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post #1 of 44 (permalink) Old 06-27-2009, 01:26 AM Thread Starter
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Im bored and lonely

I am so bored and lonely. How I want a few friends and a girl so badly.
This way of living is killing me. I'm losing my mind. That's what happens when you're lonely. You go insane. I'm not that mentally strong. I dont know how others here seem perfectly normal. Or they just don't have any mental issues.
I get such a horrible headache when I'm bored. No solitary activity can alleviate it. Im dying for some stimulation in the company of friends.
This pamphlet Ive got in front of me about anxiety support, states:
'friendship is the key to mental health.' Thats really true.
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Hey I'm similar to you. I'm always bored and lonely.
I do have friends though.... many to be honest. But I'm always anxious and never hang out with them enough. Then I feel guilty for not doing things with them...
I seriously need a good hobby that gets me out of my house.
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Mate you've got your friends. Go play video games with them or something...
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Even if you have friends, anxiety can get in the way of hanging with them!

I only have a few online friends.
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Same thing here. lonely, friendless, depressed, out of work, *sigh*
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Even if you have friends, anxiety can get in the way of hanging with them!
Agree!!! Just the other day I got invited to a friends house for dinner. I didn't go : ( I've also been invited to quite a few parties. I never go cos the thought of going makes me feel anxious. I always make up some lame excuse.

After getting rejected a number of times people stop asking me. After a while we drift apart. They probably think I'm stuck up or something
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After getting rejected a number of times people stop asking me. After a while we drift apart.
That's actually why i lose all my friends. Now i'm bored and lonely 24/7 and can't make new friends
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I do get bored at times, but my mind is kind of hyper-active and I usually find myself always occupied whether it be thinking about things, playing computer games, running on the treadmill I have, reading, watching TV or something else, I usually occupy myself quite well.

And, although I do enjoy the things I have stated above I am very lonely and I do yearn for a social life, but obviously like many on here I find it very difficult to achieve a satisfactory social life.
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I am feeling sooooo bored and lonely right now.

Hope you manage to make some friends and feel less lonely.

As for me, the one friend I have doesn't seem to give a monkeys.
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im dying of boredom and loneliness as well!
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I'm often lonely, but never bored. Sometimes I just don't know what to do sometimes because my mind is racing so fast.
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It's a catch-22.

Bored and lonely, so you need people in your life. But people and socializing are anxiety-inducing, so you'd rather be alone. Rinse and repeat.

Everyone suffers...
Give the other person the benefit of the doubt...
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i rather have ppl in my life who are caring and sensitive and are comfortable to be around-- REAL ppl.
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i rather have ppl in my life who are caring and sensitive and are comfortable to be around-- REAL ppl.
We totally could have had the NYC meetup this weekend! But nobody responded lol.

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I am so bored and lonely. How I want a few friends and a girl so badly.
This way of living is killing me. I'm losing my mind. That's what happens when you're lonely. You go insane. I'm not that mentally strong. I dont know how others here seem perfectly normal. Or they just don't have any mental issues.
I get such a horrible headache when I'm bored. No solitary activity can alleviate it. Im dying for some stimulation in the company of friends.
This pamphlet Ive got in front of me about anxiety support, states:
'friendship is the key to mental health.' Thats really true.
I feel the same way and I am starting to lose hope really. No one wants to be around me because I need to be totally wasted to hang out with people and that just turns people off.
I'm so BORED all the time and I'm losing hope. I'm just not meant to have any social life. ever again.
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Hey I'm similar to you. I'm always bored and lonely.
I do have friends though.... many to be honest. But I'm always anxious and never hang out with them enough. Then I feel guilty for not doing things with them...
I seriously need a good hobby that gets me out of my house.

and i actually try to justify my behaviour by making up reasons, though i know i should do this
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I wouldn't say I'm "bored", as there's always plenty to do online, but I'm certainly lonely, and almost aching to do other things, like go outside with friends.
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I am so bored and lonely. How I want a few friends and a girl so badly.
This way of living is killing me. I'm losing my mind. That's what happens when you're lonely. You go insane. I'm not that mentally strong. I dont know how others here seem perfectly normal. Or they just don't have any mental issues.
I get such a horrible headache when I'm bored. No solitary activity can alleviate it. Im dying for some stimulation in the company of friends.
This pamphlet Ive got in front of me about anxiety support, states:
'friendship is the key to mental health.' Thats really true.
Yeah- you're not alone here- I am going through the same **** and will be probably for the rest of my life. Some people win life's lottery, some people lose it. Nothing we can do but do the best we can and hope to get through it all somehow some way.

This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time.
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i rather have ppl in my life who are caring and sensitive and are comfortable to be around-- REAL ppl.
Yeah...really. That would be awesome.

This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time.
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All I can say is if you're looking for a girl to provide you with happiness, you're looking in the wrong place. A relationship won't make you happy until you are happy with yourself. If you did get a girl at the present moment, the only form of pleasure you'll get is the feeling of acceptance and well... a few other things. When its over you'll feel twice as empty as you do now.

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