Social Anxiety Support

Shadowsgirl · 11-21-2009, 05:28 PM

I was watching TV late at night when I decided to watch a documentary about guns. Here is what two girls had to say about the accused:

"They never really talked much to anyone, they seemed to like being alone, they had good grades in school, a loving family. I think they got so frustrated with being alone one day and they realized what they were missing in life."

I think this would annoy many of us here. Just because many of us are quiet, doesen't mean we have anger issues. People who bring guns to school are nut jobs, not all quiet people are nut jobs and should NOT be labeled as one.

ruinMYlife · 11-21-2009, 05:34 PM

I know its so annoying, i especially hate it when im in class and we're watching a video or something and it says something negative about anti-social people, then im thinking "everyone must be thinking of me right now" F!!!!!!!!!

Shadowsgirl · 11-21-2009, 05:42 PM

I know what you mean. I just felt a really strong need to vent about this subject since I'd feel weird to talk about it with my parents or friends.

conjectural · 11-22-2009, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by ruinMYlife

I know its so annoying, i especially hate it when im in class and we're watching a video or something and it says something negative about anti-social people, then im thinking "everyone must be thinking of me right now" F!!!!!!!!!

Haha, exactly! I'm studying psychology right now and recently we were learning about atypical behaviour. My lecturer kept talking about sociopaths and people who have serious psychological disorders, and he was mentioning how quiet and withdrawn they usually are in social situations. And I felt so embarrassed like everyone in the room was thinking of me. I was thinking of me, so they must have been.

Braxietel · 11-22-2009, 03:30 AM

People in school have said of me, and to me, that I would bring a gun to school and go on a rampage- "I swear he's like going to get a gun and kill everyone", "Hey, are you going to go on a shooting spree Julian?"- why? Because I'm quiet, not violent or dangerous, just quiet.

gaz · 11-22-2009, 04:09 AM

The kids who have done them shooting spree's are seriously mentally disturbed...Not all quiet people are mentally disturbed.

Rixy · 11-22-2009, 04:26 AM

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Originally Posted by gaz

The kids who have done them shooting spree's are seriously mentally disturbed...Not all quiet people are mentally disturbed.

This.

Also, I've thought about going completely crazy in school before. Not killing anybody, just breaking windows and throwing chairs and stuff.

PickleNose · 11-22-2009, 04:29 AM

There's some kind of weird effort to demonize individuality. Especially lately with all the paranoia about shootings and terrorism and so forth.

zomgz · 11-22-2009, 05:51 AM

yeahh they do the same thing with video games.. imho i think they just need something to blame to help them feel better >_>

i like my own company (& music haha), i walk around with my headphones on 24/7 it's kinda funny xD soon as i'm done with class the headphones go back on =D it's kinda nice for SA too, cause then people see that your listening to something and they don't really bother you (: not that i don't mind being bothered but it's scary at the same time, such is the way with SA lol xD

i'm hardly violent though haha i hate killing bugs and i feel bad for them =(

jonesy0039 · 11-22-2009, 06:21 AM

ive been told to my face that i am the "quiet psycho masscre type, but a nice guy regardless" by a guy i work with

lol.. it made me feel really depressed at the time but now me and him just joke about it because hes gotten to know me better and we are good mates now

secretlyshecries · 11-22-2009, 08:15 AM

What?? That is crazy. Imagine something like that being said about a loud person.

God I hate the attitude people have towards those who are quiet. There is a difference between normal, quiet types and those who are quiet because they're extremely disturbed.

rgambord · 11-22-2009, 08:29 AM

I think people just are naturally unsure about quiet people. I think people equate keeping to oneself to having something to hide. You know?

Jenikyula gone mad · 11-22-2009, 09:21 AM

Eeek, I totally agree. My extreme quiet and loner tendencies in high school weren't commented upon, but I'm pretty sure many of my teachers felt uneasy about me. I think one of them followed me to my locker one day to make sure I wasn't hiding weapons in there. o.o;;

BlueBamboo · 11-22-2009, 09:34 AM

I spent my entire time in high school waiting for someone to make some type of "she's the type that'll show up and shoot us all one day" comment. No one ever did. Or at least, not when I was present...

neurotic1 · 11-22-2009, 09:42 AM

People are paranoid because of the media now a days. In their mind, being quiet can only mean someone that is a time bomb waiting to go off, or serial killer, it would never mean anything positive unless they get to know you or know someone like you, quietness is prejudiced. Being unhappy is also the same, God forbid that you should feel miserable and not feel like talking to people, then your likely to be angry and want to kill everyone.

