Social Anxiety Support

Sunshine009 · 11-06-2009, 07:25 PM

I think this has to stop. I don't have kids. But it makes me angry. I went through it and so did many others. It destroys the spirit emotion and the will to take action. I bet with enough work, we could see it happen someday. After all many other groups have seen their day. It should be uncool to bully people.

nothing to fear · 11-06-2009, 07:42 PM

there were quite a few lectures on bullying when i was in school. the earliest i remember is grades 1-3 then the last, my final year of high school.

ecotec83 · 11-06-2009, 08:31 PM

I agree bullying needs to stop. It is one of the factors that caused my SA to happen in the first place. When i was in school they would give the guy detention, lectures and send him to the office but he was always right back to harass me again, this went on for 8 years. The teachers were so powerless they could not do anything at all to stop it. I suspect now with some toughening of bullying laws more is being done in some cases and some schools have 0 tolerance to it.

rincewind · 11-06-2009, 09:00 PM

I don't understand how this would help. You can have all the lectures you want, it won't change the fact that a certain percentage of kids are always going to be bullies, human nature being what it is. If they're *******s already, lecturing them isn't going to change that. They'll just ignore it and carry on doing what they always do, making life a misery for everyone else.

anonymid · 11-06-2009, 09:16 PM

I'm sure they'd be about as effective as the anti-drug/drinking campaigns are.

I understand the frustration, though.

april showers · 11-06-2009, 09:21 PM

I think teachers and school authorities is general should step up more against bullying. The big problem I see is that when people think of bullying they think of a kid beating another up. Most bullying isn't like that. Alot of times it's more verbal than anything. Which has the same damaging effect.
Alot of teachers see this, but few actually do anything about it, either cause they can't tell, or their one of those people who think people who are bullied should "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" and "get over it".I think that's the big reason why bullying is tolerated. Probably making the bully see a psychiatrist might help too. There are so many cases where kids are bullied constantly, report the bullying, school ignores it and does nothing about it, and then the kid ends up killing his/her own self. It's really depressing.

hopena · 11-06-2009, 09:27 PM

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blueblizzard · 11-06-2009, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by rincewind

I don't understand how this would help. You can have all the lectures you want, it won't change the fact that a certain percentage of kids are always going to be bullies, human nature being what it is. If they're *******s already, lecturing them isn't going to change that. They'll just ignore it and carry on doing what they always do, making life a misery for everyone else.

This is unfortunately true.

A lot more people run with a social-darwinist take on life. The "weak" get stepped on and kicked in the teeth. Sucks.

anomalous · 11-06-2009, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by rincewind

I don't understand how this would help. You can have all the lectures you want, it won't change the fact that a certain percentage of kids are always going to be bullies, human nature being what it is. If they're *******s already, lecturing them isn't going to change that. They'll just ignore it and carry on doing what they always do, making life a misery for everyone else.

This.

If anything, anti-bullying lectures usually are usually made a mockery of by the bullies and end up inadvertently adding fuel to the fire.

I was bullied from time to time growing up, but I don't believe there's much any of my teachers or school administrators should have done differently. Human nature. Some of us aren't on the winning side.

KyleThomas · 11-06-2009, 11:30 PM

Bullying is a part of human nature. Well, actually not just humans - it probably happens in all species. Those who are strong in some aspect will dominate those who are weaker. Lectures aren't going to stop it.

Amocholes · 11-07-2009, 02:16 AM

It wouldn't work. It would only teach the bullies how to get around the things that might get them in trouble.

odd_one_out · 11-07-2009, 04:00 AM

Perhaps only for the teachers to watch and become educated.

Dempsey · 11-07-2009, 04:16 AM

Abolish school. Not a popular idea I know.

11-06-2009, 07:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,644	I want there to be anti-bullying lectures in schools I think this has to stop. I don't have kids. But it makes me angry. I went through it and so did many others. It destroys the spirit emotion and the will to take action. I bet with enough work, we could see it happen someday. After all many other groups have seen their day. It should be uncool to bully people. __________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-06-2009, 07:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
nothing to fear Status: silence is sexy Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 4,842	there were quite a few lectures on bullying when i was in school. the earliest i remember is grades 1-3 then the last, my final year of high school. __________________ everything was beautiful, and nothing hurt. ~ i really like music. and photography, though i'm nothing special.

11-06-2009, 08:31 PM	#3 (permalink)
ecotec83 Status: Ascending from the dark Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Belleville, Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 368	I agree bullying needs to stop. It is one of the factors that caused my SA to happen in the first place. When i was in school they would give the guy detention, lectures and send him to the office but he was always right back to harass me again, this went on for 8 years. The teachers were so powerless they could not do anything at all to stop it. I suspect now with some toughening of bullying laws more is being done in some cases and some schools have 0 tolerance to it. __________________ ~Our greatest battles are those with our own mind.~

11-06-2009, 09:00 PM	#4 (permalink)
rincewind Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Scotland, UK Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 291	I don't understand how this would help. You can have all the lectures you want, it won't change the fact that a certain percentage of kids are always going to be bullies, human nature being what it is. If they're *******s already, lecturing them isn't going to change that. They'll just ignore it and carry on doing what they always do, making life a misery for everyone else. __________________ Per Ardua Ad Astra

11-06-2009, 09:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
anonymid Status: gulping for shape Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Chicagoland Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,077	I'm sure they'd be about as effective as the anti-drug/drinking campaigns are. I understand the frustration, though. __________________ "He who has not the courage to suffer either death or life, who will neither resist nor flee, what can we do with him?" - Montaigne

11-06-2009, 09:21 PM	#6 (permalink)
april showers Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 69	I think teachers and school authorities is general should step up more against bullying. The big problem I see is that when people think of bullying they think of a kid beating another up. Most bullying isn't like that. Alot of times it's more verbal than anything. Which has the same damaging effect. Alot of teachers see this, but few actually do anything about it, either cause they can't tell, or their one of those people who think people who are bullied should "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" and "get over it".I think that's the big reason why bullying is tolerated. Probably making the bully see a psychiatrist might help too. There are so many cases where kids are bullied constantly, report the bullying, school ignores it and does nothing about it, and then the kid ends up killing his/her own self. It's really depressing.

11-06-2009, 09:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
hopena Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 199	.

11-06-2009, 11:30 PM	#10 (permalink)
KyleThomas Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Posts: 448	Bullying is a part of human nature. Well, actually not just humans - it probably happens in all species. Those who are strong in some aspect will dominate those who are weaker. Lectures aren't going to stop it. __________________ A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men.

11-07-2009, 02:16 AM	#11 (permalink)
Amocholes Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Hello my freaky darlings! Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 12,599	It wouldn't work. It would only teach the bullies how to get around the things that might get them in trouble. __________________ In the kingdom of the blind, the one legged man is king.

11-07-2009, 04:00 AM	#12 (permalink)
odd_one_out Status: Active-but-odd Join Date: Aug 2006 Age: 32 Posts: 1,215	Perhaps only for the teachers to watch and become educated.

11-07-2009, 04:16 AM	#13 (permalink)
Dempsey Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Sydney Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 637	Abolish school. Not a popular idea I know.