I feel like I am invisible :(

[Walflower85]

I've honestly been feeling this way for awhile now...but it didn't bother me as much many years ago as it does now..I am 27 now fyi. I'm always feeling left out and like an outcast (been that way all my life..never had many friends) and rarely anyone ever notices me or pays attention or even cares about me. I have a very hard time making friends (always have). I don't have many at all. At work I feel like no one likes me or wants to talk to me, not even the customers. Everyone else at work has friends and talks to people but me..I'm always alone..idk what it is about me? I know, I am very shy and socially awkward..and have trouble with conversation. I don't know, I feel like if I try to engage in it..people look at me like I have 10 heads..and people seem to dislike me for no reason at all and I begin to think it's me...or if I say something people think I'm weird or look at me like I'm weird..it's really hard. Another example is, this past weekend we had a big family reunion and as usual my brother got all the attention and compliments..I felt completely ignored the whole time...like I was simply invisable..my little cousins who use to love me now always ask me where's my brother..where is he...and they never bother to want to be around me anymore or play games with me..it's always my brother they look for it's hurtful...I try to be a nice person, but when I feel like this I feel sad and I distance myself...Another thing about me that I need to vent about is...I am constantly worrying about my looks..I don't know sometimes I think I am attractive and other times I think I'm really ugly...it's a toss up about what other people think of me too...I've gotten a lot of compliments that I should be a model bla bla bla and that I'm a very pretty girl and in my head I'm like "yeah ok" but of course very flattered and thank the person...and then other people don't think I'm that good looking at all..so I don't know what to think? I do care about what people think of me..and that's a huge flaw of mine..people always say don't worry about what others think of you, it has to be what YOU think of YOU..and honestly..I don't know..I know for a fact I'm def not one of the really really pretty girls...but, I think I can be decent looking and sometimes even pretty but not pretty pretty if you know what I mean..then other times I think I am just ugly no matter what and there's nothing I can do about it I think about it so much..it's like become an obsession to me and I want to just get over it and not care about it...but, I'm not sure how to go about it..I just want to not care about looks...and sometimes, whenever I hear someone really attractive getting compliments about how gorgeous they are it makes me feel bad and wish I could be that gorgeous..I feel gorgeous people are treated differently than average or ugly people....I just want to be happy with the way I look even though I may not be gorgeous..I just want to accept the way I am..and not care about what I look like and have CONFIDENCE. I don't want to be invisable anymore..and would like to have more friends in the future and not care so much and think about what others think..and have more people like and flock to me.

[tehuti88]

Ugh, it sucks to post something entitled "I feel like I am invisible" and nobody replies!

I'm sorry you're feeling so invisible...unfortunately it's a state I'm too familiar with, myself. When my brother and I were in school (he's five years older), I wasn't me, I was his little sister. "Oh, you're So-&-So's little sister!" "Could you tell So-&-So hi for me...?" It took him graduating and moving away before people even realized I was a person in my own right. Not that it mattered much, I was still largely invisible.

I even dreamed I turned invisible once. I was even overlooked on a forum called "We Are NOT Invisible"! You know it's bad when you're invisible to other invisible people.

The situation with your cousins sounds especially hurtful. I do wish I had advice for you, but all I have is empathy. It especially sucks since it sounds like you're really trying but it just doesn't work. Life is incredibly unfair, sometimes. I do hope this doesn't turn you off from trying, that something starts to change for the better at some point.

I hope you can find something of use around here. Welcome to the forum.

[lonelyalways]

All I can offer is empathy, as well. I am an invisible person too. I want to have social interactions, and I want to have friends.it just never works put for me. I am always left out of groups and on my own. Nobody ever invites me anywhere. When, I invite people to do things, they either say no, say yes and cancel or say yes and just don't show up.

I am sorry you feel this way. I hope it helps to know you are not alone.

[WherestheLight]

I feel invisible too. I don't seem to feel good around others or confident. Sometimes I do but alot of time I feel uncomfortable and feel that people so not like me . Sometimes I think they would want to hurt me purposely, my feelings or laugh at me for pleasure. In a way it may all be irrational but I feel it. It may stem from not feeling worthy at all and believing I am a social reject.