Jayne311 · 11-22-2009, 11:17 AM

Some people once said something like this to me in high school. We were in art class, and I was just sitting there working on a project, and across the table this girl remarked about how quiet I was. I ignored her because I had heard that kind of thing all the time, and was simply tired of responding and getting them talking about it more. Then she and her friends started saying how I was probably the type of person who would bring a gun to school and shoot everyone. I tried not to look at them, but I saw that they were looking at me and smiling in this awful way as they were talking.

I wouldn't ever want to do something like shoot someone, but at that moment I was so angry I spent the rest of that class thinking about going behind the girl who started it all and pulling the sh** out of her hair, or just anything to get back at her. I didn't do anything though, just sat there and continued working until they forgot I was sitting there and moved on to talking about something else.

Blanks · 11-22-2009, 03:59 PM

YA! I HATE THAT **** TOO! I mean it just make me want to, just/....AAHHh it makes me wann go to school and shoot everyone. Nah im jokin. But ya, I geuss since they dont know us they make up our personality. BUT ITS ALL IN THERE HEADS! so I think there the crazy ones. not me.

kev · 11-22-2009, 04:21 PM

There is a slight correlation between severe mental illness (untreated schizophrenia, bipolar, and depression for example) and violence, but the emphasis should be on helping the mentally ill rather than sensationalizing the few mentally ill people that do commit crimes.

SA by itself is certainly not an indicator of future violence.

VIncymon · 11-22-2009, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by PickleNose

There's some kind of weird effort to demonize individuality. Especially lately with all the paranoia about shootings and terrorism and so forth.

THIS.

Oh yes, because, if you are not a hourly twitter, with a youtube, myspace, & facebook, always talking, drunk, high and at every party.... then you must be a serial killer

Zombie Sheep · 11-22-2009, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by VIncymon

THIS.

Oh yes, because, if you are not a hourly twitter, with a youtube, myspace, & facebook, always talking, drunk, high and at every party.... then you must be a serial killer

Or a kiddy fiddler lol... I actually heard my old neighbour say that about me.

29? Lives alone? Never brings women home with him? Yeah, nonce, bush-dodger etc. no question about it. GRRR! They moved out not soon after I moved in, yeah nobody likes living next door to a 'deviant', which is what I obviously am if I'm quiet and don't get out much and I'm single/never-married at 29. And yeah, I had half a mind to go round there and cripple the fat ugly c***, I mean wtf, but fact is I didn't.

11-21-2009, 05:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shadowsgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 360	I hate it when people say that loners or quiet people will bring guns to school I was watching TV late at night when I decided to watch a documentary about guns. Here is what two girls had to say about the accused: "They never really talked much to anyone, they seemed to like being alone, they had good grades in school, a loving family. I think they got so frustrated with being alone one day and they realized what they were missing in life." I think this would annoy many of us here. Just because many of us are quiet, doesen't mean we have anger issues. People who bring guns to school are nut jobs, not all quiet people are nut jobs and should NOT be labeled as one.

11-22-2009, 03:30 AM	#5 (permalink)
Braxietel Status: Hiding behind the sofa Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 255	People in school have said of me, and to me, that I would bring a gun to school and go on a rampage- "I swear he's like going to get a gun and kill everyone", "Hey, are you going to go on a shooting spree Julian?"- why? Because I'm quiet, not violent or dangerous, just quiet. __________________ Twitter \| Facebook \| VideoBlog

11-22-2009, 05:51 AM	#9 (permalink)
zomgz Status: Gentle Impulsion Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 3,261	yeahh they do the same thing with video games.. imho i think they just need something to blame to help them feel better >_> i like my own company (& music haha), i walk around with my headphones on 24/7 it's kinda funny xD soon as i'm done with class the headphones go back on =D it's kinda nice for SA too, cause then people see that your listening to something and they don't really bother you (: not that i don't mind being bothered but it's scary at the same time, such is the way with SA lol xD i'm hardly violent though haha i hate killing bugs and i feel bad for them =( __________________ Feeling down? Need someone to talk to? Send me a PM! “Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” - Cloud Atlas

