I Never Learn

[lonelyalways]

Whenever there is a situation where people are making decisions about when and where to meet, I am always an idiot and make the mistake of telling people when I am not available. The result is ALWAYS the same. The second I say something like, "I am free everyday except Tuesday at 5," everyone else involved is suddenly only free at that time. I am so stupid. I think I will let them know my schedule so I can participate, but they only want to know my schedule to exclude me. Why are people so mean?

[DeniseAfterAll]

**** them. What you should be learning is how to pan for golden friends

[lonelyalways]

Originally Posted by DeniseAfterAll

**** them. What you should be learning is how to pan for golden friends

You are right. I just have no luck with that. Everywhere I look people are selfish and mean. I would never treat people the way they treat me.

[AngelClare]

Are you sure it's not just a coincidence? Why would everyone want to exclude you? Are you loud and obnoxious? I doubt they would want to avoid you if you are merely shy and quiet.

[lonelyalways]

Originally Posted by AngelClare

Are you sure it's not just a coincidence? Why would everyone want to exclude you? Are you loud and obnoxious? I doubt they would want to avoid you if you are merely shy and quiet.

It happens too often to be a coincidence. I am not loud. I don't know why these people are the way they are.

[fire mage64]

Originally Posted by lonelyalways

It happens too often to be a coincidence. I am not loud. I don't know why these people are the way they are.

They don't seem like good friends to me... Have you tried searching for new ones?

[lonelyalways]

Originally Posted by fire mage64

They don't seem like good friends to me... Have you tried searching for new ones?

Yes, they are definitely not good friends. They are just people I know. Maybe they are nice to people they consider friends but not to me. I always try to be kind to people I meet and am always open to friendship. I just have not found it yet.

[fire mage64]

Originally Posted by lonelyalways

Yes, they are definitely not good friends. They are just people I know. Maybe they are nice to people they consider friends but not to me. I always try to be kind to people I meet and am always open to friendship. I just have not found it yet.

Its good that you are open to friendship. Giving up would only cause more problems. I hope you find someone - I'm looking as well

[lonelyalways]

Originally Posted by fire mage64

Its good that you are open to friendship. Giving up would only cause more problems. I hope you find someone - I'm looking as well

Thanks! I wish you the best. I try to keep up the faith that I will find true friendship. I hope you do, too.

[TrcyMcgrdy1]

You should try and make yourself stand out a little more. I doubt they hate you because you are shy and quiet. Maybe they just don't see anything quirky and unique about you. I bet you have a ton of interesting hobbies and opinions locked deep within you trying to escape the lockbox they call SA! Try and be a little more outgoing and opinionated. Soemtimes people don't want to hear someone who ONLY agrees with them. Say something controverial but not offensive. Spark a debate. Make people remember you as the a person who had something interesting and out there to say! Even if ti doesn't work with these aquaintances you mentioned, it will help int he long run.

[lonelyalways]

Originally Posted by TrcyMcgrdy1

You should try and make yourself stand out a little more. I doubt they hate you because you are shy and quiet. Maybe they just don't see anything quirky and unique about you. I bet you have a ton of interesting hobbies and opinions locked deep within you trying to escape the lockbox they call SA! Try and be a little more outgoing and opinionated. Soemtimes people don't want to hear someone who ONLY agrees with them. Say something controverial but not offensive. Spark a debate. Make people remember you as the a person who had something interesting and out there to say! Even if ti doesn't work with these aquaintances you mentioned, it will help int he long run.

If nothing else it would probably make me feel better, I guess. In the past when I have spoken my mind, I was ignored or verbally attacked. It always feels like only certain people in this group have the right to an opinion.