If one more person calls me quiet...

[cupcake88]

Each time I talk to someone new I try everything in my power to appear to be outgoing. I usually start to feel super confident and then someone drops the "why are you so quiet?" line. ughhhhhhh it makes me feel like i haven't made any progress at all

[Estelle]

man, some people ask me if i TALK. What do they expect you to answer? But some people just ask that because they don't know what to say to you but they just want to talk. I met some of my friends after they asked me if I talked because the were trying to make conversation at first but I was to shy.

[millenniumman75]

Part of this is that we have to learn not to take this so hard. I know it seems bad, but in a way, they aren't trying to be mean. They are trying to put words to their thoughts - this disorder is so nonverbal that question marks are all over the place.

[xyzhousexyz]

Originally Posted by millenniumman75

Part of this is that we have to learn not to take this so hard. I know it seems bad, but in a way, they aren't trying to be mean. They are trying to put words to their thoughts - this disorder is so nonverbal that question marks are all over the place.

ya, most that ask this isn't being mean. They want to talk and talk to you, and if you explain to them that you are shy when first meeting people, they will be cool with it. And you cans tart talking from there.

It's easy to feel as if someone is judging you, but a lot of ppl are quite nice and sweet. On the surface anyway.

[Sierra83]

That "Why are you so quiet?" line could also mean they're insecure and/or uncomfortable with silence.

[Miss Apprehensive]

I hate it when people make comments like that and they never seem to understand why people like you and me find it insulting. Even though some of the people that ask those questions are just curious, they should word their comments differently so they don't end up sounding rude and we should try to find out if they actually are rude or just want to talk. I over-react when someone says I'm quiet, I usually start disliking them immediately, at least temporarily.

[sociallyconscious]

Originally Posted by Estelle

man, some people ask me if i TALK. What do they expect you to answer? But some people just ask that because they don't know what to say to you but they just want to talk. I met some of my friends after they asked me if I talked because the were trying to make conversation at first but I was to shy.

i hate that!
i think there's a huge difference between asking the question "why are you so quiet?" and asking the question "don't you talk?"
i remember when someone asked me that in middle school and it scarred me ever since. when people ask me why i'm so quiet it only shows that they're trying to talk to me more or trying to get to know me better. however, when people ask me why i don't talk it makes me feel like their saying it with the intent to humiliate me.

[Zeddicus]

"Why don't you talk?"

"I have a lung condition."

[sociallyconscious]

Originally Posted by Zeddicus

"Why don't you talk?"

"I have a lung condition."

Hahaha!
that's some good advice
i'm gonna use that one the next time i'm faced with the same question.

[lars]

Originally Posted by cupcake88

Each time I talk to someone new I try everything in my power to appear to be outgoing. I usually start to feel super confident and then someone drops the "why are you so quiet?" line. ughhhhhhh it makes me feel like i haven't made any progress at all

honestly just walk away... they are just trying to **** with you because they are insecure and can't believe how charismatic you really are inside..

when someone says that, just stop, look in a different direction and walk away without saying anything.

[dunky]

Ugh I hate this. I honestly only talk when I have something to say/contribute to the conversation. If I don't say anything, I obviously don't have anything to say.

[Forest]

Originally Posted by cupcake88

Each time I talk to someone new I try everything in my power to appear to be outgoing. I usually start to feel super confident and then someone drops the "why are you so quiet?" line. ughhhhhhh it makes me feel like i haven't made any progress at all

I feel the same. A lot of people say that to me, and it doesn't really make things better

[katnip43]

Originally Posted by millenniumman75

Part of this is that we have to learn not to take this so hard. I know it seems bad, but in a way, they aren't trying to be mean. They are trying to put words to their thoughts - this disorder is so nonverbal that question marks are all over the place.

Ya know, I've kind of accepted this as of now. Before it used to bother me, but what the heck, so I'm an "introvert". I've also accepted to some point that there is nothing bad about being an "introvert". Lot's of painters, authors, and aristic people are. I do have my moments though where I just want to run far, far, away from these people that are always seeming ask why I'm "so quiet"...I dunno know..just my two cents at 4am in the morning (chronic insmonia)

[Anxiety Slip]

I often get told "you're quiet" or the worst one was this girl at work that said "you don't like to talk do u" she said it like i was offending her with my silence. my immediate thought was "if u could hear my thoughts, you'd think i was the loudest person in the world" but as usual i tried the humor approach and said "i'm just trying my best not to be distracted by you" (said in a flirty playful type of way)..
but yea deep down it reali gets to me