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Old 04-02-2009, 04:27 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm trying to improve but in the meantime why do I have to suffer loneliness until I reach perfection?
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Old 04-02-2009, 08:44 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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taking things to seriously was one of my biggest problems and probably had the worst effect on me. I remember falling off my bike back in elementary school, when I still had the nerve to go out, and some dude was driving by and stopped to ask if I was alright, I stood there and looked at him and then hurried off because in school they really emphasized the importants of not talking to strangers, I took it further than I should have and that's only one situation out of many, but seriousness really messed up my life.
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"Why so serious?" As the Joker would say...

But yes, people tell me that I seem boring all the time. Not in a disrespectful way or anything, usually just in a casual, sorta teasing manner, to which I sarcastically reply, "I know, right?" And then they kinda laugh, and I kinda sorta try to break out a little smile, at which point they move on in whatever they were doing before they felt the urge to speak to me or just decide to hold a little small talk. That's usually how it always goes.
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Those three apply to me. The inexperience bit is the worst.
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all 3 = me.
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I know i'm boring, i know i'm serious but why do people think that telling me this will change me? I mean if i've put up with it this long why cant they? This is who i am! The moment people tell me this i become more serious and more boring and cant get away from them quick enough.
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i think i can relate to what you said.
i feel like i want to meet new people, make friends etc. but not as the person i am now. i feel like i need to change before i'm worthy of having friends.
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I can relate to those three. My friend told me I was boring back in jr. high and that killed it, I was so sad afterwards but got over it and we've been good friends since.
I actually envy those people that seem to be open and loose all the time, because they're able to have fun and for me, I can't seem to loosen up like them and really enjoy what I should be enjoying. I guess people have different ways of loosening up though... yet I still feel 'rigid'
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I've been told by an almost ex that I was boring, it really hurts because you have all these insecurities in your head and when you look to the person you like for approval, and they see and point out things you hate about yourself you feel even worse because you know you can't accept yourself and then you get that realization that maybe no one will. One time we we're just kissing and he said to me " you have no idea what you're doing, do you?" I felt so embarrassed, it discouraged me from wanting to do more because I no longer felt comfortable. But ya 19, completely inexperienced, and apparently boring haha

I guess try to think of the positive in this, someone will probably be happy to be with you because you don't have much experience. and if that doesn't make you feel better one time I was so nervous kissing this said boy that I had to stop and go throw up
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If someone calls you boring it's their fault for not being interested. Not your fault for being "boring".
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