Social Anxiety Support

NicoShy · 11-06-2009, 09:20 PM

AARggggh!!!!!!! Its so frustrating having no women friends or friends to share things with. Having a significant other is NOT enough, I am lonely, he can't be everything to me. Ugggggggggggggg

2Talkative · 11-06-2009, 09:38 PM

Ahh crap..... your telling me I not only have to find a girl I also have to make friends....

Honestly a lot of us have only ourselves.

NicoShy · 11-07-2009, 11:49 AM

When I only had myself I constantly felt like checking out. And most people I see have a close friends, hubby, kids, family.I am always odd one out

Prakas · 11-07-2009, 12:38 PM

The closest thing to a friend I have are my friends on here, so don't feel singled out.

Stu · 11-07-2009, 03:48 PM

A friend is just a person who hasn't screwed you over yet...

ninjagirl · 11-07-2009, 03:55 PM

NicoShy,
I totally know what you mean. My husband it great and very supportive of me, but sometimes I wish I had girlfriends to hang out with.

Ninjagirl

NicoShy · 11-07-2009, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ninjagirl

NicoShy,
I totally know what you mean. My husband it great and very supportive of me, but sometimes I wish I had girlfriends to hang out with.

Ninjagirl

Yeah. I see him most of the day and I need other perspectives. Sigh...

Pialicious88 · 11-08-2009, 06:15 AM

i don't have any friends, you'll survive

NicoShy · 11-08-2009, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Pialicious88

i don't have any friends, you'll survive

How do you cope?

Kush · 11-08-2009, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Stu

A friend is just a person who hasn't screwed you over yet...

true statement, which is y i find it hard 2 trust ne1

Nuthatch · 11-08-2009, 04:43 PM

I know how frustrating and lonely it can get not having any friends. Through high school and college I barely had anyone to talk. A few years ago I did make a few, but we don't hang out anymore. I did, however, just manage to find a group of people that I'm starting to feel comfortable being around (which says a lot given my SA) and so I'm hoping to find someone I click with. It's hard on me though because I haven't socialized in so long, but I guess I have to start somewhere.

Hmmm, I see you're from MD. Could I be your friend?

Silly me to ask just like that, but I figure it worth a shot.

Besides, I'd love to get to know someone from SAS.

NicoShy · 11-08-2009, 04:54 PM

I need friends but have no social skills to cultivate it. So nice of you to open your friendship to me, are you really sociallly anxious,lol.

Nuthatch · 11-08-2009, 05:58 PM

I don't have the best social skills, but they're certainly a lot better than what they used to be. I guess I've been very fortunate to have had a few very kind people to 'practice' with in the past, even if those people have drifted away since. So I have improved a lot. I can still be very quiet sometimes, but I'm finding I'm okay with it as I'm learning to accept myself however I may be. Focusing on the self-acceptance really helps me to move through any anxiety I may have, and so I feel I'm gradually getting to a better place.

I think a lot about making and keeping friends is learning to be comfortable in your own skin, even though there may be a lot of silence and awkwardness in the relationship at first. I figure it is how it is; we've all got our limitations, and ours just happen to be social. The people who really matter will see beyond that and they'll stay with you however you may be. Those who don't, well yeah, their rejection can be painful, but you probably wouldn't want a relationship with them anyway.

So yeah, I’m definitely always on the look-out for new friends, especially from SAS. PM me if you’re interested. I'd love to hear from you.

merryk · 11-08-2009, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by NicoShy

AARggggh!!!!!!! Its so frustrating having no women friends or friends to share things with. Having a significant other is NOT enough, I am lonely, he can't be everything to me. Ugggggggggggggg

I can relate--except for having a SO, been single for over a year and am feeling a bit friendless here in the boondocks. I have few acquaintances, most are much older and of different circumstances than I, like being married and/or with (grand)children.

I greatly miss having girlfriends and guy friends like I had in the past, with common interests and a penchant for fun and openness.

It doesn't appear there are people here who live relatively close by who are up for getting together socially at this time

(which is understandable given the site!).

11-06-2009, 09:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
NicoShy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: MD, USA Gender: Female Posts: 150	I Need REAL Friends AARggggh!!!!!!! Its so frustrating having no women friends or friends to share things with. Having a significant other is NOT enough, I am lonely, he can't be everything to me. Ugggggggggggggg

11-06-2009, 09:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
2Talkative Status: MIA Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Vancouver BC Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 509	Ahh crap..... your telling me I not only have to find a girl I also have to make friends.... Honestly a lot of us have only ourselves. __________________ "I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds." - Henry Rollins

11-07-2009, 12:38 PM	#4 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	The closest thing to a friend I have are my friends on here, so don't feel singled out. __________________ If life is so hard, then death must be easy. Creed-Six Feet From the Edge I'm six feet from the edge and I'm thinking... Maybe six feet ain't so far down...

11-08-2009, 06:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
Pialicious88 Status: OH MY GAH Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: a ****hole Gender: Female Posts: 232	i don't have any friends, you'll survive __________________ Music is my shield I feel trapped inside my own brain, maybe i'm already insane

11-07-2009, 11:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
NicoShy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: MD, USA Gender: Female Posts: 150	When I only had myself I constantly felt like checking out. And most people I see have a close friends, hubby, kids, family.I am always odd one out

11-07-2009, 03:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
Stu Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Hemisphere Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 36	A friend is just a person who hasn't screwed you over yet...

11-07-2009, 03:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
ninjagirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: michigan Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 24	NicoShy, I totally know what you mean. My husband it great and very supportive of me, but sometimes I wish I had girlfriends to hang out with. Ninjagirl

11-08-2009, 04:43 PM	#11 (permalink)
Nuthatch Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 76	I know how frustrating and lonely it can get not having any friends. Through high school and college I barely had anyone to talk. A few years ago I did make a few, but we don't hang out anymore. I did, however, just manage to find a group of people that I'm starting to feel comfortable being around (which says a lot given my SA) and so I'm hoping to find someone I click with. It's hard on me though because I haven't socialized in so long, but I guess I have to start somewhere. Hmmm, I see you're from MD. Could I be your friend? Silly me to ask just like that, but I figure it worth a shot. Besides, I'd love to get to know someone from SAS.

11-08-2009, 04:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
NicoShy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: MD, USA Gender: Female Posts: 150	I need friends but have no social skills to cultivate it. So nice of you to open your friendship to me, are you really sociallly anxious,lol.

11-08-2009, 05:58 PM	#13 (permalink)
Nuthatch Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 76	I don't have the best social skills, but they're certainly a lot better than what they used to be. I guess I've been very fortunate to have had a few very kind people to 'practice' with in the past, even if those people have drifted away since. So I have improved a lot. I can still be very quiet sometimes, but I'm finding I'm okay with it as I'm learning to accept myself however I may be. Focusing on the self-acceptance really helps me to move through any anxiety I may have, and so I feel I'm gradually getting to a better place. I think a lot about making and keeping friends is learning to be comfortable in your own skin, even though there may be a lot of silence and awkwardness in the relationship at first. I figure it is how it is; we've all got our limitations, and ours just happen to be social. The people who really matter will see beyond that and they'll stay with you however you may be. Those who don't, well yeah, their rejection can be painful, but you probably wouldn't want a relationship with them anyway. So yeah, I’m definitely always on the look-out for new friends, especially from SAS. PM me if you’re interested. I'd love to hear from you.