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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 02-17-2017, 09:12 AM Thread Starter
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It really gets to me...

that I can't have a proper conversation with people. You know the type where everything just flows, you forget about yourself, and you enjoy the other persons company, and they (presumably) enjoy yours? I've never had that in years.

Anyone else experience this? Has it ever happened to you that you say something, and the person clearly struggles to say something back or doesn't say anything at all and there's a long awkward silence? I cringe so hard inside.

I'm sure the vast majority of you here have one or two friends at the very least whom you can talk to, even if it is online. I, on the other hand, seem to have lost almost completely the skill of conversation and social interaction.
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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 02-17-2017, 09:29 AM
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I don't seem to have any friends left outside of the internet, and with the only people I ever talk to it's never a smooth conversation. I have a couple of people I talk with a lot online, but even with them I don't have that sort of conversation that just flows smoothly. I will admit that it's easier for me to chat with someone online than it is in person, but I'm not too good online either especially when it comes to instant messaging. It sucks when someone I'm talking to will type out a massive paragraph to me and yet all I can do is respond with a sentence or two. With me it seems like once I get past the basic introduction then I just struggle finding things to say. I had one person that I had started talking with online recently and things seemed pretty smooth at first, but then I just got to that point where I couldn't think of what to say most of the time. The person always said something if I went too long without responding too, as if they were upset with me. Now I really don't talk with them because I have a feeling they don't want to talk to me because of the way I am.

I wish I knew what happened because I never felt so uncomfortable talking to people in the past, but these last few years I just seem to freeze up when trying to talk to anyone.

Marooned and stranded on the islands of the damned. There is no one on earth to take my hand.
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post #3 of 6 (permalink) Old 02-17-2017, 09:38 AM
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I experience it from time to time! But I also have enjoyable interactions from time to time. I am definitely in the occasionally awkward category of people.

Years ago, I got by day by day. I ticked them off, one day in the calendar at a time, all the while being slowly crushed. It's not as bad as it used to be.
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I can totally relate to this! It's exactly what I'm really struggling with right now. I do have good interactions once in a while, though, so I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing differently during those.

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I know how you feel. Especially during holidays like now. So, Im talking to myself in my head.

But talking with others is also boring Sometimes, they talk too much. It tires me and makes me sleepy.
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post #6 of 6 (permalink) Old 02-17-2017, 02:26 PM
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Yep.

I feel yait gets to me too.

We gotta keep trying though.

Good luck!

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"The only person who can help you, is yourself"

The Buddha mentioned suffering can be ended by letting go of our desires, longings, frustrations, and greed.

This can either be a lonesome path or a gathered path, but the ultimate decision resides in your favor. It is up to you whether you wish to take the extreme route or low bound route to achieve your enlightenment. The middle path will prove to be tedious and difficult, but know you're not alone.

We're here with you. 本当に。
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