get wasted.
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Old 04-18-2008, 09:42 PM   #13 (permalink)
 
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I couldn't sleep today until 2AM today because of similar thoughts.
I have created idealized world for my self in the head and when i compare it to the real situation, i am rather shocked.

But these words calmed me down:
"Andy, you don't have to be the top performer. Actually, you likely won't be it. But if you accept the current situation as it is, stop b*ullshtting and actually do something, there is a chance that things will improve."
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I'm wasting my youth right at this moment. It's Friday night, and instead of hanging out with friends, I'm sitting here at my computer, alone. The worst part is that I'm aware of what's happening, but there is just nothing I can do about it.
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I'm wasting my youth. I suck at being a young person.
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Well it's never too late to start. Sure you didn't do anything in your teens, but why waste your twenties as well. Start something before you're in your thirties saying I wasted my twenties.
Oh if it was only that easy.
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The good news is your youth is hardly over, if ever.
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Oh if it was only that easy.
It's not easy, but you have to try.
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Old 04-19-2008, 01:37 PM   #20 (permalink)
 
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I think everyone thinks they've wasted their youth to some degree. I'm 19 and I feel like I've wasted most of my youth, lol. But even if I'd have gone out and made an *** of myself for the past five years, odds are I'd feel the same way. *sigh* It's just human nature.

The twenties are a great place to start, though. For one thing, you're legally allowed to partake in things that us young'uns aren't, lol.
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