11-22-2009, 09:34 AM	#14 (permalink)
BlueBamboo Status: SAS Nonmember Join Date: May 2007 Location: Philadelphia metro area Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 138	I spent my entire time in high school waiting for someone to make some type of "she's the type that'll show up and shoot us all one day" comment. No one ever did. Or at least, not when I was present... __________________ “People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them.” —Epictetus

11-22-2009, 09:42 AM	#15 (permalink)
neurotic1 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 728	People are paranoid because of the media now a days. In their mind, being quiet can only mean someone that is a time bomb waiting to go off, or serial killer, it would never mean anything positive unless they get to know you or know someone like you, quietness is prejudiced. Being unhappy is also the same, God forbid that you should feel miserable and not feel like talking to people, then your likely to be angry and want to kill everyone. __________________ Nz fzft bsf judiz!!!!

11-21-2009, 05:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
ruinMYlife Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 520	I know its so annoying, i especially hate it when im in class and we're watching a video or something and it says something negative about anti-social people, then im thinking "everyone must be thinking of me right now" F!!!!!!!!!

11-21-2009, 05:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
Shadowsgirl Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 360	I know what you mean. I just felt a really strong need to vent about this subject since I'd feel weird to talk about it with my parents or friends.

11-22-2009, 04:09 AM	#6 (permalink)
gaz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Wales, Uk Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 2,653	The kids who have done them shooting spree's are seriously mentally disturbed...Not all quiet people are mentally disturbed.

11-22-2009, 04:29 AM	#8 (permalink)
PickleNose Status: Not Fooled Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Male Age: 39 Posts: 11,233	There's some kind of weird effort to demonize individuality. Especially lately with all the paranoia about shootings and terrorism and so forth.

11-22-2009, 06:21 AM	#10 (permalink)
jonesy0039 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 282	ive been told to my face that i am the "quiet psycho masscre type, but a nice guy regardless" by a guy i work with lol.. it made me feel really depressed at the time but now me and him just joke about it because hes gotten to know me better and we are good mates now

11-22-2009, 08:15 AM	#11 (permalink)
secretlyshecries Status: In hiding Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,452	What?? That is crazy. Imagine something like that being said about a loud person. God I hate the attitude people have towards those who are quiet. There is a difference between normal, quiet types and those who are quiet because they're extremely disturbed.

11-22-2009, 08:29 AM	#12 (permalink)
rgambord Status: Hopelessly alone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 32	I think people just are naturally unsure about quiet people. I think people equate keeping to oneself to having something to hide. You know?

11-22-2009, 09:21 AM	#13 (permalink)
Jenikyula gone mad Status: black celebration Join Date: Nov 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 811	Eeek, I totally agree. My extreme quiet and loner tendencies in high school weren't commented upon, but I'm pretty sure many of my teachers felt uneasy about me. I think one of them followed me to my locker one day to make sure I wasn't hiding weapons in there. o.o;;

11-22-2009, 11:17 AM	#16 (permalink)
Jayne311 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 531	Some people once said something like this to me in high school. We were in art class, and I was just sitting there working on a project, and across the table this girl remarked about how quiet I was. I ignored her because I had heard that kind of thing all the time, and was simply tired of responding and getting them talking about it more. Then she and her friends started saying how I was probably the type of person who would bring a gun to school and shoot everyone. I tried not to look at them, but I saw that they were looking at me and smiling in this awful way as they were talking. I wouldn't ever want to do something like shoot someone, but at that moment I was so angry I spent the rest of that class thinking about going behind the girl who started it all and pulling the sh** out of her hair, or just anything to get back at her. I didn't do anything though, just sat there and continued working until they forgot I was sitting there and moved on to talking about something else.

11-22-2009, 03:59 PM	#17 (permalink)
Blanks Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Riverside, CA Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 3	YA! I HATE THAT **** TOO! I mean it just make me want to, just/....AAHHh it makes me wann go to school and shoot everyone. Nah im jokin. But ya, I geuss since they dont know us they make up our personality. BUT ITS ALL IN THERE HEADS! so I think there the crazy ones. not me.

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kev Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Age: 29 Posts: 2,193	There is a slight correlation between severe mental illness (untreated schizophrenia, bipolar, and depression for example) and violence, but the emphasis should be on helping the mentally ill rather than sensationalizing the few mentally ill people that do commit crimes. SA by itself is certainly not an indicator of future violence.