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Old 03-29-2009, 09:39 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Default I need to stop being so distant with people

I wasted the past 9 years with no strong relationships to speak of.
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Old 03-29-2009, 09:50 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Yeah, it's your comfort zone to keep people at a distance. I hope your plan works out.
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Old 03-30-2009, 04:34 AM   #3 (permalink)
 
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You would really benefit by learning about "being in the moment". There is no better tome on this than Eckhart Tolle, THE POWER OF NOW, or, A NEW EARTH. They changed my life.
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I do this... I like to keep everyone away from me :/
Both physically and emotionally, I suppose.
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It's possible to remain emotionally distant even when you do have someone. I am so closed off from everyone, the least so with my bf but he doesn't understand that it's very hard to be more open than I already am with him. I tell him that he knows more about me than anyone else, but he doesn't believe it. It tears the other person up, which tears me up more, which makes this distance so painful...
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this is true of myself as well. I only go out with people i feel comfortable with and usually stay locked in my house outside from the real world. Gone are those days when i loved to go out to enjoy the fresh air to do absolutely anything. Now i get paranoid about seeing neighbours or people from my past
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This is why I have no life outside of my house, and school of course. I never feel comfortable around anyone and therefore no one wants to even talk to me because they think I'm a freak. Even when people do make an effort I shut them out and turn them off because I feel that I need that distance and I'm not ok enough with myself as a person to actually show my true self to another person. The thought of that terrifies me and makes me feel like the other person will reject me just like I've been rejected by everyone else who tired to be friends with me.
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This is why I have no life outside of my house, and school of course. I never feel comfortable around anyone and therefore no one wants to even talk to me because they think I'm a freak. Even when people do make an effort I shut them out and turn them off because I feel that I need that distance and I'm not ok enough with myself as a person to actually show my true self to another person. The thought of that terrifies me and makes me feel like the other person will reject me just like I've been rejected by everyone else who tired to be friends with me.
I'm in the same situation
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